Lack of Romamce Among Gen Z teens

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 16 year old DS told me that one thing he is afraid of regarding relationships is that he'll get sent a revealing pic and then be in possession of CP. Also doesn't want to make any first moves to avoid being accused of anything. He said he feels more comfortable about having a relationship after he turns 18.

Aint no way a teen said this. And that isn't how possession of CP works. Get a clue lady!!

DP. Yes it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 16 year old DS told me that one thing he is afraid of regarding relationships is that he'll get sent a revealing pic and then be in possession of CP. Also doesn't want to make any first moves to avoid being accused of anything. He said he feels more comfortable about having a relationship after he turns 18.

Aint no way a teen said this. And that isn't how possession of CP works. Get a clue lady!!

DP here with teen DS. I wouldn't say "no way." The health class my DS is taking repeats stuff like this over and over.

[Anonymous]

Aww I guess my son is an outlier. He has been with his GF for almost a year and they have a great relationship. He is now 16. She is welcome over here and vice versa. We haven't met the parents more than hi and bye at pick-ups because I don't want to make it awkward for him if/when they break-up. They do not go on family vacations together and they both have a lot of activities and hang in group settings or their friends on their own.

It's just a typical teen relationship and many of their friends are also in and out of relationships too. I don't know many of them that haven't been in at least one for a few months.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 16 year old DS told me that one thing he is afraid of regarding relationships is that he'll get sent a revealing pic and then be in possession of CP. Also doesn't want to make any first moves to avoid being accused of anything. He said he feels more comfortable about having a relationship after he turns 18.

Aint no way a teen said this. And that isn't how possession of CP works. Get a clue lady!!

DP. Yes it is.

No it isn't. My husband literally works with the teen special unit and receiving any picture and deleting it never ever puts you in possession. Also, the only thing that really gets you burned is distributing or redistributing it without consent. A couple (even underage) sending consenting pics to each other with their own bodies (while stupid) is not arrest worthy. My husband has bigger fish to fry. There are 11 year old pics going around an elementary school on Monday. A 13yr old getting raped video that was air dropped and tons of revenge porn.

You think he cares about two 16yr olds sending dick and tit pics to each other? He doesn't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 16 year old DS told me that one thing he is afraid of regarding relationships is that he'll get sent a revealing pic and then be in possession of CP. Also doesn't want to make any first moves to avoid being accused of anything. He said he feels more comfortable about having a relationship after he turns 18.

Aint no way a teen said this. And that isn't how possession of CP works. Get a clue lady!!

DP. Yes it is.

No it isn't. My husband literally works with the teen special unit and receiving any picture and deleting it never ever puts you in possession. Also, the only thing that really gets you burned is distributing or redistributing it without consent. A couple (even underage) sending consenting pics to each other with their own bodies (while stupid) is not arrest worthy. My husband has bigger fish to fry. There are 11 year old pics going around an elementary school on Monday. A 13yr old getting raped video that was air dropped and tons of revenge porn.

You think he cares about two 16yr olds sending dick and tit pics to each other? He doesn't.

I'm not sure how you can draw a clear line between "consenting pics" and revenge porn. One can quickly become the other. That kid is right to be worried about it, even if you aren't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My Gen Z daughter can't wait to go to college to meet new young men. She isn't interested in any boys at her high school.

Are you serious? Guys are SO MUCH worse in college. She isn't going to have a clue and get played by every guy there.

So she needs to get played at 14-17 to be prepared to get played at 18-21? Sick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I'm the poster with the DS who is afraid of getting into trouble with teen dating in the age of the internet. It's not just him, I've heard him and his friends talking about it. It's a part of being a teen nowadays. We didn't have to deal with that as teens. They feel a little beat down that they are cast as innately someone to be afraid of because of their gender. It brings up good convos on gender equality, prejudging, and feeling the repercussions of problems they didn't themselves create.

It's different than what girls and girl moms worry about but boils down to the same thing. Respect for all and for all to experience intimacy without fear.

And FWIW, this can happen w/MM and FF teen relationships as well.

It's best when the girl has brothers. The moms tend to understand, as do the girls.

