Fiance' just signed up for gay dating/hook up site

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The story doesn't sound right. What website sends an email with a plain text password in it nowadays?

None. Because this is a troll post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man are you all homophobic or what?

This has absolutely nothing to do with homophobia. It has to do with deception. They're supposed to be getting married!

Signed,

A gay person

[Anonymous]

Any update, OP? Are you okay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any update, OP? Are you okay?

Op is probably busy completing his math packet and summer reading for middle school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Dave, we need to talk. I know you have an account on gaybuddy.com. I'm guessing you might have purposely left your browser open so I would see it...or maybe not. It doesn't really matter. Bottom line is we can't get married. I'm obviously blindsided by this. I love you and I'm here for you if you want to talk, but we really don't have to if you don't want to. But you do have to man up and take responsibility for this. I'm not going to shoulder the burden of canceling the wedding myself. So let's talk about how to shut this down as quickly as possible."

great advice here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The story doesn't sound right. What website sends an email with a plain text password in it nowadays?

The website adam4adam, try it. You get a link to confirm your membership and in the link it shows your user name and password. Right in the email!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The story doesn't sound right. What website sends an email with a plain text password in it nowadays?

None. Because this is a troll post.

False. www.adam4adam.com Try it. You will see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any update, OP? Are you okay?

I'm op. Well, the wedding has been cancelled(venue called and cancelled, cancelled all other items possible). He has not told ANYONE. No family, no friends, no one. His bachelor party is in 3 weeks! His mom asked him about the hotel block (via text) and he told her that I have it and to contact me about it. So, I got a vm from her asking me to email her the info. I'm speechless. His fb status still says engaged, he has pics of us up as his cover and profile pic, pics of us as his twitter pic. Is it my business to tell HIS mother??? I love her to pieces. I haven't gotten back to her yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any update, OP? Are you okay?

I'm op. Well, the wedding has been cancelled(venue called and cancelled, cancelled all other items possible). He has not told ANYONE. No family, no friends, no one. His bachelor party is in 3 weeks! His mom asked him about the hotel block (via text) and he told her that I have it and to contact me about it. So, I got a vm from her asking me to email her the info. I'm speechless. His fb status still says engaged, he has pics of us up as his cover and profile pic, pics of us as his twitter pic. Is it my business to tell HIS mother??? I love her to pieces. I haven't gotten back to her yet.

I'm so sorry Op. he blew up his life, and he's obviously not ready to come out to anyone yet. I would tell his mom that this is his news and he needs to be the one to tell her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any update, OP? Are you okay?

I'm op. Well, the wedding has been cancelled(venue called and cancelled, cancelled all other items possible). He has not told ANYONE. No family, no friends, no one. His bachelor party is in 3 weeks! His mom asked him about the hotel block (via text) and he told her that I have it and to contact me about it. So, I got a vm from her asking me to email her the info. I'm speechless. His fb status still says engaged, he has pics of us up as his cover and profile pic, pics of us as his twitter pic. Is it my business to tell HIS mother??? I love her to pieces. I haven't gotten back to her yet.

Wow. Clearly avoiding is a strong point in this man.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry this has happened to you, OP. And now his deep denial of reality has you burdened with dealing with his own mom, etc. All of this supports that he is not a health partner and you're right to put a stop to wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry this has happened to you, OP. And now his deep denial of reality has you burdened with dealing with his own mom, etc. All of this supports that he is not a health partner and you're right to put a stop to wedding.

Totally agree - and am sorry as well. If it were my, I'd tell his mother even though it was his responsibility. Just because he is unwilling/unable to face his reality doesn't mean you shouldn't do the right thing which is making sure people aren't strung along. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry OP. I admire your courage to end things and move on to find someone who better deserves your love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any update, OP? Are you okay?

I'm op. Well, the wedding has been cancelled(venue called and cancelled, cancelled all other items possible). He has not told ANYONE. No family, no friends, no one. His bachelor party is in 3 weeks! His mom asked him about the hotel block (via text) and he told her that I have it and to contact me about it. So, I got a vm from her asking me to email her the info. I'm speechless. His fb status still says engaged, he has pics of us up as his cover and profile pic, pics of us as his twitter pic. Is it my business to tell HIS mother??? I love her to pieces. I haven't gotten back to her yet.

OP, it's not your job to tell his mother. However; if you do, she'll get YOUR version instead of her son's. If you say, "Ms. Smith, you need to talk to Larlo about this"--she's going to get some story where you look bad (the wedding is off bc you don't love her son/you cheated/you've got mental issues/you are a compulsive liar)

So I'd go for it. Call her back and tell her. Tell her too how much you love her and wished it would have worked out.

[Anonymous]

It's only gay if you push back.