Getting two twin XL beds

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have a king size bed that allegedly has good motion transfer control but in reality we both wake each other up many times at night and are considering swapping out the king bed for two twin XLs. Has anyone considered / done this? I'm wondering if:
1) it will really help w/ motion transfer and
2) if it will affect sex life/cuddling!

[Anonymous]

Yes, it will help sleep enormously! My dh and I did this, and will never go back. W3e both have our own covers and can toss and turn as much as we have to.

Now for cuddling, it was ok when we had two regular XL twin beds, but when those wore out and replaced them with two adjustable twin beds, it's been harder. Somehow they are harder to push together than the others.

Sex life = no change with any of it.

[Anonymous]

I had two twin XL mattresses pushed together with adjustable bases for the last few years of my marriage. It did impact things. There was little to no cuddling. Sex was doable with one person going to the other persons side but it wasn’t ideal. In retrospect I should have done away with adjusting the bases and gotten a king mattress topper to at least help bridge the gap some. I’d vote for not doing it.

[Anonymous]

We have a strap like a belt that holds our 2 mattresses together, a foam insert to fill in the gap in the middle, and we have king sized (shared) covers. No issues at all.

[Anonymous]

We have a sleep number which is two air beds in a sack and it is great for no motion transfer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a strap like a belt that holds our 2 mattresses together, a foam insert to fill in the gap in the middle, and we have king sized (shared) covers. No issues at all.

+1

[Anonymous]

This reminds me of 1950s shows like I Love Lucy. I also grew up orthodox Jewish, and more religious couples did the two bed thing so that they would be able to separate for two weeks of the month where the woman was “unpure” during and after her period, right up until ovulation time. It was the religious way of maintaining that sex and affection are for procreation.

It is definitely much harder to cuddle with two beds. I’d keep the king.

[Anonymous]

My wife was always waking me up in the middle of the night so I demanded we get a foam bed. It was $3500 but worth it. Now when she moves around the bed does not move. I sleep so much better at night. She gets to stay home with one 9 year old kid. I run four businesses and she doesn't get why I was so upset for years due to her waking me up.