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Anonymous wrote:If you are younger and wearing a ring Just be sure to explain you are done having kids.
this issue shouldn't even come up in a job interview. Your personal life is no ones business if you don't want it to be, especially if you're not yet an employee there.
I wouldn't wear an engagement ring just because I wouldn't want to draw attention to the "she'll spend all day wedding planning" thing, but even without it on, an interviewer shouldn't assume anything especially in a city where many women are married older and/or have children older. Or are in same sex marriages.
I'm a fed in an agency so tight for money we have to buy our own tissues.
I've had a couple other job offers recently, but given that I'm pregnant (and these jobs were ridiculous pay cuts), it's a terrible time to leave my job since I have saved up a ton of leave and would have no rights under FMLA at a new position. So I'm sticking it out.
However, I've mentioned to my boss and the deputy that I'd like to return part time - not forever, but at least for a good chunk of the first year. It might be forever, I don't know. I don't know the logistics of it all yet - finding a part time nanny share, maybe I'll want to come back FT before I thought. I don't know, I just know that I don't want the pressure to come back full time as a FTM. Not working is not an option financially for us. And no, we don't live beyond our means, before I get chewed out by some SAHM about how "anyone can make it work" (having a husband who has been deployed to war twice made finding a stable job difficult until recently, but he has a good career path now, thankfully). So please don't say this is an option because it currently isn't.
What type of things do I ned to outline to my supervisor about my allowing me to work PT would benefit the office? I work with Congress, and they aren't in 5 days a week. I'm always on my blackberry responding even though I'm not paid for that time. Much of the work I do could be done from home, but we have a no telework policy. I'm at a loss for how to outline why it's beneficial to the office beyond retaining me and having me produce the same work for less cost to the Staff. There is no one on the Staff that is currently PT according to HR.
How did you sell this? What did you do if your boss said no? If you're a boss, what do you want to hear your employee say that would make this arrangement seem beneficial to everyone? If you asked for such an arrangement, did the fact that other civilians might ask for the same thing scare your boss into denying it?
I've had a couple other job offers recently, but given that I'm pregnant (and these jobs were ridiculous pay cuts), it's a terrible time to leave my job since I have saved up a ton of leave and would have no rights under FMLA at a new position. So I'm sticking it out.
However, I've mentioned to my boss and the deputy that I'd like to return part time - not forever, but at least for a good chunk of the first year. It might be forever, I don't know. I don't know the logistics of it all yet - finding a part time nanny share, maybe I'll want to come back FT before I thought. I don't know, I just know that I don't want the pressure to come back full time as a FTM. Not working is not an option financially for us. And no, we don't live beyond our means, before I get chewed out by some SAHM about how "anyone can make it work" (having a husband who has been deployed to war twice made finding a stable job difficult until recently, but he has a good career path now, thankfully). So please don't say this is an option because it currently isn't.
What type of things do I ned to outline to my supervisor about my allowing me to work PT would benefit the office? I work with Congress, and they aren't in 5 days a week. I'm always on my blackberry responding even though I'm not paid for that time. Much of the work I do could be done from home, but we have a no telework policy. I'm at a loss for how to outline why it's beneficial to the office beyond retaining me and having me produce the same work for less cost to the Staff. There is no one on the Staff that is currently PT according to HR.
How did you sell this? What did you do if your boss said no? If you're a boss, what do you want to hear your employee say that would make this arrangement seem beneficial to everyone? If you asked for such an arrangement, did the fact that other civilians might ask for the same thing scare your boss into denying it?
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Hi afield - thanks for the update! I have a friend to just had twins and they were due really close to 39 weeks. So you never know! Congrats on hitting 16W. It's a nice milestone - I look forward to hitting it on Friday!
I believe the only real issue will be those prepaid guaranteed cycle packages like Shady Grove offers.
I would not wait until you've have an eval to worry about it - seriously. It will depend on a lot of factors, many more important than weight. Weight CAN be an issue, but isn't always.
I would not wait until you've have an eval to worry about it - seriously. It will depend on a lot of factors, many more important than weight. Weight CAN be an issue, but isn't always.
I went to GW - no one said one word about my weight.
At home, I drink brita filtered water. At work, we have a water cooler. I don't mind tap water - but I'm in DC, so not sure if some people's tap water is worse than others.
I went to college in Pittsburgh which has TERRIBLE tap water! So I hear you on not being able to drink it.
Try a soda stream if you like soda. It doesn't need electricity, so you can have it anywhere - work or home. The bottles that come with it are BPA free.
I went to college in Pittsburgh which has TERRIBLE tap water! So I hear you on not being able to drink it.
Try a soda stream if you like soda. It doesn't need electricity, so you can have it anywhere - work or home. The bottles that come with it are BPA free.
