Baby shower for second baby

[Anonymous]

Maybe I'm old school, but I feel half odd and guilted over my friend wanting to host a baby shower for me. This is my second child and first girl, so the gifts would be pink clothes and the likes, nothing more than that. I can just hear my mother in the background with her "that's not very proper" quips, ug. How common is it in these days to have second baby showers?

[Anonymous]

I have read these questions before, and still do not understand the problem with 10 baby showers. It is celebrating the child. Every child deserves to be celebrated. It is not selfish or wrong to have a party for a child. Why do the 2nd children only deserve hand me downs? Bull !@#! Don't feel bad about your friend giving you a shower. She is a nice friend that realizes it isn't about you, it is about the baby. Enjoy the party

[Anonymous]

There was a recent post about this with many, many answers. If my recollection is accurate, most people thought it was pretty tacky. But there were suggestions for how to make it less so (like not registering) if you really wanted one.

[Anonymous]

why is it tacky? I really would like a reasonable answer to this question. What is tacky to me is all the cheap people that do not want to buy something for the baby. Geez, pick different friends if they think it is tacky, or don't invitet those that would look down on a shower for the 2nd baby. See if they like being left out of the celebration. I would hate to tell my second baby, sorry, some of my friends thought it would be tacky for me to celebrate you with a shower, so in your baby book that page is empty.

[Anonymous]

There was a VERY long thread about this recently. Many agreed that a "Baby Sprinkle" was the way to go. Instead of "showering" the mom-to-be with big gifts, they "sprinkle" you with necessities like diapers, wipes, lotions, clothes, etc... It is great to have friends who want to celebrate with you!

[Anonymous]

Second, third, fourth baby showers being tacky are an American hang up. Around the world, all babies are celebrated... except where they are superstitious about baby showers in general. A lot of moms answered the previous post in a really rude, judging way. Your friend wants to throw you a party. You ask her not to go to too much trouble. You keep it small. You register if you want to but don't supply the registry information unless asked. For us, with #2, my best friend insisted. I let her do it but didn't let it get out of control. Some people brought gifts; others didn't. I opened the gifts the next day privately. This time we had my husband and his guy friends present, good food and lots of beer.

Every baby deserves to be celebrated. And your older baby can participate and get excited for the new baby. Lots of little toddlers and babies were here. It was different.

[Anonymous]

I'd celebrate after the baby comes, not before. But if you do have a party before you can take care of the "tackiness" by requesting that people not bring gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd celebrate after the baby comes, not before. But if you do have a party before you can take care of the "tackiness" by requesting that people not bring gifts.

Agree 100%.

OP - I just posted something on that old thread to bump it to the top so you could see it.

[Anonymous]

Actually, it's even more tacky to request "no gifts" because then it's presumed gifts will be given.

Host a celebration, not a shower if you're really concerned about what others think. PP's suggestion of a party with DH and bringing in some male friends is a fun idea. You could even include your friend's children.