DD assaulted

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This story makes no sense.

I think it's a troll. The light thigh touch and the resulting "PTSD like" response sealed it for me.

I think some people just tend to be very very fragile. You can tell OP is the same way by how she posts.

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Anonymous wrote:You are a nut OP.

Being touched on the thigh is not assault.

It is not a crime.

It's textbook assault.

These could be 8 yr olds. Some ages would help

Op says they are in high school.

Ah ok. Just file a police report of it makes you/her feel better. They will take care of the investigation.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?

That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.

This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?

He let us file a police report and said that he needed a signature but when we came back for that he said he would not have probable cause.

but there is video!

this is bs

I wonder if the police officer or someone in the school district is family members with the boy

did they at least say he's not allowed to ride the bus anymore??

op, I know someone whose son engaged in consensual hooking up with his girlfriend. both the girlfriend and her parents agree it was consensual and have not pressed charges. the same thing happened a year ago and the school is making the boy go to an alternative school for the rest of the school year. both sets of parents were shown the video.

ask to see the video. subtly take out your camera and video it while they are showing it to you.

No one is family with him. He was shortly suspended for a few days but that was all. I saw it but they would not let me have it.

This seems appropriate. A suspension is a big deal. What do you want to happen?

He's regularly suspended and has been suspended three times since. I need proper justice.

OP, the kid lightly touched your DD's thigh according to you; and he was suspended because of it. What additional justice do you need? I'm not trying to make light of what happened, but you can't possibly expect that they'll send the kid to juvie because of it, do you?

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?

That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.

This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?

He let us file a police report and said that he needed a signature but when we came back for that he said he would not have probable cause.

but there is video!

this is bs

I wonder if the police officer or someone in the school district is family members with the boy

did they at least say he's not allowed to ride the bus anymore??

op, I know someone whose son engaged in consensual hooking up with his girlfriend. both the girlfriend and her parents agree it was consensual and have not pressed charges. the same thing happened a year ago and the school is making the boy go to an alternative school for the rest of the school year. both sets of parents were shown the video.

ask to see the video. subtly take out your camera and video it while they are showing it to you.

No one is family with him. He was shortly suspended for a few days but that was all. I saw it but they would not let me have it.

This seems appropriate. A suspension is a big deal. What do you want to happen?

He's regularly suspended and has been suspended three times since. I need proper justice.

OP, the kid lightly touched your DD's thigh according to you; and he was suspended because of it. What additional justice do you need? I'm not trying to make light of what happened, but you can't possibly expect that they'll send the kid to juvie because of it, do you?

My DD holds grudges and let go over something like this, don't want to ruin her life. The report itself would help tremendously.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?

That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.

This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?

He let us file a police report and said that he needed a signature but when we came back for that he said he would not have probable cause.

but there is video!

this is bs

I wonder if the police officer or someone in the school district is family members with the boy

did they at least say he's not allowed to ride the bus anymore??

op, I know someone whose son engaged in consensual hooking up with his girlfriend. both the girlfriend and her parents agree it was consensual and have not pressed charges. the same thing happened a year ago and the school is making the boy go to an alternative school for the rest of the school year. both sets of parents were shown the video.

ask to see the video. subtly take out your camera and video it while they are showing it to you.

No one is family with him. He was shortly suspended for a few days but that was all. I saw it but they would not let me have it.

This seems appropriate. A suspension is a big deal. What do you want to happen?

He's regularly suspended and has been suspended three times since. I need proper justice.

OP, the kid lightly touched your DD's thigh according to you; and he was suspended because of it. What additional justice do you need? I'm not trying to make light of what happened, but you can't possibly expect that they'll send the kid to juvie because of it, do you?

My DD holds grudges and let go over something like this, don't want to ruin her life. The report itself would help tremendously.

*won't let go

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?

That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.

This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?

He let us file a police report and said that he needed a signature but when we came back for that he said he would not have probable cause.

but there is video!

this is bs

I wonder if the police officer or someone in the school district is family members with the boy

did they at least say he's not allowed to ride the bus anymore??

op, I know someone whose son engaged in consensual hooking up with his girlfriend. both the girlfriend and her parents agree it was consensual and have not pressed charges. the same thing happened a year ago and the school is making the boy go to an alternative school for the rest of the school year. both sets of parents were shown the video.

ask to see the video. subtly take out your camera and video it while they are showing it to you.

