what are you freaking out about?

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[Post New]04/28/2011 13:02
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I'm a bit freaked out about the fact that my seven year old is not interested in either learning to swim or learning to ride a bike. I am thinking of turning to incentives-- i.e., after you learn to swim, we will go to Hershey Park. But he really doesn't like to be pressured. I'm a bit embarrassed that there are all these little kids biking and swimming and mine is really slow at it. He loves his Razor, plays soccer, TKD, and is off the charts for, of all things, pull ups (he can do 10!) but rather than just be grateful for these things, I'm paniced that he has somehow missed a window of opportunity on this stuff because I was busy being a working mom and not sufficiently focused and aware during that moment when he was four (well, OK I also had a baby to care for also at that point).

Whew. OK, that felt good to get off my chest. Anyone else what to share what they are freaking out over? I hope I'm not alone.


Not freaking out (yet) but the training wheels came off almost 8 y.o. DD's bike last summer or maybe late the summer before and after one or two minor falls last year she had little interest in learning to ride. She doesn't want the training wheels back on either and just wants to ride her scooter. We're hoping to hit a vacant parking lot sometime this spring to teach her in an easier environment in the hope of getting back to family bike rides. She's seeing her friends' 4 and 5 y.o. siblings learning now and is starting to feel a little insecure. We're making better progress on swimming. She loved lessons and learning when younger and resisted for a few years but started coming around again earlier this year and we told her that she's in the water so much during the summer she needs to become a stronger (read: competent) swimmer for safety reasons. She knows she's going to want to join her friends in the deep end so she's taking the lessons. While it may be easier for kids to learn when younger, kids and adults can learn to swim and bike at any age. Don't be so hard on yourself. Good luck!

May be upset if she never wants to play a team sport. Would love her to have the experience, but will never force/bribe it.
[Post New]04/28/2011 13:03
Anonymous
Middle School.

We live in NW DC, not in-bounds for Deal. Unless we win the lotto (charter or actual), we will have to move next year.
[Post New]04/28/2011 13:05
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I can actually say that at this very moment I am not freaking out about anything, which is shocking because I am a worrier. Recently-resolves freakouts: That my 2 year old had stopped growing (just had him measured at his 2 year appointment and he has in fact grown) and that my 2 mo would never take a bottle at daycare and I was going to have to quit my job so he could nurse. But he's being quite the trooper and finally taking the bottle. So, one day hopefully all of you will look back on these worries as a thing of the past.


OP here! thank you all so much for commiserating, passing on book recommendation, putting things into perspective-- and making me laugh! (2 mo old latch key kid! Love it!) I really appreciate it!
[Post New]04/28/2011 13:15
Anonymous
I have twin boys. They are lovely toddlers now and always thinking up new creative things to freak mommy out about, but I just had to have myself a little laugh reading this post and thinking back to my verbatim thoughts during my (somewhat scary/risky) pregnancy: I can't wait until these kids are finally born so I can stop worrying about them all the time.

BWAHAHAHAAAAAA!
[Post New]04/28/2011 13:15
Anonymous
My spouse not speaking to me.
[Post New]04/28/2011 13:19
Anonymous
I am freaking out about how much I freak out nowadays. I am going to have to wear a mouth guard at night because grinding my teeth has caused my gums to recede.
[Post New]04/28/2011 13:31
Anonymous
DC1 eating too many lunchables and waffles with syrup and not enough good stuff

DC1 and DC3 being too skinny

DC2 and 3 (twins) going to a middle of the road DCPS school in the Fall

Credit card debt

My pitiful leave balance at work

We forced DC1 to ride a bike shortly before he turned 6. It was not one of the more proud parenting moments we've had. DH took him out about 6 or 7 times and it was a major power struggle. Then I bribed him with 6 bakugan. He did it, but was not comfortable. Then about 6 months later we took him on a walk on a bike trail and the first half of it he was compaining about it and was scared, and then he just took off and now loves to ride.
[Post New]04/28/2011 13:32
Anonymous
i am freaking out b/c i have to pump every 2 hours and i can't sleep. I dread the nights when I am up all night alone with the baby. It's depressing. I am also freaking out b/c I have a monster in law from hell who cries to my husband all the time and she demands his attention and suffocates me and my new baby.
[Post New]04/28/2011 14:15
Anonymous
That DC, who has a serious peanut allergy, is going to die at school. It sometimes keeps me awake at night and I'm finding it very difficult to deal with.
[Post New]04/28/2011 14:34
Anonymous
DS is having an outpatient surgery on Monday, and a very serious surgery in a few weeks. That worries me to no end.

However, the one lingering worry that won't have an end in sight for a few years is that DD who's still a toddler, is going to grow up to be one of the 'mean girls'.
[Post New]04/28/2011 14:38
Anonymous
That I am ruining my child's life by moving him to a different school next year, even though I know it is for the best. That my other child will not even let me take a shower unless she sits on the floor of the bathroom to make sure I am not leaving her. That neither of my kids has eaten a vegetable in about 4 years, and that they will turn into those adults who will eat out only a plain chicken breast sandwich or plain pasta when they grow up. And yes, definitely also worried about the bike thing. In fact, I am really glad to see that there are so many of us who have the bike thing going on, it makes me feel better.
[Post New]04/28/2011 14:40
Anonymous
My kid was in the not wanting to swim camp. At 7, we told him he had to learn because it is a necessary life skill and signed him up for lessons. We told him he would be in those lessons every single week of his childhood unless and until he could pass the swim test for camp (length of pool plus tread water for 2 minutes) and that once he accomplished that he would never have to take another lesson in his life. It wasn't a threat, just a non-negotiable requirement like wearing a seatbelt. You must learn to swim for your own safety, period.

THAT got him motivated. After he passed his test he was so gleeful and said "haha, done with swim lessons FOREVER!"
[Post New]04/28/2011 14:43
Anonymous
Each stage of your child's like you freak out over something. I'm also freaked out my 6 year old won't ride a bike or swim. I'm freaked out because he has to have surgery. I'm freaked out because he is short. I'm freaked about about what type of kid he will be in Middle School. I have to tell myself that each kid accomplishes things on their own when they are ready. So why is my kid SO afraid of trying things like biking and swimming. It was great when he was a toddler - he was too scared to climb on anything but now I wish he had a little gumption and would just give it a go.
[Post New]04/28/2011 14:44
Anonymous
11:43 PP - if it's the ear tubes surgery, try not to worry too much. My daughter had that, as have many of my friends' kids, and it's a piece of cake. My daughter was literally singing in the car the whole way home. And she's had only one infection in the 6 months since then. good luck, whatever it is.
[Post New]04/28/2011 14:48
Aimee4
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DH and I are moving in 18 months and we don't know where to yet. As in "what state in the union" where to.
But for the moment (fingers crossed) both kids are healthy. Yippee!
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