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| What is this called? When my son finds out that I get a few extra mosquito bites while I sit around when he is doing swimming lessons, he laughs for a few seconds with a big smile. When I tell my son that doctor asks me to lose some weight due to my high cholesterol, he also laughs for a few seconds with a big smile. There are many examples similar to these situations that he would laugh for a few seconds with a big smile, and he proceeds asking me questions like details. I am his mom, so I know that he does not have bad intentions. I hope that he learns not to do that to other people because that makes him look bad and really rude. I have asked him why he does that, and he says sorry but he finds it funny and curious more about it. I tell him that I hope you don't laugh when you find out one gets hurt or die or suffer from sadness because some people may be mad about it. Anyone has kids like that? |
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Oh wow, yes , my son does something very similar! I’ve actually wondered about it too. He’ll laugh when someone gets a small injury or hears something “shocking” like you mentioned not in a mean way, but with this wide-eyed smile like he's fascinated. I think for some kids it’s just how they process unexpected information or feelings they don't quite know what to do with yet.
I usually say something like, That’s not really a moment to laugh , can you imagine how the other person might feel? And he usually gets it, even if it takes a few reminders. I totally relate to your worry, though - you don’t want others to think they’re being rude or heartless when it's really just curiosity or nervousness. |
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| There are neurological and mental health conditions that cause this and can be treated. But it’s probably just that your child doesn’t yet have the maturity to react appropriately or doesn’t know the correct reaction. Just talk them through it and let them know it’s hurtful to laugh at someone who has gotten tough news. |
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| Age? |
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| What does he respond when you tell him that you bought him ice cream but it fell out of the cart as melted in the street? |
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| Maybe it's anxiety and he doesn't know how toprocess bad news/ injury. Have you tried giving him a script like Oh no, does it hurt? Or that's not good, what should we do about it? |
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| I think it’s likely anxiety that is manifesting this way in order for him to discharge his feelings. Try reassuring him that you are okay before telling him these kinds of things. Ask him if it makes him nervous. It’s immaturity, most likely. |
Anonymous
| my husband does this! I tell him he's being rude but he thinks it's just a nervous laugh/reaction. |
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| I know several 7/8 year old that do this. I think it’s nervousness/ don’t know what to say or respond |
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Sounds like a nervous laugh b/c he doesn't know what to say when you bombard him with bad news.
Instead of telling him you have to lose weight tell him "I'm eating healthy " - you get the idea. Try some role playing and practice some better ways to react instead. |
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| Like Father, like son... |
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Best response. I want to know too what if you told him this and sorry no ice cream for you now. |