Posting on Facebook when child gets college acceptance

[Anonymous]

Is there a way for parents to do this that isn’t braggy or obnoxious? Also don’t want to be insensitive, since some people’s kids may have gotten rejections. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

just don't do it. pick up a phone or send an email to close friends and family and forget about broadcasting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:just don't do it. pick up a phone or send an email to close friends and family and forget about broadcasting

OP could limit the audience on the FB post, but agree, easier to just tell people directly.

[Anonymous]

Kid in the school sweatshirt, done.

You’re allowed to brag. And the kids who got rejected aren’t your problem.

[Anonymous]

I always thought the general rule of thumb was it's ok to post once your kid knows where he's going (ie. kid in the sweatshirt) but never post individual acceptances. If your kid got accepted ED recently, I'd probably avoid posting right now (even tho he does technically know where he's going) to be sensitive to the fact that others may have gotten rejected ED. If you are going to make a post, I'd wait until spring.

[Anonymous]

Do you mean the parent posts the kid's acceptance. I think if you have to ask, you know it's not going to feel good. You'll get a lot of nice responses, but really, is it worth it? For your own sake, really, you shouldn't. For people to whom it's important, they'll know. Otherwise, yeah, it's just bragging. I know it's exciting (well, I don't yet, we're actually on pins and needles in the waiting period), but if you must let people know on Facebook, I guess find a way at some point to subtley get a shot of them in the school sweatshirt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always thought the general rule of thumb was it's ok to post once your kid knows where he's going (ie. kid in the sweatshirt) but never post individual acceptances. If your kid got accepted ED recently, I'd probably avoid posting right now (even tho he does technically know where he's going) to be sensitive to the fact that others may have gotten rejected ED. If you are going to make a post, I'd wait until spring.

Why the hell do you have to be sensitive? That’s so stupid. Post what you want.

[Anonymous]

My kid's not there yet, but why not just tell when people ask? It's not your news anyway - it's your kid's news. Let them tell IF people ask.

[Anonymous]

Posted oldest kid’s news in May a couple of years ago. Will do the same with subsequent kids- even if it is an ED decision. Most kids are happy with their results by then.

[Anonymous]

No. It's a very hard no. Once your kid has decided where s/he is going and is telling people, ASK THEM if you can announce it on social media.

My son would have been FURIOUS if I'd announced it each time he got into a school. My daughter would have been embarrassed and angry and thought less of me.

[Anonymous]

Only announce the school they plan to attend, not every acceptance. We did share DD’s announcement, which was ED. No one else we know applied to her college although great school for her. I think each family has to decide for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Don't do it now. Post a photo or congrats to your kid when they start school, at which point it makes sense to mention the school. Or when they graduate, you can say you are so proud they are going to X. Talking up an acceptance is weird and potentially very insensitive to the many kids who haven't heard yet (or may have already received a rejection). Let the dust settle. You can celebrate privately but there is absolutely no harm to you in waiting to celebrate publicly until the process is completed for your child's friends and classmates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kid in the school sweatshirt, done.

You’re allowed to brag. And the kids who got rejected aren’t your problem.

This!

[Anonymous]

Interesting how much disagreement there is on this subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kid in the school sweatshirt, done.

You’re allowed to brag. And the kids who got rejected aren’t your problem.

This!

The people in this camp have no idea how much people roll their eyes at them, even the ones who like the post. It shows such a startling lack of self-awareness. Call grandma and tell your closest friends offline. Anything else you do with regards to social media is tone deaf.