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| I'm not sure where to post this or what I'm hoping to even gain other than putting it out there for encouragement. Lately, due to issues at home with DH and at work feeling under appreciated everywhere I turn I am feeling so depressed. I am also 12 weeks pregnant and I am certain that the morning sickness and the hormones haven't helped my mood. I don't feel excited to have another child at this point even though this was a planned pregnancy. I feel like my marriage is in the tubes and I have no idea how to bring it out. I know I/we need counseling but even that seems like an impossible task balancing FT work and 1 year old DS. I just feel so hopeless in life right now. I want nothing more than to quit my job and move away from here, closer to my family. I don't have any friends or family here to support me. DH is less than supportive. Medication isn't an option for me in the pregnancy. I just feel in such a rut. The only thing that brings me happiness is DS and he spends all day in daycare. Any one else go through significant depression while pregnant? |
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I've had depression most of my life and went off meds to get pregnant. I was OK until about week 15 or 16, and then started feeling really miserable. I talked to my doctor about it, but for various reasons I was adamant against going back on meds. However, there "are" meds out there that are relatively safe during pregnancy, so no matter what, you should call your doctor, tell him/her how you are feeling, and get some advice. Make the med decision together.
Having said that, what I did was start taking fish oil pills. And this has been my regimen since pregnancy and I've never had to go back on meds since (5 years now). Daily supplements: 2 fish oil pills (omega 3s) B50 complex 1,200 mg calcium 1,000 I.U. Vitamin D All should be safe during pregnancy and even very beneficial to the baby. But of course check with your doctor first. The down side to this is it might take about a month to really start feeling a difference. As for life circumstances, troubles can feel utterly overwhelming while you are depressed, so hopefully helping to lift the depression may help make your family situation seem more tolerable. (But they are a viscious cycle for sure). And while it may be unwieldy to get both of you to go to counseling right now, don't discount the great benefit you can get from getting counseling yourself. A counselor is an impartial ear to unload your troubles on, and can provide really helpful tools to help you fix some things in your life. Try to figure out a plan of attack to fight this depression. For me, at least, having a goal and a plan to get there is very helpful because it empowers me against the hopelessness. I may not always succeed at the goal 100%, but I usually can make things better. If you are so depressed that even this seems overwhelming (very common with depression), please call your doctor today and tell him/her. Someone needs to know how you are feeling so they can help you. And unfortunately, even the most loving spouse isn't always the best person to trust this to. Sometimes they are just too close to the situation to see it objectively. Big hugs, and best wishes. |
Anonymous
| Hi PP, OP here. I am currently taking the above supplements except B50 complex. Maybe I should add that on. Thanks for the thoughtful posting. |
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| I'm very sorry you are going through this, and for your lack of support. Have you spoken with your OB or midwife about it? I have struggled with depression for years and am still on my antidepressant, which is a class "C" drug but is considered relatively safe to use during pregnancy. Is there a support group you might be able to join? I have found that taking classes with other pregnant women -- weekly prenatal yoga class and a childbirth education class that meets weekly -- have been helpful at meeting people going through the same kinds of things. Best of luck. |