No one is family with him. He was shortly suspended for a few days but that was all. I saw it but they would not let me have it.

This seems appropriate. A suspension is a big deal. What do you want to happen?

He's regularly suspended and has been suspended three times since. I need proper justice.

OP, the kid lightly touched your DD's thigh according to you; and he was suspended because of it. What additional justice do you need? I'm not trying to make light of what happened, but you can't possibly expect that they'll send the kid to juvie because of it, do you?

My DD holds grudges and let go over something like this, don't want to ruin her life. The report itself would help tremendously.

As long as you're fine with the punishment and have accepted everything, then you need to have a talk with your DD and let her know that yes, it was not right what he did, but he did get punished accordingly. She needs to learn how to react when something like this happens again (say something to the ahole, slap him, kick him in the balls, etc.) and move on. She shouldn't let this incident ruin her life. Realistically, she's going to experience much worse than this at some point.. which may require actual police intervention.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?

That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.

This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?

He let us file a police report and said that he needed a signature but when we came back for that he said he would not have probable cause.

but there is video!

this is bs

I wonder if the police officer or someone in the school district is family members with the boy

did they at least say he's not allowed to ride the bus anymore??

op, I know someone whose son engaged in consensual hooking up with his girlfriend. both the girlfriend and her parents agree it was consensual and have not pressed charges. the same thing happened a year ago and the school is making the boy go to an alternative school for the rest of the school year. both sets of parents were shown the video.

ask to see the video. subtly take out your camera and video it while they are showing it to you.

No one is family with him. He was shortly suspended for a few days but that was all. I saw it but they would not let me have it.

This seems appropriate. A suspension is a big deal. What do you want to happen?

He's regularly suspended and has been suspended three times since. I need proper justice.

OP, the kid lightly touched your DD's thigh according to you; and he was suspended because of it. What additional justice do you need? I'm not trying to make light of what happened, but you can't possibly expect that they'll send the kid to juvie because of it, do you?

My DD holds grudges and let go over something like this, don't want to ruin her life. The report itself would help tremendously.

As long as you're fine with the punishment and have accepted everything, then you need to have a talk with your DD and let her know that yes, it was not right what he did, but he did get punished accordingly. She needs to learn how to react when something like this happens again (say something to the ahole, slap him, kick him in the balls, etc.) and move on. She shouldn't let this incident ruin her life. Realistically, she's going to experience much worse than this at some point.. which may require actual police intervention.

I really don't agree with her having to experience worse than this, she protects herself so much so that is why this is upsetting and shocking, and that is why people minimizing this is serious for her.

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So this is about grudges, not something that the boy did or even your daughter experienced. You and your daughter both sound deranged. This I write as a parent of a daughter.

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I think perhaps OP’s reaction to this is more traumatic for her daughter than what the bit did. I’m not trying to minimize this at all. Inappropriate touching is not ok. But if you go scorched earth over something relatively minor like this you aren’t helping your child process, you are further traumatizing them.

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I’d probably pursue other forms of justice

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You know someone with a baseball bat?

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Anonymous wrote:I think perhaps OP’s reaction to this is more traumatic for her daughter than what the bit did. I’m not trying to minimize this at all. Inappropriate touching is not ok. But if you go scorched earth over something relatively minor like this you aren’t helping your child process, you are further traumatizing them.

She is very sensitive so it not about holding grudges she just can't get over it. I just want to do everything I can to help.

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Anonymous wrote:This story makes no sense.

I think it's a troll. The light thigh touch and the resulting "PTSD like" response sealed it for me.

I think some people just tend to be very very fragile. You can tell OP is the same way by how she posts.

Then some therapy and self defense is probably in order. Fragile and putting yourself through the wringer of working with law enforcement and the criminal justice system can be traumatic for even the strong willed and resilient.

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So if she is holding grudges and say nothing comes out of you pursuing legal actions then who is going to hold the grudges against? The cops? The school system? The society in general? You and your daughter both need some therapy.

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Why not see if the school could arrange a restorative justice session, OP?

I believe that could be the most therapeutic and uplifting pathway forward for everyone.