Am about to be the sole wage-earner...
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Anonymous
| My husband is about to go back to school to change careers, leaving me as the sole wage-earner for about 2 years. I am not worried about the financial aspect - not that it won't hurt, but we have been living on my salary for a while and have planned for this. I am more apprehensive about the change in dynamic in our family/relationship. Any experience/tips from those that have BTDT? I don't know exactly what I'm looking for... it's just a big change. |
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| I've BTDT, on both sides. I went back to school for two years while my wife was working full time. Then several years later, I worked full time while she went to law school. It sounds like you've already planned for the biggest factor, the financial impact (We planned for that also, so it didn't actually affect our relationship) on your lives. Beyond that, it really doesn't have to have a large impact. The key, at least to us, was for the working spouse to remember that the school was a full-time job for the other. It usually isn't any easier than a full time job, and it can often generate even more work. The only way the relationship dynamic will change is if you or your spouse start treating each other differently. If you keep the perspective that this is just his job for the next two years, there's no reason for anything else to change. |
Anonymous
| How about both of you go to school? |