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I'm trying to figure out what is the correct etiquette in this situation. My son tried out for a new club and made one of their top teams. His current club had already told us that he was not eligible to even try out for their top teams. So we have accepted our spot on the new clubs team. Our current clubs tryouts for classic teams are in a week. I don't want to burn any bridges. Should we have our child attend the tryouts even though we won't be accepting a spot? I don't want to seem rude by just not showing up but also don't want to potentially take a spot away from another child when we know we will not accept the position. Thanks for any insight!
Background:
My son was on a u9/u10 team this season for a small soccer club. I wasn't sure that they would even be able to field a u9/u10 team for this upcoming season so we had come up with another club to try out for if it looked like there would not be enough kids. They did have 9 kids come out for the u9/u10 team so i think they will have enough for a team. My issue i guess is that at some point this small club will not have a team for my child or they will try to play him up (more than one age group) because that is the only team they can put a team together.

Questions:

1) If we still go to the other teams tryout to just get a feel for the team even though I'm pretty sure we'll stick with the original small club next year is this ok? I guess I'm worried if they do offer him a position this year and we decline but then try out again next year they may write him off if he had previously not accepted their offer?

2) is it easier to make a bigger clubs team when moving up an age group where the play size changes (i.e. trying out at u11 because the players go from 7 to 9) or does this not matter?

3) The small club only offers 2 tournaments a year (one spring one fall) and they try to make both local, we haven't done our spring tournament but in the fall two of the three teams we played in the tournament were from our league so didn't get exposure to different teams which was annoying to me. Most other clubs seem to do 3-4 tournaments a year? I'm thinking this doesn't really matter at such a young age but should i factor this in the decision?
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