I cannot with these weird tradwife tiktokers.

[Anonymous]

Okay, people not on TikTok, you are not so old that you can skip whole sectors of society and culture. Plus your kids on going to be on it, and you need to know how these things work to keep up. I guarantee you it is not just a thing for young people. I'm 50 and work in PR, and it's really silly for you to not understand something so widely used.

Also trad wife TikTok is incredible! I cannot stop staring at this wild weird behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, people not on TikTok, you are not so old that you can skip whole sectors of society and culture. Plus your kids on going to be on it, and you need to know how these things work to keep up. I guarantee you it is not just a thing for young people. I'm 50 and work in PR, and it's really silly for you to not understand something so widely used.

Also trad wife TikTok is incredible! I cannot stop staring at this wild weird behavior.

Sure, you can. And, no, mine aren’t on it. Teenagers, and they think it’s stupid, too.

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Anonymous wrote:It's one thing to enjoy being a homemaker and make things from scratch, it's another to get all dressed up and make videos of yourself doing it for likes or cash.

For likes, okay. But for CASH??? Why on earth not? Is door dash or retail somehow better?

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a tick tocker or #tradwife but I laughed the first time I read and started hearing about it. I love cooking from scratch, baking, my own bread, canning and preserving my own food. I have a lot in common with these women, but I’m not anywhere near the spectrum of being a #tradwife.

I guess I look like a trad wife. I retired early to be home with my kids (yes, I have my own money!). I make everything from scratch (cook, garden, sew, etc.) and love it and being around for my kids. I was in fintech in my old life.

I do all this stuff too and my friends joke about me being a tradwife (I actually work nights!) but I wouldn't dream of posting VIDEOS of myself baking bread with a vacant expression, false eyelashes in place, narrating what I am doing in a Vicodin voice. Ridiculous

I am 8:40 from yesterday, and I think the difference between us, who enjoy this hands on lifestyle with cooking and baking and taking more of a traditional wife role is the a difference between regular traditional wife and #tradwife. There’s something about making videos of yourself and posting them all over social media that is very self-absorbed and narcissistic. I think that’s what set us apart.

Now if you will all excuse me, I am finishing up a batch of granola and I have a bread that needs kneading. 😂

I don't think that's what sets you apart. I think a ton of what people think is tradwife content is just the same old mommy blogger stuff done on Reels. Trad wives are "traditional wives." They strongly believe in traditional gender roles, and they think everyone else should too. There's a religious component to it. They are often dowdy because their content isn't so much about looking good (though sometimes it is); their content is about advocating for 1950s housewife roles. They will have posts about how silly working outside the home is, how women should have sex with their husbands even if they don't feel like it, how the most important thing anyone can do in life is be a mom, etc. in addition to cooking videos.

[Anonymous]

No clue what a tradwife is and I'm glad.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a tick tocker or #tradwife but I laughed the first time I read and started hearing about it. I love cooking from scratch, baking, my own bread, canning and preserving my own food. I have a lot in common with these women, but I’m not anywhere near the spectrum of being a #tradwife.

I guess I look like a trad wife. I retired early to be home with my kids (yes, I have my own money!). I make everything from scratch (cook, garden, sew, etc.) and love it and being around for my kids. I was in fintech in my old life.

I do all this stuff too and my friends joke about me being a tradwife (I actually work nights!) but I wouldn't dream of posting VIDEOS of myself baking bread with a vacant expression, false eyelashes in place, narrating what I am doing in a Vicodin voice. Ridiculous

I am 8:40 from yesterday, and I think the difference between us, who enjoy this hands on lifestyle with cooking and baking and taking more of a traditional wife role is the a difference between regular traditional wife and #tradwife. There’s something about making videos of yourself and posting them all over social media that is very self-absorbed and narcissistic. I think that’s what set us apart.

Now if you will all excuse me, I am finishing up a batch of granola and I have a bread that needs kneading. 😂

I don't think that's what sets you apart. I think a ton of what people think is tradwife content is just the same old mommy blogger stuff done on Reels. Trad wives are "traditional wives." They strongly believe in traditional gender roles, and they think everyone else should too. There's a religious component to it. They are often dowdy because their content isn't so much about looking good (though sometimes it is); their content is about advocating for 1950s housewife roles. They will have posts about how silly working outside the home is, how women should have sex with their husbands even if they don't feel like it, how the most important thing anyone can do in life is be a mom, etc. in addition to cooking videos.

Agreed. I still work (although I wish I didn’t have to), but go in for all the crunchy homesteading stuff and focus my life around my kids in a big way and love the idea of a huge family — all that’s very tradwife of me. I think the difference is that I feel like that stuff is very right FOR ME (because it makes me happy) but absolutely not right for everyone and there’s nothing wrong with the multitude of other ways people choose to parent.

[Anonymous]

A lot of it seems to be weird soft-core porn directed toward gross old men who feel "the feminists have ruined femininity". The models aren't really tradwives but they dress the part.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of it seems to be weird soft-core porn directed toward gross old men who feel "the feminists have ruined femininity". The models aren't really tradwives but they dress the part.

