Imagine a world where wealthy people can buy children they have no genetic link to (donor egg, donor sperm) and put other women at risk by carrying the children. They are not the "actual parents," they are the least qualified parents - no genetic link, did not carry the children, have not raised them. |
I agree that the needs of the biological siblings should be considered and that the foster children should be able to visit with their siblings. However, the fact that they have been separated from their bio sibs is 100% the fault of this dishonest, depraved, pathologically selfish woman. She is so dishonest that even to this DAY (or till the publication of the article) she didn't even tell the truth to her other children that their youngest siblings were created through donor gametes and are not biologically related. That is SICK. Hoover, it is not reason to strip these babies from the only parents they have ever known. I hope the siblings can have a relationship, but not at the loss of their Parents and being placed in the custody of this pathetically selfish insane woman and her passive, useless husband. |
| This is a fascinating story. Thanks for posting OP. I’m curious to see what happens. If the intended mother’s primary motive was to save the embryos from destruction, she would let go. She has a large family. Life has been given twice more. The twins have formed bonds with the foster parents and it would be traumatizing for them to be separated at this point. |
That’s different because the mother IS the mother if she gets pregnant. This woman custom ordered human beings and now yall are upset that they are being talked about like commodities which they are. This is why children shouldn’t be commodities. You don’t get to commit fraud to create people and then say “oh well, they’re here, the fraud doesn’t matter.” If she were adopting in the traditional sense, that fraud and her age would exclude her from being an adoptive parent. This kind of adoption should have the same safeguards. |
She was not allowed to take custody of the children because she committed fraud in all of the contracts related to the creation of them. She lied to a judge. This is entirely due to her breaking laws, not bigotry. |
| And all this happened in New York, one of the few states that makes any effort to regulate surrogacy. |
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Family law isn't black and white. The primary concern should ALWAYS be what's in the best interest of the children, not what's in the best interest of the adults. As it stands she and people here are advocating for two toddlers to be ripped from the people who took them home from the hospital and raised them from birth and be placed with a woman in her 60s with 13 other children who has no biological link to them.
You would have to be insane to think that is what's in the best interest of the children. |
She is their MOTHER. |
By what definition? She has never met the children. She didn't carry them. She is not biologically related to them. I have as much of a claim on these kids are this woman does. The court decided they were wards of the state because she broke the law and forfeited her legal rights to them. |
And then that ruling was reversed when a judge without an obvious bias took over the case. |
To be clear, I wouldn't have had an issue with the twins going home with her on day one. But too much time has passed and the only thing that matters is what is best for their development. Ripping them from their parents at this stage is not what is best for them. I would actually have the same opinion IF she were their biological mother. It really doesn't matter at this point. Parents mess up and lose custody every single day in America. |
Actually, per the article, NY law would recognize the surrogate as the legal mother. Lewis only has rights if the judge grants her a parnting order. This is what's at stake, it hasn't been granted due to the fraud. |
In what way? She has no genetic link to them. She did not carry them. The only thing she did is pay her way through the process while lying and misrepresenting herself. |
| Her husband must be equally cuckoo to still stay with her. |
+1 |