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Almost 3 year old girl refuses to poop on the potty anymore
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Anonymous
| So she used to poop on the potty and now she does it in her pants. She knows she's doing it and when I ask her what she's doing she says, "I'm pooping.". She also seems to be holding it in a lot too. We are getting pretty frustrated as this is pretty damn gross. Any advice on how to get her back on the potty is most appreciated!! |
Anonymous
| bribe her! I put a wrapped hostess cupcake on the bathroom counter and told her that if she went she could have the cupcake! She was pretty happy to go! We changed the prize up every day, and started to give her a prize every other time, and slowly weaned her off prizes. With our other daughter, we told her that poop has bugs in it, and they will bite your bottom if you poop in your pants, so she stopped doing it pretty quick. Whatever works I guess. |
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Did your daughter have a painful poo that she associates with the potty? If she is holding it in, she may be a little scared. She may also be ready to graduate to the toilet. The potty is usually a transitional device to the toilet and gets used for just a couple of weeks. I agree with the idea of the prize and you can also buy her a colorful toilet ring to sit on the toilet with or, just put her on the toilet when she's going in her pants if you can catch her. Show her how easy it is.
P.s. Poop has bugs in it and will bite your bottom? That's a crazy thing to tell a child. Don't you think she still believes that? |
Anonymous
| Why don't you just make her clean herself up? If it's a mistake, that's one thing, but if not, hand her a new pair of underwear, and make it a cleaning session that isn't a fun "bath-like" thing. (Not suggesting you do, BTW.) If it becomes a hassle to deal with, she'll stop. If you make it about treats, once the treats stop, what makes her not revert? I don't get treats when I poop in the toilet. I poop in the toilet because otherwise it's gross. Teach her that too. At least that's how we taught our 2 DDs and it worked. Treat-free. Good luck! |
Anonymous
You must be kidding! OP, do this only if you want poop all over everything! My 3 year-old does not think poop is disgusting and would probably think this was fun- like playdough! I am having the same problem . 3 year-old actually told me she will never poop in the potty again. This is my 3rd child and I don't know what the hell to do. I have tried bribes, threats, stickers, everything. I am now hoping she will just outgrow this soon. I think that because she is the youngest, she doesn't want to stop being "the baby" because she is clinging to a lot of other babyish behaviors. The other two kids wanted to be "big" but she hates the idea. Ugh. |
Anonymous
| when my almost 3 year old did this - we just let her do it. When she told me she was going poop I just said ok. As we began to ignore the behavior she kind of became less interested in it. When she turned 3 we told her that 3 year olds wear underwear which she did with no problems at all (pooped in the potty just fine) Good luck |
Anonymous
| Op here. Glad to know it's not just my kid. Thanks for the ideas everyone! |
Anonymous
NP piggybacking here. My 2.5 year old DD has started toilet training. She has the pee thing down really well, but she does not want to poop on the toilet AT ALL. I think she holds it in (when I ask her if she's holding it in she says yes), and whenver I talk to her about it she says it's "not nice" to poop on the toilet and she'd rather do it in a diaper. So far she's pooped 3x in her underwear over the past 1.5 weeks of toilet training, and gone twice in her diaper. (She wears a diaper overnight and for her 2-3 hour nap. We are not going to skip the diaper while she sleeps at this stage.) She used to do #2 pretty much every day, so this is obviously a problem for her, poor thing.  I've been emphasizing the hygiene aspect and the "big girl" aspect, but she's still resistant. Any additional suggestions would be very welcome!
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| Get a small suitcase or similar and allow her to prop her feet up to poop. |
Anonymous
| Ah, potty regression. My DD was trained, and then when the novelty of pleasing us by going potty wore off, so did her interest in remaining potty trained. I also suspect some control issues were in play. So it's not so uncommon, we just rode it out for a few more months until she figured out that big girls go in the potty, and no one is going to cheer every time. It's nothing time will not fix, so hang in there. |
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My son did this too (he was otherwise potty trained before 2)
But he didn't poop in his pants, he'd insist on a diaper. He just wouldn't do it on the potty. What if you and she compromise? Without shaming her, tell her that if she really isn't ready to poop in the potty you'll give her a diaper. She just needs to tell you when she needs it. |
Anonymous
| We just give our 2-year-old a diaper when she wants to poop. Sometimes she poops in the potty and sometimes in her diaper. Either way is fine with me. I figure she'll outgrow the diaper poops eventually. |
Anonymous
| 21:34 here again. Thanks for the input. I'm nervous because DD is supposed to be potty trained when she starts preschlol next month, so maybe I'll kick in with some bribery (pink cupcakes, anyone?) and see if that works. |
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I wish my newly-turned 3 year old would ask for a diaper! I'm so sick of her going in her pants. She's been doing this for a few months. She just started preschool and I'm hoping the peer pressure will work in my favor. She seems to do better at school than at home.
Not to discourage the OP, but we tried rewards and they didn't work. We offered her a lollipop (her favorite thing in the world) and she only ever gets one when she poops on the toilet (she uses a seat insert) and she would only rarely do it. It's so frustrating. I'm trying to ride it out and not give her "control". |