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Are single women without kids ruder to you in public?
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I've found in general that when I'm out shopping with my two toddlers, driving, or otherwise in public places where other children/parents may or may not be present, single women, particulary those in their 30s and 40s ,can be shockingly selfish and rude. Examples: Butting in front of us in a line, rolling eyes at how long it takes to maneuver our mammoth shopping cart, practically chopping off my ankes with their own shopping carts (because I guess their in such a hurry and its so difficult to only have to worry about yourself in a store - -time to buy something NOW for just myself!), riding up on our bumper in traffic, etc, etc. Rarely a man does this to us, or other people with children.
Anyone else find this behaviour and if so do you think its unique to the sometimes stressed-to-the-max DC area?[code] |
Anonymous
| How on earth do you know they are single? |
Anonymous
| No, I think people in general are nicer to me when I'm with my child. |
Anonymous
Same here. But I'm also not really paying attention to others, especially facial expressions. I mostly notice it when people hold doors open for us, etc. And I am sure to thank them genuinely. |
Anonymous
They may or may not be married, but to clarify, those without children present. |
Anonymous
| I haven't really noticed this much. Some people seem visibly annoyed by children in public, but I can't generalize to whether they are just single women, single men, or some other demographic group. |
Anonymous
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Have you considered that they might have kids but just happen to be shopping without them? Maybe she's in a rush because she has to get home to nurse her baby? Or maybe she doesn't have kids but is taking care of an elderly relative. Or maybe she has a baby AND an elderly relative, but the kids are home and she's totally stressed.
So anyhow, I don't think you can make any assumptions based on who is or isn't with her at the store. |
Anonymous
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I live in DC. I've noticed an occasional hostile eye-rolling by a young woman or two, but definitely not a trend.
More than that, I notice that a lot of older women (baby boomers) are RUDE when dealing with babies/kids. But then again, they are called the ME Generation for good reason! |
Anonymous
| Nope, I haven't noticed that. I find that most people are nice to us, even when we're slow and in the way. I've had people without kids hold doors for us, let us go ahead of them in line, offer to help us wrangle the high chair at restaurants etc. And I was definitely that way with moms/kids before I had kids of my own -- i.e. when I was the "single woman" you refer to. |
Anonymous
How is this related to the post?? |
Anonymous
| Related to the post because the OP is assuming that the people are rude to her because they don't have kids. I was pointing out that maybe they do have kids, understand the stresses of kids, but have their own equal or greater stresses to deal with. Assumptions don't always fit. |
zumbamama
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| The only I notice it is in Starbucks. |
Anonymous
Has anyone been to Balducci's in Wesley Heights? It is home to the rudest elderly shoppers in the world! They will knock down any toddler with their carts. 
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zumbamama
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| oops, I meant, "The only place..." |
Anonymous
You are pointing out the obvious. That was not the subject of my post, that they are rude because they do not have kids. THey are rude because they are rude, for whatever reason suits them. |