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Please recommend your venue for First Birthday Party
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Anonymous
| just because it is part of your culture doesn't mean it is ok. reminds me when the colonial told the british officer that, in his culture, they burn widowed wives on the funeral fire. the british officer replied that in his culture they shoot anyone who tries to burn a wife. |
Anonymous
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Obviously the first birthday party is more for the parents. They want to throw a party, and this is a good reason, why all the negative remarks? I am assuming that they would only be considering it if it is something that they could afford. Some people choose to spend their money on big houses, others choose to entertain - why are they not equally valid options?
We did a similar thing for my child's first birthday party. Actually, it was a joint first birthday party with our friends with whom we were doing a nanny-share. We rented out a private room in a restaurant during the middle of the afternoon. Because it was an off-time, they allowed us to bring in our own cake and arrange the tables to create a play area in the corner. We ordered a bunch of food that could be eaten standing, and everyone had a great time. There were about 60 people there, including 4-5 children. Three years later, both families still remember the party fondly. It was a perfect solution for us as we had overlap in friends and neither of us have much room in our own homes. No, the girls don't remember it specifically, but there are pictures, and we love that they have a close bond. |
Anonymous
Your first line makes no sense, but I doubt you care. Back to my point, there is NO jealousy for the PPer as she so assumed there would be. Culture or not. |
Anonymous
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Ok, come on now.
I'm the PP who commented on appreciating knowing cultural differences, and I stand by that. What is "ok" for a 1 year old birthday party is completely in the eye of the beholder. Everyone knows their own child's temperament, their own budget/family traditions/etc. What I can't imagine doing for my child might just be perfect for someone else's. Not for me to judge. I think the post that really got me thinking was the one about the Chinese family traditions. That poster's scenario managed to acknowledge all of the points that I personally find to be downsides (lots of $, kid doesn't enjoy it, why such a big fuss, etc) and still say, "Hey, we know, it might not be for everyone, but we had a fun time, because that's the way we do it!" Well, go for it then! I might not make the same plan, but I can better appreciate why others might. There is no need to me mean just for the sake of it, and you can't compare a birthday party to burning or shooting widows. Keep it to yourself. |
Anonymous
| What about the cultures that spend $$$$ on their daughter's 15th birthday? Is that equally ridiculous? One of my former students spent $1500 on her Quinceañera dress (waaaay more than I spend on my wedding dress) and no one thought it was out of line. Why is $1000-$1500 on a whole party ridiculous? |
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OP Here. I cannot believe I started a debate! Wow! Since my initial post I did manage to find a suitable venue. Thanks to all the PPs who answered my question about places to look.
To all the negative responses on this thread I just want to say that having the party at our home is not an option because there is very limited parking and limited space in our home. Both DH and I have very large extended families (30 people alone locally) plus we have gotten invited to many first birthdays over the years. DS is in a wonderful daycare so we want to invite all his teachers whom he is very fond of. We are bringing our pack and play to the venue so he can rest if he needs to. Fortunately daycare has gotten him used to sleeping in chaos. Also it is none of anyone's business to judge how others wish to spend their money. To the PP that said that we should give to charity we do give a sizeable portion of our income to charity each year. And we do max out DS's 529 college savings plan, our retirement and have enough disposable income to throw a wonderful party. BTW DS is such a people magnet that he will really enjoy his party  Just like it is not my place to judge you for choosing to live inside the beltway and have a huge mortgage for a tiny old home it is not your place to judge how I celebrate an occasion in my life.
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Anonymous
I can't tell if you really believe this or not. The smiley face is throwing me off. No 1-year old is going to enjoy all that hoopla, no matter how much of a "people magnet" he is. (Can a 1-year old be a people magnet? Is it is his sparkling personality or his sense of humor?) And btw, your daycare teachers don't want to spend their limited free time going to your kid's party. But way to make them feel like they have to buy you a gift! |
Anonymous
I agree in general, but you did post the amount you were willing to spend on DCUM - a place pretty well known for judgement. I hope you have a wonderful party. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, OP, PLEASE don't invite the daycare providers to your DC's 1st birthday! I promise you they do not want to go! |
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| I know its out of the area your looking for, but I love Mrs. K's Toll House in Silver Spring. Its very quaint and has been a perfect setting for baby showers, so Im sure a first birthday party would also go over nicely! Im a little new to this site...Im becoming more and more confused why every post includes a war of finances....it seems like moms with a higher income are often being attacked...can anyone shed some light? |