People who were teens in 80's... what did you think of 16 candles at the time?

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So, honestly, at the time I felt weird about it. All my friends loved it and The Breakfast Club, and I felt like I didn't get it. I couldn't pick out why it made me uncomfortable, just that it did make me uncomfortable. I kept my discomfort buried because we were all supposed to like it. But I hated watching them.

As an adult I understand why. I was sexually assaulted when I was 13 by an older teen boy, and the rape and lack of consent were obviously hard for me to take in. The racism too, because after the assault I was the weird girl and I understood what it was like to be mocked.

I don't miss the 80s at all.

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I saw those movies but no one in them looked like me or reflected me so I didn't care. And I don't care now.

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I still love Valley Girl because Nicolas Cage as Randy.

And Little Darlings was actually (and still is) pretty great when you watch it today. Also, Matt Dillon.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sad everyone is denigrating 80s movies. Because if you do that, your throwing our (sexist) music under the bus too. And if you so that, then you lose our spirit.

What I loved about the 80s is that we were scrappy and fun and a little wild. We did outrageous things and it was OKAY.

It was acceptable back then. It is not today, and I'm glad. Having sex with someone who is passed out is considered rape now. It wasn't back then.

I’m glad about that too, but I still love the 80s movies.

I haven't watched 16 Candles in a long time but I remember liking it when I did see it - typical 80's flick. I don't really remember the movie very well tbh so I can't speak about the controversial scenes being discussed here. But I want to point out that even back in the 80's it was NOT o.k. to have sex with or otherwise take advantage of a passed out person.

It's a movie. We knew that back then.

We knew it was bad but it was legal.

It seriously was not something that I heard of happening to anyone and I went to A LOT of parties. Yes, drunken hookups happened but nobody was having sex with anyone passed out cold - that would have been rape even back then.

Goody for you. But you are wrong, it happened all the time and my family is in law enforcement and they will tell you a passed out girl who reported a rape was called a “hoochie rape”... meaning she was a drunk slut and oh well he had sex with her she should not be a hoochie.

Hoochie? Who the hell even talks like that? I don't know where your family is from but I'm from the DC area and I attended a large public university in Virginia. Never have I once heard of a "hoochie rape".

You sound sheltered.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.urbandictionary.com/define.php%3fterm=hoochie&=true

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sad everyone is denigrating 80s movies. Because if you do that, your throwing our (sexist) music under the bus too. And if you so that, then you lose our spirit.

What I loved about the 80s is that we were scrappy and fun and a little wild. We did outrageous things and it was OKAY.

It was acceptable back then. It is not today, and I'm glad. Having sex with someone who is passed out is considered rape now. It wasn't back then.

I’m glad about that too, but I still love the 80s movies.

I haven't watched 16 Candles in a long time but I remember liking it when I did see it - typical 80's flick. I don't really remember the movie very well tbh so I can't speak about the controversial scenes being discussed here. But I want to point out that even back in the 80's it was NOT o.k. to have sex with or otherwise take advantage of a passed out person.

It's a movie. We knew that back then.

We knew it was bad but it was legal.

It seriously was not something that I heard of happening to anyone and I went to A LOT of parties. Yes, drunken hookups happened but nobody was having sex with anyone passed out cold - that would have been rape even back then.

Goody for you. But you are wrong, it happened all the time and my family is in law enforcement and they will tell you a passed out girl who reported a rape was called a “hoochie rape”... meaning she was a drunk slut and oh well he had sex with her she should not be a hoochie.

It most definitely happened.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember thinking it was hilarious. People just didn’t get offended over everything back then. We knew how to laugh at ourselves.

I don’t think “we” were laughing at ourselves. There was always an element of laughing at someone you didn’t identify with and rooting for the one you did. And since there wasn’t a diversity of perspectives telling the stories back in the 80’s its not like it was balanced as to who was the butt of the jokes and whose story was being told.

That said as a teen in the 80’s, I liked Breakfast Club. There were probably crazy plot lines that I am forgetting but I thought overall there was one about never knowing everything that goes on an anyone’s life and we having more in common than you might think with the different high school cliques. Never a huge fan of Sixteen Candles. I felt bad for Ducky and felt like the whole thing with Caroline was like seeing the popular person taken down a peg. Dirty Dancing, again probably worse than I remember but I remember liking that movie.

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I think Karate Kid holds up pretty well.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean ... it was the 80s. I was sleeping with my 11th grade English teacher and two other teachers mysteriously left halfway through the year under similar circumstances with other kids. Looking back, this was insane. At the time it seemed exciting.

Male teacher??

Yes. He was 28, I was 17. We had sex everywhere. His locked classroom, his car, his house. It horrifies me to think of a teacher preying on my teen daughter, but back in the day, it didn’t feel wrong.
The other two teachers were female and young. One was sleeping with the captain of the football team.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean ... it was the 80s. I was sleeping with my 11th grade English teacher and two other teachers mysteriously left halfway through the year under similar circumstances with other kids. Looking back, this was insane. At the time it seemed exciting.

Male teacher??

Yes. He was 28, I was 17. We had sex everywhere. His locked classroom, his car, his house. It horrifies me to think of a teacher preying on my teen daughter, but back in the day, it didn’t feel wrong.
The other two teachers were female and young. One was sleeping with the captain of the football team.

Wow! What state was that?

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Anonymous wrote:I mean ... it was the 80s. I was sleeping with my 11th grade English teacher and two other teachers mysteriously left halfway through the year under similar circumstances with other kids. Looking back, this was insane. At the time it seemed exciting.

Male teacher??

Yes. He was 28, I was 17. We had sex everywhere. His locked classroom, his car, his house. It horrifies me to think of a teacher preying on my teen daughter, but back in the day, it didn’t feel wrong.
The other two teachers were female and young. One was sleeping with the captain of the football team.

Wow! What state was that?

Maryland.

[Anonymous]

Different pp, I was at a private school in VA and one of the male English teachers was sleeping with one of the senior honors students. A couple of the single teachers were sleeping together, and there were teens getting drunk and getting pregnant. Most of their parents had them get abortions, even the parents who were "pro life."

There wasn't as much supervision as there was now. I was one of the nerdy boring teens who had overprotective parents, and was made fun of by my peers at the private school.

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Terminator holds up very well.

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Anonymous wrote:Terminator holds up very well.

Killer AI usually does

[Anonymous]

Fast times at Ridgemont High holds up. Last American Virgin too. The real ugliness of the teenage years.