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hedgehog
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| About 14 months ago we moved into a new neighborhood. It's a great neighborhood. Everyone is friendly and does lots of things together. We've been friendly and we talk with the neighbors and have had get-togethers. And we seem to get along with them well, but we've started noticing that we get excluded when there are planned events such as parties, fantasy football, etc. To the point where it is now getting uncomfortable and we want to retreat to our house and hideout as it's weird when everyone on your street is going to an event and you are not. We are not socially inept, but we are at a loss and not sure how to handle this situation. Chances are we are going to be here for a long time, but we don't want to be the oddballs. Any suggestions? |
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| is there an age gap? do you have children and they don't or vice versa? |
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It's a pretty consistant age range and yes, we all have kids. |
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| How many other families are you talking about when you say they do group things? Are you the only relative newbies on the block? That can be a really hard situation. I would just try to put a brave face on it, participate as much as you can with whatever you are invited to, host some events yourselves, and hang in there to see if things change. Sometimes with adults it can take a long time to build up relationships, so try to stick it out. |
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| On the fantasy football component, don't be offended. Those Leagues are formed and the teams renew year after year -- my DH has been in the same league for 10 years and so have most of the other participants. There simply might not be room there. Just tell whomever organizes it that you'd love to join in if and when a spot opens up. Are your kids all similar in age? |
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It's large groups and not limited to our street. I was thinking of having a party, but I'm worried people won't show. My self-confidence is feeling a bit low. Thanks for being helpful and supportive. |