how teach DD that once she gives something away....
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Anonymous
| How do you teach children that once they give something of theirs to another child/sibling that they cannot take it back? My kids do not seem to get it and I don't know how to teach it to them. |
Anonymous
| I think this is something that time teaches. If they give something away and then they're sad to lose it, they'll learn not to. |
Anonymous
This. It's kind of one of those life lessons. Give Sarah your Barbie and don't get it back, well next time when you go to give Molly your Barbie you'll remember that means you won't get it back. So you don't give it to her. Have you been making the sibling give it back? |
Anonymous
| Teach them to lend instead of give. |
Anonymous
| How old are your children? |
Anonymous
Sibling is different than another child. Siblings lend each other things. Why is your child giving a friend something anyway? |
Anonymous
| Natural consequences. |
Anonymous
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First explain the idea of gifts (I'm sure the child has received some)
Then talk about why we give gifts: to make someone feel good Then talk about what would happen if we gave someone a gift and then later tried to take it back: the person would feel bad, the opposite of what we want. Finally talk about how it feels good to pick out a gift that will make someone we love happy. Lesson two is on lending - the idea that we can temporarily give someone something we already own, with the expectation that they will give it back, kind of like when we borrow things from the library. However, it's important to note that sometimes things get lost or forgotten and that if you really truly cannot bear the thought of losing an item, you should probably not lend it. |