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How do you cope with a miscarriage when you feel the Dr. is wrong?
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I began TTC on July 8th and 9th. It was two of my fertile days. I being in a lesbian relationship had to plan it perfectly for the donar. I waited till my period was due to be here before I became excited. Even though I had the common symptoms for me a sinus infection and a cold sore not pretty but its how my body jives. I took my first test and it was positive but very faint line. Waited for 4 days then tested again positive but darker. Called the dr for a blood draw just to be sure and my Hcg came back 672. That same day I started spotting, the blood was only there when I would wipe but never touched the pad. There was no pain at all, I called the dr and he did a pelvic and said there was no tissue visible and my cervix is closed. He called it a threatened M/C. Said if I the bleeding got worse or I started shedding tissue to go to the er. Wed. I had dropped a blood clot not big but a clot and being that I am so nervous I went to the Er. I was told again that my cervix is closed and that there is no sign of tissue. The U/S tech said that I was only 5 weeks and that she is sure that nothing would show on the U/s as their equipment only starts to show at 5w 5 days. So she was not worried when she saw no sac or baby. Waited around for blood work that seemed to take forever when the dr finally came back she told me that I was miscarrying that the results show my Hgc was 74 now. But still no pain, no cramps not anything. I still have preg symptoms peeing lots, sore breast and dreams of course. I want to believe that it truly is a miscarriage but my brain says that something is not right. Is there any possible way that the test was mis read or wrong? Can I want this baby so bad that I just believe what I want to believe? Its been 3 days since they said I M/c the bleeding/spotting is still the same not getting on a pad just when i wipe and maybe sometimes drip in toilet while i pee, still no pain. Can anyone tell me if they have ever dealt with this or had the same situation. Its making me crazy its hard to deal with a M/C when your so conflicted.
Sorry for going on and on I just need to talk to someone outside my world. |
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| I am so sorry you have to go through this. I experienced a missed miscarriage myself. I went to two ultrasounds to confirm that it was not a viable pregnancy, plus my hCG hormones were dropping, but I was not miscarrying. Just a drop of blood here and there and an occasional cramp. I chose to have a D&C because I was close to 10 weeks pregnant at that point. |
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| I've not had this experience but I've had a miscarriage where the HCG values were too low and then started to drop. If your HCG levels are dropping and you are bleeding you are likely having a MC but you are so early that you most likely don't need to do anything. If you have a doubt then I wouldn't do anything and let nature takes it course. I know this is hard especially when it is so hard to actually get a +HPT. |
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| I have accepted that I am in deed having a miscarriage. I have been trying to just relax and let everything happen. But there are all these unanswered questions that more than likely will never have answers. So I am looking towards the future. I want to TTC soon as I feel if I wait much longer then there could be more complications. I have two beautiful daughters that are 10, and 7. Could it be that my body had not been pregnant in so long that it wasn't prepared? Whats the likely hood that I will M/C if I have had to previous simple easy pregnancies? Grrr this is so frustrating. |
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Early micarriages are unfortunately very common. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with your body, or even that your body wasn't ready. Sometimes the cells don't divide right and the pregnancy stops. It's still a loss, of course, and I'm very sorry.
One quick bit of advice: go see your doctor in a week or so to confirm that your HCG is continuing to drop. If it goes up, you may well have an ectopic pregnancy, which could be quite dangerous. This was my experience earlier this year -- low HCG, light bleeding that I thought was a miscarriage, but then slightly higher HGC the next week, not lower. At that point I was at six weeks and they were able to see the embryo in my left tube using an internal ultrasound. (It didn't show up on the external ultrasound.) Anyway, if your HCG keeps going down, you're on the right track, but the most cautious thing to do is to keep testing each week or so until it's back to zero. Above all else, good luck!! |
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Thank you for all of your post. I have found the most comfort in reading that many other woman have experienced this before, even though I feel for each one of them. Its so much easier hearing that I'm not alone with all these questions that go unanswered. Also that many woman go on to have a perfect pregnancy after m/c. I have an appointment with my Dr. but they didn't get me in until the 13th of Aug. I think that seem so far away to just let me go till then. I am still bleeding, however now it is the flow of a period so am now on a full period or is this still the m/c? So many questions and no one to really ask.
Once again TY you to all of you who have posted you will never know how much this is helping me. |
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| I am so sorry you have to go through this. My early miscarriage proceeded just like a period, once it got started. If the bleeding continues for more than a few days, you should call your doctor. Good luck. |
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Mine was the same way. |
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Hey can someone help me with all the lil code words
TTC- Trying to C DH- OP- MC- Miscarriage HP- HPT-Home Pregnancy Test |
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Ahhhh that makes sense now. I wasn't always sure what I was reading. 
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If you want to see if your HCG is almost at 0, you could also take a HPT after you stop bleeding. You probably want to see your doctor to ensure it eventually hits 0, but when I was going through this, I really wasn't up for multiple trips to the OB's office. And yes, it totally sucks to be taking HPTs to make sure the pregnancy is going away, when you would normally want to celebrate a positive.
Take care, OP. It is really hard, so try to treat yourself with something and know that you're strong, and you will get through it. |
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| i was bleeding for 8days first it start as light bleeding on the 16 of sep. only for one day then it come back on the 21 of sep heavely for 8day i had to see my GP he give me some tablet which did not help. i went back he give me some diferent table which help i dont know if i was havin a miscariage has this ever happen to any one and they was having a micariage. |