All of tiktok is akin to soft-core porn and brain rot.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of it seems to be weird soft-core porn directed toward gross old men who feel "the feminists have ruined femininity". The models aren't really tradwives but they dress the part.

All of tiktok is akin to soft-core porn and brain rot.

You know, I never thought of the Washington Post’s content as soft-core porn but now that you say this I realize it’s kink I didn’t know I had.

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Anonymous wrote:Just wanted to note that while I don't think DCUM is a healthy habit, I think of it as distinctly different from TikTok or Instagram, where you just scroll photos or short videos. There is something hypnotic about those apps where you get sucked in and nothing of any substance happens but it's like they numb your brain. I think the effect is actually disturbingly similar to drug use.

DCUM is a time suck and can be addictive, but I do have actual conversations on here and I am engaged with it. It's also almost entirely text base, and the clunky interface is actually a positive. I don't think my DCUM use is great, but I don't think it's damaging on the same level that obsessively scrolling TikTok or IG Stories is.

There is a, dare I say, intellectual aspect to DCUM. Controversial topics are discussed and debated. Tiktok is just mindless brain rot. It's like TV if you change the channel every 30 seconds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, people not on TikTok, you are not so old that you can skip whole sectors of society and culture. Plus your kids on going to be on it, and you need to know how these things work to keep up. I guarantee you it is not just a thing for young people. I'm 50 and work in PR, and it's really silly for you to not understand something so widely used.

Also trad wife TikTok is incredible! I cannot stop staring at this wild weird behavior.

Hard disagree.

I am not "on TikTok" but I know what it is and how it works. I have viewed TikTok videos on occasion when someone sends me a link. I follow news and talk to people, so I also know broadly what some of the biggest TikTok trends are. Like I knew what the trade wife trend was before this thread appeared.

I also am on Instagram and know what Reels are, though I've never made one. I also realized several years ago that Instagram is an addictive time suck that encourages unproductive and unhealthy habits, so while I still have an account, I don't post and the app isn't even on my phone. I do scroll it via web browser occasionally to catch up on friend activities.

I will never actually be in TikTok and that's fine. I'm a fully functioning member of society. My kid is too young to have a phone or any social media (though sadly some of her friends have both and I think that sucks-- elementary school) but I don't think I'll have problems understanding platforms like this when she starts asking to be on them.

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Anonymous wrote:Just wanted to note that while I don't think DCUM is a healthy habit, I think of it as distinctly different from TikTok or Instagram, where you just scroll photos or short videos. There is something hypnotic about those apps where you get sucked in and nothing of any substance happens but it's like they numb your brain. I think the effect is actually disturbingly similar to drug use.

DCUM is a time suck and can be addictive, but I do have actual conversations on here and I am engaged with it. It's also almost entirely text base, and the clunky interface is actually a positive. I don't think my DCUM use is great, but I don't think it's damaging on the same level that obsessively scrolling TikTok or IG Stories is.

There is a, dare I say, intellectual aspect to DCUM. Controversial topics are discussed and debated. Tiktok is just mindless brain rot. It's like TV if you change the channel every 30 seconds.

Yup, and you don't even choose the channels. They are chosen for you via an algorithm that presumes to know your preferences but also has a self interest in promoting certain types of content.

Also in this scenario, China is monitoring your TV watching and collective data on you and your preferences. If Jeff decides to sell DCUM to the Chinese government, that would probably get me off DCUM too.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of it seems to be weird soft-core porn directed toward gross old men who feel "the feminists have ruined femininity". The models aren't really tradwives but they dress the part.

All of tiktok is akin to soft-core porn and brain rot.

You know, I never thought of the Washington Post’s content as soft-core porn but now that you say this I realize it’s kink I didn’t know I had.

What did you think Datelab is? Voyeurism.

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Anonymous wrote:you dont need to make cereal from scratch every day. Or paper. We HAVE cereal and paper. This is not a good use of anyone's time. There is literally no good reason to do 99% of the sh*t these people do. We are all already SO so busy being passable parents without adding absolutely pointless aspirational amish-like extra layer.
I am really excited for this whole trend to just jog on by. Git.

They are doing it to piss you off, and it's working.

do you think so? like an elaborate internet troll? that is a sad life.

NP. A lot of social media “personalities” know that when they hit a sour note and people react, that can be gold. That gains views, attention, and comments. Comments equal visibility. Sometimes their content gets shared scornfully by popular accounts, which leads to more attention, views, engagements. It may even get picked up by mainstream media, which makes it get even more views.

So they hit the sour notes on purpose. They follow the action. They don’t actually care about the viewpoint or lifestyle behind it so much as the action. If they hit a sour note that resonates, they bang the gong.

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Anonymous wrote:I just cannot with any adult who uses TikTok.

Like, you are instantly a moron in my eyes the second you say TikTok.

oh no, I am a moron in the eyes of anonymous at 19:10, whatever shall I do???? 😔

op - haha this wasn't me but i 100% concur.
so hard to be one of more than a third of americans who use tiktok that pp thinks are morons. we will all suffer the shame.

Kind of like the half of America who voted for Trump...