Right? I feel like I’m taking crazy pills. We’re talking about little kids here - what the heck is there to assess? God forbid you don’t have a “decent” fielder at 2nd base and some 8 year old on the opposing team makes it all the way to first base… |
PP, though to be fair with situations like the softball pitcher above there is some breakdown. At some point kids/parents do need to practice outside of practice, especially if they want plenty of playing time at prime positions. But to expect kids only to learn outside of practice in Little League or rec ball at really any level of those? Crazy talk. At least go over the drills in practice so the kids can take them home. |
I have been following this long forum discussion. I currently coach my DS’s NOVA LL team and don’t think I have run into any of the issues but have seen some annoying parents and coaches. The one thing I would tell parents and kids to do is watch either baseball or softball on tv or in person. Watch a Nats game and explain the game or an inning of a game on tv. Go to your local high school and watch a game there. Kids remember the smallest things and will appreciate the time spending it with you and watching a game. The second thing is spend some time either hitting or throwing with your kid. They will remember that more than probably and anything else and if they ask you to play catch or hit take them up on it. Most people are really not that busy they can’t do anything with their own kid. Have them hit off a tee or play soft toss. If they don’t love baseball then they don’t love it. Kids will have their own interests and no matter how much you want them to do something that will not always be the case. |
Sometimes it’s just bad luck. My older son did not have good coaches for kindergarten soccer, pandemic happened and he never played again. My younger son lucked out and loves soccer - and is gaining skills.
My older son found other sports and activities. There were 2 teams from our elementary that year and most of the kids on the other team still play soccer. |
The sad thing is, so much of the time, how would you even know the kid who played RF wasn't any good? My kid was one of those kids; his dad couldn't be bothered, not the kid's fault, but I, mom, played catch with him in the backyard long after it became dangerous for me to do so, and I got him lessons to make up for the rest. He could pitch, hit, and catch. He never got the chance to pitch/catch in Little League. But he stuck with it; each year, he got stronger, bigger, faster, and as it turned out, all the LL kids (coach dads) who were pitching/catching eventually threw their arms out. I remember remarking in AAA: how exactly are the physics working here? This kid is tiny; how exactly are they generating the power to whip the ball across the plate like that? Apparently, permanent injury to a throwing arm can happen when your kid weighs 60 lbs. Still, you insist that they throw heaters... because they are going to make All-Stars no matter what, and sometimes they do... because you are the coach of that too.. but so many of these kids don't want to play anymore, they can do the math, but they don't say anything to you. But they do tell their teammates because, after a while, it's embarrassing; they know they aren't that good, and their arm hurts, so they tell their friends they don't even like baseball and they are only playing because of their dad; maybe to save face? And they would rather play x sport instead. Sometimes, you can watch it all implode in real-time. No dad can make his kid pitch a strike or bat a ball if he doesn't want to play anymore. That's when it really gets ugly, daddy ball is okay as long as no one notices that your kid kind of sucks. It doesn't matter that he used to be kind of good, he doesn't want to be there now, and he sucks. And the kid doesn't smile anymore, and he doesn't laugh. He's a nice kid and that's sad because kids should be happy. So when they quit sports entirely, rebel, and tell all of their friends that they think you are a jerk. What was it all for? Was it worth it? As for my DC, all those years of staying humble, having no choice but to do anything when you are playing league minimum, and showing up to practice but riding the bench during games paid off. They ended up working harder and seizing opportunity when it presented itself in multiple sports and not just baseball; they learned very early that they had to work 3 times harder. Otherwise, they might have tried to coast on natural talent. So when the people who mattered were watching, they made an impression. LL sucked, but there are sports after LL; who cares if the dads regret it? It is not your concern. Also, real karma isn't in how they feel about how they treated your kid, to whom they owe nothing and thus should expect nothing in return; it's in how they damaged their relationship with their own kids. Singed former LL parent. |
I doubt the dads have any regrets. They controlled for what they could to advantage their kids…
