The Biggest Infertility Myth of them All
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I generally appreciate how open Giuliana and Bill Rancic have been about their infertility struggles, but she recently said this on The Today Show: "One is six couples struggle with infertility. If you stick with it and never quit, it will pay off."
Well, no, Guiliana, the truth is that sometimes, no matter how hard you try (and you know how us Type A's do try!), there will be no take-home baby at the end of it all. It does no service to infertile couples to assert to the world that if you didn't get a baby, you didn't try hard enough. grrrrrr.... |
Anonymous
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Besides the fact that IVF is an extremely expensive enterprise, and while I'm lucky to have been able to transfer to my husband's insurance to get my IVF covered, it's STILL monumentally expensive!
Good for her that she could pay for a surrogate and everything else she did to get her beautiful child (and I am, despite this little rant, really happy for them and everyone who successfully makes it through this hell) - but many, many, many women are not as lucky as she is - or I am. I'm a little disappointed that, as a prominent advocate for IVF, she didn't use that opportunity to speak out about the fact that infertility to the insurance world is a woman's fault and not a medical condition that needs to be treated same as any other. Besides the fact that crazy conservatives are trying to make it completely illegal... Okay rant over. |
Anonymous
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+ 10000
The idea that if you want it bad enough, are willing to do enough, and able to spend enough it will pay off still makes it seem like it is yours and my fault... if we can't afford to try everything she tried. |
Anonymous
| i also think it's what she (and many other women) tell themselves to remain optimistic. i know i tell myself that..... |
Anonymous
| OP I agree with you, it's wrong to say if we all keep trying it will eventually happen. I've been through multiple IUIs, IVFs, and DE IVF failures so saying I just should hang in there is ridiculous. The truth is it doesn't work for everyone and we don't have any money left for surrogacy or adoption. |
Anonymous
| Never happened for me/us. In fact, when I had an outside party evaluate or records thee had been very little chance from the start with our conditions. No RE ever bothered to tell us that, although we tried for four years and many cycles. Beware. Set a time and expense limit on your efforts. We adopted. |
jindc
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+1000 to pp 16:58
I never thought I would be where I am, but would love to see celebrities show support for fertility awareness. Most people can't afford her route. |
Anonymous
| Another huge myth that I heard one too many times.."well you can just adopt"--like its as easy as going to Safeway and picking up a loaf of bread. So annoying! |
Anonymous
| Celebrities irritate me because very few admit to using DE. So it gives the impression that one just eat well and be fit and have babies naturally into theirs 40s. I had a coworker recently tell me she had 10 years before she had to start TTC (she's 29). A 33yo woman who has been married for 4 years said she wanted to wait until 39/40 because her mom retires around then and will watch their child FT. Its totally different if you dont meet Mr. Right until 38, but I really wanted to say something to her! Unfortunately, I was just meeting her for the first time. |
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Anonymous
This. A friend of mine told me she was waiting, and she had no real reason (she's married, her career is stable, they own a home, etc). I told her "What makes you think you'll get pregnant that easily? I've been off birth control for three years." |
Anonymous
| It is really sad b/c giuliana and bill are in a position where they really could advocate for people going through infertility but instead they paint an unrealistic picture and seem to only talk about their journey for publicity purposes. Makes me so sad. |
Anonymous
| Giuliana is so annoying! She also did not want to gain ten pounds to have a child of her own. She is really thin and she does not set a good example for others trying to have a baby. |
Anonymous
| PP - you are so right! She and bill are nothing but fame/money hungry. She is sooooo annoying! |
Anonymous
Exactly. I'm not convinced Giuliana and Bill didn't use DE. They have a right to privacy on this, but it really does a disservice to people of normal means who hope to have a child via their own eggs to imply that willpower and persistence are all it takes. I'm a mom via DE, and I'm thrilled that I was able to have this option. It took a hell of a lot more than willpower to get here! |