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The Dreaded Holiday Visit....The Mother In Law (Cue Horror Film Music)
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So, it's happening. My Mother in Law is coming to visit. I know I shouldn't get all worked up about it, and that I need to be a good sport for the sake of my kids and husband, etc, BUT I CAN'T STAND HER. My anxiety level is already spiking at just the thought of her impending visit. We couldn't be two more different people, and I will spare you the details on all the reasons she offends me/makes me feel ill. We have a long track record. I have made every effort and she is still a pain in the rear who just imposes herself any chance she can (think Jane Fonda in that wedding movie with J-Lo (forgot the name)). Anyway, I am so stressed about it. What's worse my kids seem to like her and pick up her annoying habits. I can't turn to spiked egg nog because I am nursing, so does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this? Anyone have a similar situation?
Please, no emails from those who want to flame me for not being all thankful for the woman who birthed my husband, etc. I know, I know. I am evil for feeling this way...I admit it. Done. Back to deep breathing exercises. |
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I totally understand, except we have to go to her house. This is the woman who told me TO MY FACE that she thought about trying to ruin my wedding because she was mad at me for not inviting her best friend. Sigh. I just take deep breaths, bide my time and try not to get caught in a situation where I'm alone with her. My DD is too small yet to pick up any habits of her's, but if she did, it would drive me crazy.
Good luck and just keep breathing. We'll all get through this holiday season! |
zumbamama
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| yes, breathe and do some yoga! How long is your MIL staying for? I guess just keep reminding yourself that it's not forever. Maybe there is something she likes that you could offer her to keep her in a good mood while she's there? |
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| Can you take this as an opportunity to get out of the house, leaving her and your husband time together with the kids? I'm thinking hair appointments, coffee with friends, movies... |
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OMG! SHe actually told you she thought about ruining your wedding?! My sis also has to deal with not so friendly in-laws. Her FIL is a minister and she has to sit through 3 consecutive sermons about how Catholics and Mormons are going to hell...and she is Catholic. She sits tights and tries not to take it personally as to not cause any tension between her DH and his family. But I am mad for her! |
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I can relate. Thank God we don't have to spend the holidays with my in-laws because wine is my coping mechanism and I'm pregnant - don't think that'd go over too well.
It's no coincidence that I ALWAYS schedule a haircut for the time my in-laws are in town. I've also been know to fabricate a book club meeting or yoga class and go chill at Starbucks. Get your nails done, schedule a massage, go see a movie? Might be easier said than done since you are nursing. Good luck. I've been there... |
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| I agree with the PP's -- you need to get out of the house as much as possible. I too cannot stand my monster-in-law, who unfortunately is local. I've actually dropped the niceties and when she comes over I say hello and then either run errands or head into my room with a good book or a movie. It sucks, because I don't feel welcome in my own home when she is there but at least I'm not dealing with her. You could also come up with a list of things for your husband to take her to do and insist that he gets her out of the house every day to give you peace and quiet around the house. After all, it is HIS mother and I doubt you would make him entertain your mother full-time for the duration of her stay! |