Anonymous wrote:I am 20 weeks, just told people and they were shocked. I fit into regular pants still. Not my first baby, either. So, I think 16 weeks is early and my colleague is at that point, already wearing maternity pants on her first baby and I secretly chalk it up to her being chubby and lazy. But I am not her midwife, I would never say that to her and no, a medical provider should probably not say that either. But at the end of the day, every woman has a different body and our bodies react differently to pregnancy.

Anonymous wrote:There is another way to look at this comment, as in, "When you came in, you looked really slender, so I'm surprised to see that you are wearing maternity pants given how small your baby bump is." That might actually be more likely, because if you looked big from a distance, she wouldn't have been surprised to see maternity pants and would be less likely to say something. In general, 16 weeks seems a tid on the early side, but certainly not unheard of, and why be uncomfortable or risk stretching out your regular pants?

Anonymous wrote:I am 20 weeks, just told people and they were shocked. I fit into regular pants still. Not my first baby, either. So, I think 16 weeks is early and my colleague is at that point, already wearing maternity pants on her first baby and I secretly chalk it up to her being chubby and lazy. But I am not her midwife, I would never say that to her and no, a medical provider should probably not say that either. But at the end of the day, every woman has a different body and our bodies react differently to pregnancy.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 20 weeks, just told people and they were shocked. I fit into regular pants still. Not my first baby, either. So, I think 16 weeks is early and my colleague is at that point, already wearing maternity pants on her first baby and I secretly chalk it up to her being chubby and lazy. But I am not her midwife, I would never say that to her and no, a medical provider should probably not say that either. But at the end of the day, every woman has a different body and our bodies react differently to pregnancy.

That doesn't even quality as a humble brag.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 20 weeks, just told people and they were shocked. I fit into regular pants still. Not my first baby, either. So, I think 16 weeks is early and my colleague is at that point, already wearing maternity pants on her first baby and I secretly chalk it up to her being chubby and lazy. But I am not her midwife, I would never say that to her and no, a medical provider should probably not say that either. But at the end of the day, every woman has a different body and our bodies react differently to pregnancy.

That doesn't even quality as a humble brag.

It wasn't meant to be a brag, really. I was being honest. Shrug.

My point is, no matter what anyone (including and especially someone caring for your health/well-being during pregnancy) thinks about your physique/comfortable clothing choice during pregnancy, he/she should butt out and keep lips zipped unless it is relevant to you and/or your baby's health.

And btw, the person I know is in fact kinda chubby, she was before pregnancy and no, she does not work out or follow a sensible diet...I didn't say that I think that of everyone wearing maternity clothes at that point or earlier, but in this case, it applies. Again, my point is that I would not comment on her choice to wear elastic and neither should her mid-wife as long as she is reasonably healthy.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 20 weeks, just told people and they were shocked. I fit into regular pants still. Not my first baby, either. So, I think 16 weeks is early and my colleague is at that point, already wearing maternity pants on her first baby and I secretly chalk it up to her being chubby and lazy. But I am not her midwife, I would never say that to her and no, a medical provider should probably not say that either. But at the end of the day, every woman has a different body and our bodies react differently to pregnancy.

That doesn't even quality as a humble brag.

It wasn't meant to be a brag, really. I was being honest. Shrug.

My point is, no matter what anyone (including and especially someone caring for your health/well-being during pregnancy) thinks about your physique/comfortable clothing choice during pregnancy, he/she should butt out and keep lips zipped unless it is relevant to you and/or your baby's health.

And btw, the person I know is in fact kinda chubby, she was before pregnancy and no, she does not work out or follow a sensible diet...I didn't say that I think that of everyone wearing maternity clothes at that point or earlier, but in this case, it applies. Again, my point is that I would not comment on her choice to wear elastic and neither should her mid-wife as long as she is reasonably healthy.

It's your reference to your colleague as "chubby and lazy" that's the most obnoxious, frankly. I take it you're one of those women who's never had to struggle with your weight. How wonderful for you. For those of us that constantly struggle with our weight, the idea of being called "lazy" because we're not skinny is just absurd. You may be thin, but I guess you didn't get the brains in your family.

Anonymous wrote:^ I don't think that working out and eating sensibly means that I have never had to struggle. Quite the contrary. And to the PP who questioned my brains, how dismal it is that you don't think a woman who takes good care of her body cannot also be intelligent. I mean, if you choose to eat McD's and other fast food on a regular basis and never, ever work out, to the point of bragging about it, yes, I am going to get the impression that you are lazy.