no family gatherings until all adults are vaccinated

[Anonymous]

is this a reasonable stance to still stick to? the kids are desperate to see eachother but there are several holds out (adults) who are not yet vaccinated. should we roll the dice to see extended family again or stick to our original plan? everything feels less scary now that most of us are vaccinated but I wonder if that's naïve to think that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:is this a reasonable stance to still stick to? the kids are desperate to see eachother but there are several holds out (adults) who are not yet vaccinated. should we roll the dice to see extended family again or stick to our original plan? everything feels less scary now that most of us are vaccinated but I wonder if that's naïve to think that way.

This is 100% reasonable.

[Anonymous]

No, it's not reasonable. Let your kids see their cousins. It's the unvaccinated adults who are putting themselves at risk; not you.

[Anonymous]

If you really care maybe you can do an outdoor gathering.

[Anonymous]

Outdoors is fine. Coordinate that type of outing.

[Anonymous]

It depends on your situation... my husband would gladly forego family visits or other sorts of exposure, to the disappointment of everyone around him, just because he wants to wait for the Novavax vaccine ***which has just been delayed***. So I told him that life would go on as if he were vaccinated. Which isn't saying much in terms of added exposure, since we have young children that can't receive any vaccines yet. But I will invite the grandparents to stay with us, just like every summer, we will have outdoor gatherings with friends, and go to restaurants, etc...

I refuse to be taken hostage by reluctant adults dragging their feet.

[Anonymous]

We will see my mother-in-law, who is refusing to get vaccinated. She also refuses to fly or drive (in her 60s), so there's some anxiety issues there.

I would love to say no, just to encourage her to take the step, but it's not a hill I'm going to die on.

[Anonymous]

Stick to original plan of all involved adults vaccinated. If their parents aren't vaccinated, the cousins are more likely to get sick and spread it to your kids.

If it's grandma or grandpa who refuses to get vaccinated instead, then I would have something outside and let them roll the dice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends on your situation... my husband would gladly forego family visits or other sorts of exposure, to the disappointment of everyone around him, just because he wants to wait for the Novavax vaccine ***which has just been delayed***. So I told him that life would go on as if he were vaccinated. Which isn't saying much in terms of added exposure, since we have young children that can't receive any vaccines yet. But I will invite the grandparents to stay with us, just like every summer, we will have outdoor gatherings with friends, and go to restaurants, etc...

I refuse to be taken hostage by reluctant adults dragging their feet.

Omg. Your DH must be reading the same crazy man websites as my DH. Luckily I was able to convince him to get the J&J vax - I just made the appointment and he went. He was irrationally convinced that the "mRNA technology is too new and not safe!" No amount of reasoning with him could change his mind. Of course the very next day, jokes on him, turns out the "established" adenovirus vector technology is actually more risky than mRNA.

[Anonymous]

Yes until the kids are vaccinated. Once everyone in my house is vaccinated, unvaccinated people pose an extremely low risk to us. (To themselves and society - different question.)

[Anonymous]

Do outside.

[Anonymous]

For us, yes.
Fortunately we are all on the same page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, it's not reasonable. Let your kids see their cousins. It's the unvaccinated adults who are putting themselves at risk; not you.

Agreed. Or encourage masks? Or meet outdoors.

Plenty of options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends on your situation... my husband would gladly forego family visits or other sorts of exposure, to the disappointment of everyone around him, just because he wants to wait for the Novavax vaccine ***which has just been delayed***. So I told him that life would go on as if he were vaccinated. Which isn't saying much in terms of added exposure, since we have young children that can't receive any vaccines yet. But I will invite the grandparents to stay with us, just like every summer, we will have outdoor gatherings with friends, and go to restaurants, etc...

I refuse to be taken hostage by reluctant adults dragging their feet.

Omg. Your DH must be reading the same crazy man websites as my DH. Luckily I was able to convince him to get the J&J vax - I just made the appointment and he went. He was irrationally convinced that the "mRNA technology is too new and not safe!" No amount of reasoning with him could change his mind. Of course the very next day, jokes on him, turns out the "established" adenovirus vector technology is actually more risky than mRNA.

What happened the next day?

[Anonymous]

We are having our first family gathering this weekend. 6 kids, none of whom have been vaccinated. And 10 adults, all of whom will be 100% vaccinated. The last person to get their 2nd shot is fully vaccinated as of tomorrow.

I'd use it as a way to pressure the holdouts. I'm not letting unvaccinated adults near my kids if I can help it. They won't be able to be vaccinated for 6 months or so.