Home Schooling - What are the pros & cons? Your experience please.

Anonymous
I am new to the idea of homeschooling, and I would love to hear the pros and cons. Never thought I would be someone that would consider it, but I am. The most that I can think of is that you are constantly "on", 24-hours a day, all the time. What happens when you are sick? How do you socialize your child? How are kids received in social groups when you do extracurricular activities?

My husband and I are starting to have this discussion, and I would love to hear more. Really happy there is now a HS forum, even if it does move a bit slower.
Anonymous
I thought the same thing first starting out. If I have 3 kids x 6 instructional hours a day = how can I possibly do this? But it is so much more efficient than regular school. For us, we get the required (by mom -- math & English) work in in only a couple hours, then they spend the rest of the time playing (the work of children) especially outside, taking lessons/outside classes, reading, playing sports, and generally pursuing their interests. Some families are more structured than others.

I don't get sick that often, but when I do, they're pretty good at entertaining themselves. They are always working on some project or adventure, and they're usually happy to get some time to do that. And I also let them do some things on the computer such as Scratch Programming, and the do get a little bit of Minecraft or that Slither game or whatever is popular at the time.

My kids play sports, socialize through Homeschool classes & activities & groups, have activities through our religion, and generally living in the world. They seem more respectful of adults (I'm told) and enjoy their outside classes more, maybe because they're not forced to do lots of meaningless drudgery all day.

When the new sports season rolls around and they meet their new teams, the kids often go around and say what school they attend. When my kids say "Homeschool" they usually get a "Luck-Y" or two, but that's about it. There are tons of homeschoolers around when you start to look, so it's not that unusual.

The main con for me is that there's so much amazing stuff out there, it's hard to choose sometimes. Choices can be stressful, even fun choices. Basically you can make it as stressful as you want to. Some parents are happy as clams without a care in the world, and some seem completely harried, but generally it's wonderful and amazing and such a great opportunity. You can always try it for a while, and if it doesn't work, just go back to what you were doing before.



Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I thought the same thing first starting out. If I have 3 kids x 6 instructional hours a day = how can I possibly do this? But it is so much more efficient than regular school. For us, we get the required (by mom -- math & English) work in in only a couple hours, then they spend the rest of the time playing (the work of children) especially outside, taking lessons/outside classes, reading, playing sports, and generally pursuing their interests. Some families are more structured than others.

I don't get sick that often, but when I do, they're pretty good at entertaining themselves. They are always working on some project or adventure, and they're usually happy to get some time to do that. And I also let them do some things on the computer such as Scratch Programming, and the do get a little bit of Minecraft or that Slither game or whatever is popular at the time.

My kids play sports, socialize through Homeschool classes & activities & groups, have activities through our religion, and generally living in the world. They seem more respectful of adults (I'm told) and enjoy their outside classes more, maybe because they're not forced to do lots of meaningless drudgery all day.

When the new sports season rolls around and they meet their new teams, the kids often go around and say what school they attend. When my kids say "Homeschool" they usually get a "Luck-Y" or two, but that's about it. There are tons of homeschoolers around when you start to look, so it's not that unusual.

The main con for me is that there's so much amazing stuff out there, it's hard to choose sometimes. Choices can be stressful, even fun choices. Basically you can make it as stressful as you want to. Some parents are happy as clams without a care in the world, and some seem completely harried, but generally it's wonderful and amazing and such a great opportunity. You can always try it for a while, and if it doesn't work, just go back to what you were doing before.





For years I have been interested in homeschooling, but am reluctant because I don't personally know anyone who does it. Also, we are not a religious family and although I know there are secular homeschoolers, I'm worried that that there aren't enough to build much of a network. Do you find that there are a substantial number of secular families in the DC/NOVA homeschooling community?
Anonymous
Absolutely. We practice a religion but we are not evangelical young-Earth Christians (not that there's anything wrong with that) which is what many people think of when they think about homeschooling. Check out this link: http://vahomeschoolers.org/guide/local-groups/#NorthernVa

FYI VA Homeschoolers is the main secular VA organization and HEAV is the main VA Christian organization.

