I smacked my kid this morning

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I would not have let him miss the bus. Obviously, not your best parenting moment, but hang in there. Tomorrow is another day. When I make parenting mistakes, I own up to it with my kids at the end of the day, and they are forgiving. But, I do tell them *why* I was so upset, and they usually apologize if they did wrong, and own up to it.

I think you were in a tough spot. How do you make a child get on the bus if the child physically refuses to budge? I have seen parents allow their kids to not take the bus, and instead the parent will drive them to school. IMO, that's just giving in to your kid's tantrum.

They walk to school, with the parent following in the car, to be sure they’re safe. Parent signs them in, and they take whatever consequences are for being late, including a possible zero on the test, if they missed it.

And if they refuse to leave the house like in OP's kid's case?

I knew someone whose 12 year old refused to leave the house to go to school.

Strange, I’ve read the OPs original post several times and can’t find where she says the child refused to leave the house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I would not have let him miss the bus. Obviously, not your best parenting moment, but hang in there. Tomorrow is another day. When I make parenting mistakes, I own up to it with my kids at the end of the day, and they are forgiving. But, I do tell them *why* I was so upset, and they usually apologize if they did wrong, and own up to it.

I think you were in a tough spot. How do you make a child get on the bus if the child physically refuses to budge? I have seen parents allow their kids to not take the bus, and instead the parent will drive them to school. IMO, that's just giving in to your kid's tantrum.

They walk to school, with the parent following in the car, to be sure they’re safe. Parent signs them in, and they take whatever consequences are for being late, including a possible zero on the test, if they missed it.

And if they refuse to leave the house like in OP's kid's case?

I knew someone whose 12 year old refused to leave the house to go to school.

Well, I have no issues putting a 12 year old in the car, driving them to school and then throwing them over my shoulder to carry into school. And if I was reported for doing so? Laughable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s ok OP, I have been there.
Not ideal but it’s life.
Just don’t have him talk to a school counselor as I was reported to CPS in a similar situation. To add insult to injury, the counselor was pretty useless for the problem she was supposed to solve.

Ie. don’t let your child tell anyone you beat them, because no one will help you whip them into shape. I was hoping the counselor would help me best my child into submission, but they would only help me with parenting skills I didn’t want to apply.

It was a completely different problem, but whatever.

[Anonymous]

My mother smacked me once. We were both horrified, embarrassed, sad. I would never, ever do it to my child.

Those of you saying this is an effective and good way to parent: You’re wrong. You’re teaching your kid the wrong things. You’re hitting a kid IN THE FACE, something most parents punish their kids for doing. It’s scary that so many of you have internalized the idea that parental violence is ok in any way.