Are there any all girls' schools in the DMV that don't have a drinking/partying culture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NCS is overwhelmingly non-partiers.

Agree with the others that you will find a few per grade at any school. What you want to avoid is a critical mass which is somewhat hard to predict because it varies by grade. However, they do seem to congregate at SR.

It varies for grade, honestly. I know my daughter's grade (she's now a senior) had a huge party group in sophomore year that she said was having parties every weekend with kids getting alcohol poisoning, drinking until they couldn't see 5ft in front of their face, etc. She says after sophomore year they chilled out but there is still a party group in her grade, although she says it's a very exclusive group (they apparently call themselves "the nest" and only allow "nesters" to go to the parties) and the other friend groups/girls aren't really partiers (most of the girls only go to parties after dances or for halloween).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NCS is overwhelmingly non-partiers.

Agree with the others that you will find a few per grade at any school. What you want to avoid is a critical mass which is somewhat hard to predict because it varies by grade. However, they do seem to congregate at SR.

It varies for grade, honestly. I know my daughter's grade (she's now a senior) had a huge party group in sophomore year that she said was having parties every weekend with kids getting alcohol poisoning, drinking until they couldn't see 5ft in front of their face, etc. She says after sophomore year they chilled out but there is still a party group in her grade, although she says it's a very exclusive group (they apparently call themselves "the nest" and only allow "nesters" to go to the parties) and the other friend groups/girls aren't really partiers (most of the girls only go to parties after dances or for halloween).

She does say on average her school is not one of the party schools (she says Stone Ridge and Holton have big reputations for this, the guys at STA will invite SR and Holton girls to dances because the guys think they're easier than the NCS girls). She also says the partiers/"nesters" are still pretty good students, even for NCS standards (which are quite high). The class of '27/current juniors don't have much of a party group at all, so it definitely changes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NCS and Holton girls party plenty, trust me. As others have said, it's all about what "friend group" your daughter chooses coupled with her own moral compass. Parents needs to do their jobs and not just blame it on the school. Be clear about your expectations and boundaries, and implement consequences.

Parents are often the problem. Kids that party and drink heavily often have parents who do so as well. They grow up in a family that puts great importance on social status, and for high schoolers that often involves partying. The worst of these parents are the ones who are absent and their houses are used for parties, or even host the parties themselves and allow and encourage underage drinking.

I agree with this. Some parents don't parent their kids. They are busy and travel either for business or pleasure or both and leave their kids and their houses unattended. They are not involved in their kids' lives. They act as if being a parent is what they do if they have an extra hour in their week. It is quite remarkable to witness. To make up for being absent in their kids' lives - they allow them to have parties and come and go as they please.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to Holton and she and her friends didn’t drink, but they also weren’t in the popular crowd. Mine was ok with that, but some may not be.

My daughter is in high school now. The above apply to her and her friend group.

Same for my US girl. I wonder if maybe they are actually the majority?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NCS and Holton girls party plenty, trust me. As others have said, it's all about what "friend group" your daughter chooses coupled with her own moral compass. Parents needs to do their jobs and not just blame it on the school. Be clear about your expectations and boundaries, and implement consequences.

Parents are often the problem. Kids that party and drink heavily often have parents who do so as well. They grow up in a family that puts great importance on social status, and for high schoolers that often involves partying. The worst of these parents are the ones who are absent and their houses are used for parties, or even host the parties themselves and allow and encourage underage drinking.

I agree with this. Some parents don't parent their kids. They are busy and travel either for business or pleasure or both and leave their kids and their houses unattended. They are not involved in their kids' lives. They act as if being a parent is what they do if they have an extra hour in their week. It is quite remarkable to witness. To make up for being absent in their kids' lives - they allow them to have parties and come and go as they please.

It's incredible how many kids are left home alone for weekends or even weeks at a time on a very regular basis and generally for vacation (it's not that both parents are going on business trips). As soon as the parents leave the parties commence. They know that the kids are doing who-knows-what when they're gone but they just don't care enough to change their own plans of behavior. My kid has been to SO many parties at the massive homes of kids who were left alone when the parens were in Europe or in the Islands or where ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NCS and Holton girls party plenty, trust me. As others have said, it's all about what "friend group" your daughter chooses coupled with her own moral compass. Parents needs to do their jobs and not just blame it on the school. Be clear about your expectations and boundaries, and implement consequences.

Parents are often the problem. Kids that party and drink heavily often have parents who do so as well. They grow up in a family that puts great importance on social status, and for high schoolers that often involves partying. The worst of these parents are the ones who are absent and their houses are used for parties, or even host the parties themselves and allow and encourage underage drinking.

I agree with this. Some parents don't parent their kids. They are busy and travel either for business or pleasure or both and leave their kids and their houses unattended. They are not involved in their kids' lives. They act as if being a parent is what they do if they have an extra hour in their week. It is quite remarkable to witness. To make up for being absent in their kids' lives - they allow them to have parties and come and go as they please.

It's incredible how many kids are left home alone for weekends or even weeks at a time on a very regular basis and generally for vacation (it's not that both parents are going on business trips). As soon as the parents leave the parties commence. They know that the kids are doing who-knows-what when they're gone but they just don't care enough to change their own plans of behavior. My kid has been to SO many parties at the massive homes of kids who were left alone when the parens were in Europe or in the Islands or where ever.

Sounds like you are also a lenient party parent, you just let other parents take the flak because they own the house.

[Anonymous]

Others schools getting drunk on the lean NCS getting drunk on that mean.

Achievement over alcohol any day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After reading the SR thread, I am wondering where I should consider for my daughter. She's not a partier and I want her to be in a school with a culture that supports that. Thanks.

All high schools have students who party and drink. This behavior is hardly endemic to all girls school.

I agree. Trust your daughter. She needs to go where she wants.

[Anonymous]

This makes me want to send my DD to public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This makes me want to send my DD to public.

She will be much happier and more normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Others schools getting drunk on the lean NCS getting drunk on that mean.

Achievement over alcohol any day.

Are you drunk?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NCS is overwhelmingly non-partiers.

Agree with the others that you will find a few per grade at any school. What you want to avoid is a critical mass which is somewhat hard to predict because it varies by grade. However, they do seem to congregate at SR.

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OMG! Huge partiers at NCS!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This makes me want to send my DD to public.

She will be much happier and more normal.

Normal doesn't mean prepared for a rigorous college
Public schools don't prep students

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes NCS!
The girls are cute and nice, but they work their assess off and don’t have time for much partying or drinking.

Really? So not true
Those students love to party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This makes me want to send my DD to public.

There are no parties in public schools.