Who's more attractive in your relationship?
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Anonymous
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DH here. I would say DW is more attractive, but if you asked her I would bet she would say I am.
I hold the power because I work and she is a SAHM. In reality I would say power is pretty equal but I have final say |
Anonymous
| Me, but we're both pretty unremarkable. |
Anonymous
| I would have said "me," but not I think it's DH, and I think it was always DH. |
Anonymous
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When we got together, my wife was 25 yo and totally hot, which means she basically ruled the world.
But after kid #2, she just decided to "settle" and has since then gained a ton of weight: think frumpy 50-yo librarian. She also lost her sex drive: this may be why she seems unbothered to have grown invisible to men. Meanwhile, I've stayed extremely fit and am attractively successful in my career. She has not yet awakened to the fact that we are now a mismatched couple, like that recent thread about the fat wife at the pool with her hot husband. |
Anonymous
| She was more attractive; she settled. Someone mentioned power. She had the power; I had the paycheck but the wife runs the house, right? |
Anonymous
| I don't get the power thing; what is "power" in a marriage? |
Anonymous
| DW here, DH and I are both equally attractive. Power wise, it's split depending on the situation. Money, he has more power because he makes more, kids, I have more power because I'm the mom and take the initiative to a different level than he does. Everything else we pretty much meet in the middle on. |
Anonymous
When the baby cries at night, who gets up? When you each have a priority for discretionary income, whose preference wins? |
Anonymous
Hard to believe she doesn't realize it. My husband and I were equally attractive in our 20s (we each think the other was more attractive  ) but to use his phrase, he's "fallen off a cliff" and I'm still hanging in there. He's got a lot more extra weight and gray hairs than I do.
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Anonymous
Because every time a question about balance of power in relationships is the topic, some sweet young thing asks what is power in a marriage? Now THAT's dumb. |
PaigeKeller
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Wife here.
I think we are equally attractive and both take good care of ourselves and are aging well although he is 6 years older than me. He is actually becoming better looking as he gets older. I am getting more and more attracted to him as he ages. It is so sexy. Anyways. I earn less money and he has a more powerful career. I think we share power in different ways in our marriage. He is probably more powerful in more ways (controls majority of our finances/house decisions/etc) merely because I am pretty easy going and he is really type A. |
Anonymous
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DH is more conventionally attractive but way more introverted
I would like to think that we are fairly equal partners but I definitely 'keep things running' in our house and relationship if that is what power means. But if DH ever decided to leave me I would be devastated so I don't feel more 'powerful' than him. I think vice versa it would be true for him too. |