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Why would someone say "Yuck" to Cleveland Park? I don't want to spin my wheels there if its truly that bad.
Wow... this is all so helpful! I feel like we have honed in on Georgetown b/c of its name familiarity. I like the suggestions of where we can get more bang for our buck. I will start looking around some of these other places. And I would like being near a metro (and had no idea Georgetown is not good for this). So again, thank you for your replies!
As I just learned in therapy last week, you want to avoid "you" statements when speaking to someone like that. And focus on "I" statements.
I feel _______
when _______
I'd like/need ________
OR I'm going to ________ (consequence - but don't get this confused with threat/ultimatum).
So in your case...
I feel DC is losing his/her voice when asked a question but the question is answered for him/her. I'd like to give him/her a chance to speak for him/herself OR he/she will remain silent and not gain the confidence to speak for him/herself.
If you say this and the incidents get worse, keep increasing the consequence after the word "OR."
...OR DC will become an adult that is afraid to speak up for him/herself.
...OR I will start interrupting to give him/her a chance to speak. (IDK - something like that).
The word "you" is sometimes unavoidable (like in the "I'd like/need" row). But this gets you in the practice of not saying "you" so much. Someone who is controlling needs to understand how the situation makes you feel and the clear repercussions you are worried about. Without hearing "you" as much as possible as "you" is more tied to blaming which could anger a controlling person.
Don't NOT assert yourself as this is important for your child to start overcoming now. You don't want your child 35 and in meetings at work afraid to speak up, and you saying then "I wish I helped him/her out when they were younger." Think about your adult child every time you confront the controlling mom. That should be enough to help you stand your ground.
Same thing with fighting in front of the kids - you need to remove them from that situation. It will affect how they are as adults as well. You can use the same sentence structure:
I feel worried when there is yelling and fighting in front of the kids. I'd like for that to happen behind closed doors or I will immediately take the kids outside and walk around the block until things have cooled down.
...OR I will take the kids on an errand until things have calmed down.
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...OR I will demand we go to counseling so we can both learn fair fighting mechanisms.
Good luck!
I feel _______
when _______
I'd like/need ________
OR I'm going to ________ (consequence - but don't get this confused with threat/ultimatum).
So in your case...
I feel DC is losing his/her voice when asked a question but the question is answered for him/her. I'd like to give him/her a chance to speak for him/herself OR he/she will remain silent and not gain the confidence to speak for him/herself.
If you say this and the incidents get worse, keep increasing the consequence after the word "OR."
...OR DC will become an adult that is afraid to speak up for him/herself.
...OR I will start interrupting to give him/her a chance to speak. (IDK - something like that).
The word "you" is sometimes unavoidable (like in the "I'd like/need" row). But this gets you in the practice of not saying "you" so much. Someone who is controlling needs to understand how the situation makes you feel and the clear repercussions you are worried about. Without hearing "you" as much as possible as "you" is more tied to blaming which could anger a controlling person.
Don't NOT assert yourself as this is important for your child to start overcoming now. You don't want your child 35 and in meetings at work afraid to speak up, and you saying then "I wish I helped him/her out when they were younger." Think about your adult child every time you confront the controlling mom. That should be enough to help you stand your ground.
Same thing with fighting in front of the kids - you need to remove them from that situation. It will affect how they are as adults as well. You can use the same sentence structure:
I feel worried when there is yelling and fighting in front of the kids. I'd like for that to happen behind closed doors or I will immediately take the kids outside and walk around the block until things have cooled down.
...OR I will take the kids on an errand until things have calmed down.
all the way to
...OR I will demand we go to counseling so we can both learn fair fighting mechanisms.
Good luck!
Hello! My girls are 6, 3 and 3 months old. We are moving to the DC area from Dallas and we do not want to live in the suburbs. We are honing in on Georgetown (for a more urban feel) with a $1M-$1.5M home price range - and the places we are looking at online say the elementary school they can attend is Hyde-Addison. In fact, I was surprised to see so many schools online ranking 10/10 (based on GreatSchools) as I realize that private school fares better around DC versus public school.
My questions are:
1) Can I trust these GreatSchool rankings?
2) Are their certain neighborhoods in and right around DC that do offer a decent elementary school that fit with my home price range budget ($1M-$1.5M)?
3) If anyone can list the known good public elementary schools, I can hone my real estate search around that.
Thanks!!
My questions are:
1) Can I trust these GreatSchool rankings?
2) Are their certain neighborhoods in and right around DC that do offer a decent elementary school that fit with my home price range budget ($1M-$1.5M)?
3) If anyone can list the known good public elementary schools, I can hone my real estate search around that.
Thanks!!