You will find tons and tons of secular homeschoolers, and you'll probably meet many different types of "religious" families at secular activities as well. It has been fascinating to get to know all sorts of different people with different beliefs, from Wiccans to Evangelicals to Muslims to None of the Above. But I would say that the trend right now is just people who are interested in providing their kids with a better education than they can get in brick & mortar schools.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I am new to the idea of homeschooling, and I would love to hear the pros and cons. Never thought I would be someone that would consider it, but I am. The most that I can think of is that you are constantly "on", 24-hours a day, all the time. What happens when you are sick? How do you socialize your child? How are kids received in social groups when you do extracurricular activities?

My husband and I are starting to have this discussion, and I would love to hear more. Really happy there is now a HS forum, even if it does move a bit slower.


One of the cons (and the reason I don't homeschool) can be your children may have difficulty with you as a teacher. My oldest had to deal with me constantly. Reminding him to say please, thankyou, close his mouth when he chewed, close the door without slamming it. All the normal kid stuff. He did not want me as his teacher, too. I would have loved to homeschool him, but I think it would have been detrimental to our relationship. That's a very personal con though, and many parent-child relationships thrive in a homeschooling situation.

You don't need to be on 24 hours a day. Homeschooling will take a couple of hours. You still have your regular life to lead. You can also institute quiet times. Quiet reading time, exploratory science time, calm walks, playground time, whatever you need to give you the mental space to relax. It's also not all on you. You can sign your kids up for classes (academic and athletic) to help break up the day.

Kids get socialized by living. Are you locking your child in a closet and refusing to speak to him? No? Then you're good. Your child socializes with you, with the people he interacts with on a daily basis. There are also play groups you could join. If you're religious, there's church. If you want, there are sports, music classes, and a bunch of other extra curricular activities. There are camps. There's going to the playground and running around with other kids. My children go to a regular school and have homeschooled kids in almost all of their activities. It's no big deal. There are kids from public schools, magnet schools, parochial schools, and private schools too. (My son doesn't think homeschooled kids are lucky because he thinks it would be a fate worse than death for me to teach him, but he would love the opportunity to sleep in a bit, or study more of what interests him and less of what the school requires, and so on.)

The homeschooled kids I know are great kids.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I thought the same thing first starting out. If I have 3 kids x 6 instructional hours a day = how can I possibly do this? But it is so much more efficient than regular school. For us, we get the required (by mom -- math & English) work in in only a couple hours, then they spend the rest of the time playing (the work of children) especially outside, taking lessons/outside classes, reading, playing sports, and generally pursuing their interests. Some families are more structured than others.

I don't get sick that often, but when I do, they're pretty good at entertaining themselves. They are always working on some project or adventure, and they're usually happy to get some time to do that. And I also let them do some things on the computer such as Scratch Programming, and the do get a little bit of Minecraft or that Slither game or whatever is popular at the time.

My kids play sports, socialize through Homeschool classes & activities & groups, have activities through our religion, and generally living in the world. They seem more respectful of adults (I'm told) and enjoy their outside classes more, maybe because they're not forced to do lots of meaningless drudgery all day.

When the new sports season rolls around and they meet their new teams, the kids often go around and say what school they attend. When my kids say "Homeschool" they usually get a "Luck-Y" or two, but that's about it. There are tons of homeschoolers around when you start to look, so it's not that unusual.

The main con for me is that there's so much amazing stuff out there, it's hard to choose sometimes. Choices can be stressful, even fun choices. Basically you can make it as stressful as you want to. Some parents are happy as clams without a care in the world, and some seem completely harried, but generally it's wonderful and amazing and such a great opportunity. You can always try it for a while, and if it doesn't work, just go back to what you were doing before.





For years I have been interested in homeschooling, but am reluctant because I don't personally know anyone who does it. Also, we are not a religious family and although I know there are secular homeschoolers, I'm worried that that there aren't enough to build much of a network. Do you find that there are a substantial number of secular families in the DC/NOVA homeschooling community?


Actually there are several large groups of secular homeschoolers in the DC metro area including in DC proper.

Here is a very organized example of a secular homeschool group in DC metro:
http://www.compassclasses.com/

If you search yahoo groups for DC metro homeschool groups, then you will also find many other groups as well. Plus, you will find listing on state homeschool groups.
Anonymous
OP again, thanks so much for the feedback. Really good considerations.
Anonymous
I considered it, but my kids fight constantly with each other. They need time apart, and school helps with that.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I considered it, but my kids fight constantly with each other. They need time apart, and school helps with that.


