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DS is 14 mo old and doesn't have a particular toy or blankie or anything that he carries around, must have for naps, etc. I think he's a well-balanced, perfect child  and he goes down pretty easily for naps and bedtime. Am I missing something here- rather, is he missing something? I hate to think that he is missing out on a comforting type of thing. When he's upset, he just wants to be held and snuggle his head on our shoulders. I know this isn't a "good grief what a bad mom!" question, I'm just curious...
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Anonymous
| Mine isn't quite as old as yours, but my nearly 9 month old has not really attached to anything either. I've put the same little stuffed lamb in his bed with him since about 5 months and I hold it with him when I rock him at night and for naps, but he really doesn't seem to care whether it's there or not. It's something I've been wondering about too though . . . Curious what others have to say. |
Anonymous
| My 3.5 year old never had a lovey. The closest thing she had to one was her pacifier. |
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| It sounds perfectly fine to me. I think loveys are probably helpful for little ones that don't have good self-soothing skills, but it sounds like yours does not struggle with that. I wish our son would take on a lovey because he DOES struggle with falling and staying asleep, and gets frustrated easily. I think a lovey would help him, but he's not interested. He'd rather carry around a remote control or telephone. |
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My 14 month old doesn't have one either. One of my friends said her kids didn't really get one until they started going to daycare and she packed a special blanket for them to have for naptime. They attached to the blankets because it was a reminder of home.
My ds is home all the time, so I have no idea if that theory is true or not. |
Anonymous
Our son has a favorite blanket that he likes to drag with him-I don't care, but my husband won't let him carry it around. He doesn't get upset when his daddy puts it back in his crib, but I feel bad for him. I'd call it his lovey. I need to wash it 
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Anonymous
| I agree, I don't think there is anything wrong with not having one. My DD couldn't get to sleep on her own after we stopped swaddling , so we introduced her lovey, which worked like a charm. Be happy - it's one less thing to worry about losing ! |
Anonymous
| count your lucky stars! My daughter (almost 2.5) has never been attached to anything and it makes life so much easier! She takes a different animal to daycare every day! |
Anonymous
Really depends on the child. My youngest and oldest both had/have loveys. The middle one could care less. But I think he justs wants to be different than his siblings.  It's so much easier if they don't have one. We lost the little one's lovey once and it was a nightmare. Had to find another one on Ebay for way too much money.
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| My 18-month old doesn't have a lovey and I tried to give her one. I read that it was good for them to have a lovey for self-soothing and security but she just doesn't seem to care. We still have the same lamb/blanket lovey in her crib (from 3 months old) everyday and have brought it with us places but she doesn't care about it at all. She is a great sleeper and doesn't suck her thumb or need a paci...although we still use paci at ngiht. I think it depends on the child and if they don't have the interest it's fine. |
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I never had a lovey. Of course, I am a sniveling mess. And an ax-murderer.
No, no, I'm totally normal and happy.  I wouldn't worry about it!
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Anonymous
| Our DC doesn't have a lovey either. I tried, but he just doesn't care. He's 2.5 y.o., still doing fine. |
Anonymous
So true! |