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Anonymous wrote:No, the kids move with their mother (since you wrote the father is unlikely to want custody). I can't imagine anything more traumatic for young kids then their parents splitting up, moving to different states and just leaving them behind.

OP here - I know you mean well but you don't know what these kids have been through already. This wouldn't be the first, second or even the third time the kids have lived with us for an extended period of time - without their parents. This will just be the first time we'd be doing it officially. Without a legal relationship between us and the kids, we won't be able to make medical decisions for them and we will not have any standing with the school.

I don't want to engage in a discussion on whether this is something we should do. I'm looking for information on temporary guardianship and would appreciate responses to that alone. Thanks.

OP - it doesn't change my opinion. And I don't think there should have been a second or third time. It's not "helping" like you think it is. If the mom is capable of taking care of the children then that's the best place for the kids. I am sure you have the best of intentions but that doesn't mean you are making the best choice for the kids. If you want an outside opinion, there are plenty of therapists in this area that can assist.

Actually, I'm not even sure OP has the best of intentions. I think OP feels like she knows what's best and that's the end of that. To dismiss objections that this might not be such a good idea with such arrogance is beyond the pale.

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Not the PP you're talking to but I completely agree. I can't believe OP is so dismissive of the people speaking from experience here saying that it is a TERRIBLE idea. If there are mitigating issues that make the kids' parents unfit, then that is a different issue. The issue of temporary custody just so mom can get "on her feet," is terrible.

And OP says that mom is moving to be near family - so she has the hubris to think she can take better care of these kids than the kids' own family! Agree with the PP who says she hopes the mom in this story will get strong legal custody before giving up her kids to the OP.

Actually, I'm not even sure OP has the best of intentions. I think OP feels like she knows what's best and that's the end of that. To dismiss objections that this might not be such a good idea with such arrogance is beyond the pale.

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Actually, I'm not even sure OP has the best of intentions. I think OP feels like she knows what's best and that's the end of that. To dismiss objections that this might not be such a good idea with such arrogance is beyond the pale.

You people are off of your collective effin' rockers. It's arrogant of OP to disregard the "objections" of anonymous internet harpies who don't know anything about the situation or the people involved, yet still feel qualified to offer definitive advice about a really delicate, sensitive situation? Do any of you imbeciles make major life decisions base on the uninformed, unsolicited advice of strangers? I'd rather rely on a ouija boards, or a Magic 8 Ball.

(And by the way, it is beyond ironic that some internet busybody thinks the OP is arrogant because OP isn't immediately reconsidering what I'm sure is a difficult decision based on some anonymous uninformed advice. Isn't the height of arrogance your belief that OP should immediately recognize your brilliance and defer to your anonymous judgment? Good grief.)

Anyway, OP, this is not my field, but I think you need a power of attorney. Below is a link to a generic for - I'm sure there are state-specific requirements you should take into account, but it's a good place to start. And good for you, by the way - I have no idea what circumstances brought you to this point, but I applaud your willingness to take on the burden of two extra children. I hope if I was faced with a similar situation, I'd be willing to do the same (or have good enough friends who'd be willing to put my kids' interests above their own.) Good luck to you.

http://freelegalforms.uslegal.com/power-of-attorney/care-of-minor-child/