+1
Anonymous
The link provided by 0808: classes on Wednesdays and Fridays only. My kids wanted to be with other kids more often than twice per week. We had a hard time finding the amount of socializing they (and we) wanted.

We jumped ship.
Anonymous
The biggest pro for us is time-- in the early grades, schoolwork can be completed in a relatively small amount of time, leaving a lot of time for play, free reading, outdoor time. Being able to to enjoy a long and relaxed lunch together. Going on "field trips" without having to constantly hurry and bark out orders and (at least in the case of my kids) paying more attention to the social aspect than the learning aspect. And then, in the older grades, it is a wonderful thing to see kids taking more responsibility for their own learning, and not treating it as something inflicted on them from above. (Kids in school can do that, too, of course.)

But oh, that social aspect. My kids LOVE being around their peers, and so a con for me is that I have to put more effort than I would if they were in school daily into making sure they get to be around friends and getting them to and from classes. (They do just fine with homeschoolers and with those who don't homeschool.)

There are all kinds of homeschoolers in this area. We are not religious (and not Christian), and that is not an issue.

P.S. I am definitely not "on" 24 hours a day. We homeschool year-round, which is not for everybody, but gives us a lot more flexibility on a daily and even weekly basis. All homeschooling doesn't have to be 1:1 time, either.
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My son is 10. We homeschool from 8:30-12. When I pulled him out of public school, he was at the beginning of third grade. He was reading at the beginning of Kindergarten level. He was diagnosed with dyslexia/ ADHD with an I.Q. of 120. I decided to not medicate him. We have taught him to manage his hyperactivity. He volunteers at a local food pantry two days each week. He is an amazing kid.
Anonymous
I see the advantages of homeschooling as being able to meet the children at their level. I love that I can use less traditional methods to help my son in his weaker areas. I love how effortlessly he has managed to get far ahead in math, simply because homeschooling is so much more efficient. I love that he can read good literature for hours every day, that he can explore his interests (history, science, politics) in great depth. I love that he is in fifth grade and loves learning.

We have zero issues with the social part. We live in a neighborhood with tons of kids and, around here, if anything the challenge is limiting oneself when choosing homeschool classes and activities. Also, my son plays sports competitively so that provides a constant social outlet as well.

With him, I don't see any negatives at this point. That said, I don't homeschool my second child who is super extroverted and thrives with the constant interaction at school, because he wisely chose not to. I also wouldn't homeschool a child at the other extreme, because I can see how it could be isolating. However, that has not been our experience in the least.
Anonymous
Can anyone comment on the cost of homeschooling? Do you spend a lot on materials? I am just beginning to consider homeschool for my child for next year. He has had a bad year and has not really made any progress this year. I worry what will happen if he has another year like this next year. I requested an evaluation from the school and they wrote an IEP, but it doesn't seem to be making any difference for him. I'm pretty sure I could do it if I knew more about it. I have done lots at home to support his public education, but he gets tired and discouraged after being in school all day and then coming home and spending more time doing school stuff. I always plan a "summer learning at home" curriculum each year to review what he learned in the last school year. So I think I could homeschool him, but I'm also curious about the challenges of it, and especially the cost.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Can anyone comment on the cost of homeschooling? Do you spend a lot on materials? I am just beginning to consider homeschool for my child for next year. He has had a bad year and has not really made any progress this year. I worry what will happen if he has another year like this next year. I requested an evaluation from the school and they wrote an IEP, but it doesn't seem to be making any difference for him. I'm pretty sure I could do it if I knew more about it. I have done lots at home to support his public education, but he gets tired and discouraged after being in school all day and then coming home and spending more time doing school stuff. I always plan a "summer learning at home" curriculum each year to review what he learned in the last school year. So I think I could homeschool him, but I'm also curious about the challenges of it, and especially the cost.


The costs are not very high at all, especially if you don't want them to be. I buy a lot of books used, including math textbooks, and of course you can get so much from the library. Some programs are much more expensive than others. I paid for a writing program this year that cost a couple hundred dollars but that is about the priciest investment I have ever made. my writing book last year was $20.
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