There will be hurdles along the way to make it to high school Varsity (if that is the goal, for example) in any organized team sport. Hurdles that are not related to a kid’s skills, desire, or work ethic. Generally 1) <12 “the daddyball years” 2) 12-15 “the puberty race” 3) 16+ “accepting physical limitations” In baseball, kids fall off at all of the above stages. The stage one daddyball stuff mostly doesn’t matter. Kids can still play on a team (rec at least) and get in game reps- the defensive position or where they bat in the order really does not matter . Stage 2 puberty time really shakes things up- some kids mature/grow quickly and their stock rises dramatically, others lag behind in maturity and start to struggle and fall behind. Stage 3 most kids are well into puberty and can get some idea of their physical makeup. Many don’t end up having the foot speed, arm strength, size or athleticism they had hoped for. It doesn’t mean they can’t still play and contribute- heck some of these might even still get college offers - but their role will likely be different than they’d hoped. You can improve it, but you really can’t buy certain physical tools/attributes. It isn’t surprising that dads try hard to advantage their kids in sports right out of the gate (they do a lot of good for other kids in the process along the way)- and without parent volunteers, there would be no youth sports. But the advantages end with youth sports. My advice is to let your kid have fun and play (never mention any real or perceived unfairness to him!), and work on some skills at home. Maybe some camps and lessons if he wants to, and it fits the budget. Being disfavored or ignored by youth dad coaches doesn’t mean a THING about a kid’s future in sports- truly. -Just a mom who has watched several age groups of kids grow up and play sports- a lot of baseball/softball in particular. |
My understanding is that assessments are to enable coaches to place kids on teams where they have the best opportunity to grow and learn from teammates and coaches. Additionally, also for safety, if you put uneven skill sets on same team, a kid could get hurt. Volunteers put a large amount of time into the teams and players in our LL. Outside their regular day job. A little bit of grace, and a good dialogue with the coaches, hopefully, can help you understand the hows and whys. Our team was not about competing, but to teach the girls how to play together as a team and learn the sport. My kid is happy, so we leave it to the coach. |
The poster doing assessments was not referring to picking teams, but rather the intellectually arduous task of assigning fielding positions to second graders for each game. A task so time consuming and mentally taxing that the mere suggestion that he should ALSO try to teach the kids to throw, catch, and/or hit the ball is anathema. |
The best part about "assessing for fielding positions" in LL/rec is that even kids who have been playing for years (even MLB draftees, for that matter) change over time, even the course of one season. The newbie who had raw athleticism but no knowledge of the game might decide he loves it and pay close attention and learn how to make all the plays and have been an awesome 1B by the end of the season, but if the coach never tries or teaches the coach will never know. |
Stage 2 can be cruel to talented, late bloomers. The kids move up to the 90ft field and start using BBCOR bats. The hits will dry up for the small kids. The late bloomers have to out work the big boys in this stage and create value until they get their growth spurt. This is the time to work on speed, bunt skills, and bat to ball skills. Live in the cage so that you are the toughest out on the team and drive up opposing pitch counts. This was my kid. He was passed over by many travel coaches in middle school for being only 100lbs in 8th, but is now the top hitter on his WCAC team. Trust the process. |
Lots of butt hurt former coaches in here. |
This was an excellent description of the baseball years as we’ve experienced them. My son’s a 90 pound 5’2 8th grader. His Dad is 6’2, so his growth is coming. He has repeatedly been cut by multiple travel teams and is struggling at the bat. We’re encouraging him to keep playing rec and practicing, but I’m not sure the drive is there anymore. It’s sad to see as he loves baseball, had decent success in the “daddy ball years” (even without his Dad as the coach), but rec ends this year and he may not make the JV HS team. It’s also frustrating to him that some early bloomers have switched to baseball and catch the coaches eye because they’re big and if they make contact, hit the ball far. But they don’t know the game. Meanwhile, some of the biggest beneficiaries of “daddy ball” have quit because they’re tired of Dad or Dad’s not able to control things anymore. We try to stay positive about baseball while encouraging playing other sports that better fit his size. He’s a good tennis player and could make varsity as a freshman, but it doesn’t have the allure of baseball. |
I’d encourage him to hang in if he really likes baseball- at the end of 8th grade last year my son was 5’4” 95. Less than a year later he is 5’9” 120- with almost all of that growth happening since school started. No signs of slowing down yet either. Husband is 6’1” so likely has at least a few more inches coming. He has caught up height wise to most of the other kids in a pretty short amount of time. He did make the competitive JV team at our school- was not a starter but saw a good amount of playing time especially as the season progressed. Struggled quite a bit with BBCOR in middle school but hit quite well this Spring- lots of line drive singles -and it was nice to see. I think it is likely he makes the JV team again next Spring and he has every chance to earn a starting role if he keeps working hard in the weight room and on the field. Hopefully more power comes. We moved him down to an absolutely terrible travel team in 8th grade- the only one that would take a kid his size. But he got reps and had fun. He also has been consistent with batting lessons and I think that has made a big difference. But yeah- baseball is particularly rough on late bloomers. |
Wishful thinking. |
D1 Commit parent here too, and this is amazingly well said. It is hard to see this if your son is only 10 or so, but this is absolutely spot on. |