The one real "hippy" environmental thing I try to stick with is avoiding BPA (and some other chems like parabens) because I've read way too much research. This includes trying to cut down on cans (since most are lined with BPA). I buy milk in a glass container and to me, it tastes better. It also lasts a lot longer. But I don't think BUYING juice in a plastic container that you don't reuse will hurt you.
I drink water all day, I make one trip to starbucks and have a half black/half passion unsweetened iced tea (passion is decaf). I was into grapefruit juice for a while, too.
Do you have a soda stream? If not, that is a great product - you can flavor water the way you want. A little squirt of the syrup is still WAY better than soda. I often make it and flavor it with sliced citrus or cucumber/mint. It's great. A bit pitcher of filtered water with the same left in the fridge to flavor is also great.
I drink water all day, I make one trip to starbucks and have a half black/half passion unsweetened iced tea (passion is decaf). I was into grapefruit juice for a while, too.
Do you have a soda stream? If not, that is a great product - you can flavor water the way you want. A little squirt of the syrup is still WAY better than soda. I often make it and flavor it with sliced citrus or cucumber/mint. It's great. A bit pitcher of filtered water with the same left in the fridge to flavor is also great.
Anonymous wrote: Believe it says "go fuck yourself". I'll have to double check.
LOL
+1
I go twice a week to two different studios. I'm sure some practice at home, but I don't.
Each class is about 90 minutes long when all is said and done.
Each class is about 90 minutes long when all is said and done.
How is everyone?
Had a dr appointment today - GD test went great...sugar was 102! Weight gain is on target (I didn't ask for the number....lol).
I need to buy maternity pants today.
How is everyone else?
When is the "Feeling" for a meet up?
Had a dr appointment today - GD test went great...sugar was 102! Weight gain is on target (I didn't ask for the number....lol).
I need to buy maternity pants today.
How is everyone else?
When is the "Feeling" for a meet up?
It is definitely not too early for yoga! I started at 11 weeks, I think...and I could have started earlier but I had limits on physical activity because I was a fertility patient.
I highly recommend Yoga District's prenatal class with Brittney because she starts every class with everyone introducing themselves. The women are very nice and not stuffy. I can't say the same for Tranquil Space where women get in, get out, and no one really talks.
Definitely give it a try! It'll make it easier on you the bigger you get, too, if you start early. I'm glad I didn't wait.
Congratulations!
I highly recommend Yoga District's prenatal class with Brittney because she starts every class with everyone introducing themselves. The women are very nice and not stuffy. I can't say the same for Tranquil Space where women get in, get out, and no one really talks.
Definitely give it a try! It'll make it easier on you the bigger you get, too, if you start early. I'm glad I didn't wait.
Congratulations!
Anonymous wrote:
Let's just say this once more. After I read this I was like huh? I hate hair, and I don't want it there. Has nothing to do with porn. If that were the case I would be bleaching my anus too.
I don't think that's safe to do during pregnancy....
/joke
Hi all
been a tough few days here. We were planning to visit family next week to share the pregnancy news in person. My cousin (who I call my aunt) ended up passing away two nights ago - funeral tomorrow. I am pretty upset that I was selfish enough to NOT tell her over the phone. I have the rest of the family to tell, but somehow it seems selfish to do it when they are mourning.
And my mom said pregnant women shouldn't go to cemetaries. So...trying to navigate that whole thing.
But...blurg. So much fun. I at least get to see family, but under these circumstances it's never fun.
hope you all have a much better weekend ahead than I do!
been a tough few days here. We were planning to visit family next week to share the pregnancy news in person. My cousin (who I call my aunt) ended up passing away two nights ago - funeral tomorrow. I am pretty upset that I was selfish enough to NOT tell her over the phone. I have the rest of the family to tell, but somehow it seems selfish to do it when they are mourning.
And my mom said pregnant women shouldn't go to cemetaries. So...trying to navigate that whole thing.
But...blurg. So much fun. I at least get to see family, but under these circumstances it's never fun.
hope you all have a much better weekend ahead than I do!
I'm not sure about early in pregnancy, but I got my close girl friend an afternoon at the spa at around 8 months - prenatal massage, pedicure, manicure. She NEVER would have treated herself to this, and she was so happy to have the time away from being the pregnant lady and just relax.
Personal care products that are baby friendly like PP mentioned (Earth Mama) would be nice, too. I also agree that I wouldn't have been comfortable getting gifts at 3 months, but that's a personal preference.
Personal care products that are baby friendly like PP mentioned (Earth Mama) would be nice, too. I also agree that I wouldn't have been comfortable getting gifts at 3 months, but that's a personal preference.