The all girl families can be really crazy and freaks about how every male is toxic and a predator.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can say that my teen boy is not worth any teen girl's crush. Maybe in a couple of years but certainly not now. He has not reached the stage of puberty where he could return any girl's affection.

He may have an athletic build, be decently smart, and quietly nice but he still plays Minecraft with his goofball friends and watches low-key horror movies at sleepovers. There are plenty of other "faster" developing boys are interested in dating and girls.

For now, persistent texts from girls only leaves him confused and worried about being rude. Check back in two years.

+2 More like check back around junior year of college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. It's...interesting and I wonder how they will turn out.
My 17.5 year old daughter has never had a boyfriend or kissed anyone (I believe this when she tells me). She's pretty, outgoing, friendly, stylish, etc and interested in boys. It's just never happened for her. She attends an all-girls school but when I talk to moms who went there 30 years ago they had plenty of exposure to boys. Now many of the girls live like nuns: they study 3 hours a day, do extracurriculars, sports and go through high school never having more than a few words with a guys.

This is all markedly different from my own high school life. I didn't have sex until college but from age 14 on I was kissing boys, making out (just shy of sex), dating. My life revolved around boys and I was a great student. But somehow I had hours and hours to think about them and my kid just slogs away at academics and all the rest of the crap that high schoolers today fill their time with.

This is exactly my 15 yo DD and it makes me feel less alone to read it. I worry that DD will get to college without any exposure to boys. I don’t necessarily want her in a serious relationship in HS but I’m fine with her dating. It’s an important milestone IMHO.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 16 year old DS told me that one thing he is afraid of regarding relationships is that he'll get sent a revealing pic and then be in possession of CP. Also doesn't want to make any first moves to avoid being accused of anything. He said he feels more comfortable about having a relationship after he turns 18.

Aint no way a teen said this. And that isn't how possession of CP works. Get a clue lady!!

DP. Yes it is.

Only if he shares it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So I'm the poster with the DS who is afraid of getting into trouble with teen dating in the age of the internet. It's not just him, I've heard him and his friends talking about it. It's a part of being a teen nowadays. We didn't have to deal with that as teens. They feel a little beat down that they are cast as innately someone to be afraid of because of their gender. It brings up good convos on gender equality, prejudging, and feeling the repercussions of problems they didn't themselves create.

It's different than what girls and girl moms worry about but boils down to the same thing. Respect for all and for all to experience intimacy without fear.

And FWIW, this can happen w/MM and FF teen relationships as well.

It's best when the girl has brothers. The moms tend to understand, as do the girls.

The all girl families can be really crazy and freaks about how every male is toxic and a predator.

But yet no one here is saying that. But all the boy moms are a COMPLETE different story

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can say that my teen boy is not worth any teen girl's crush. Maybe in a couple of years but certainly not now. He has not reached the stage of puberty where he could return any girl's affection.

He may have an athletic build, be decently smart, and quietly nice but he still plays Minecraft with his goofball friends and watches low-key horror movies at sleepovers. There are plenty of other "faster" developing boys are interested in dating and girls.

For now, persistent texts from girls only leaves him confused and worried about being rude. Check back in two years.

+2 More like check back around junior year of college.

If that is the truth you are doing a terrible job raising a son

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, sperm counts and testosterone levels have been steadily declining over the past 50 years. I can't remember what the studies have shown -- maybe about 1 to 2% per year? And I think the rate of decline is even accelerating these days. So...

Yes. We are trying to eliminate the male gender. Slowly chipping away and phasing out the “he/him” pronouns.

What? I don't think playing around with pronouns is the culprit here. I think all the new chemicals/plastics in the environment are disrupting hormone levels and feedback loops within our bodies.

They're turning the frogs gay.

And the pop stars. And the football players.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can say that my teen boy is not worth any teen girl's crush. Maybe in a couple of years but certainly not now. He has not reached the stage of puberty where he could return any girl's affection.

He may have an athletic build, be decently smart, and quietly nice but he still plays Minecraft with his goofball friends and watches low-key horror movies at sleepovers. There are plenty of other "faster" developing boys are interested in dating and girls.

For now, persistent texts from girls only leaves him confused and worried about being rude. Check back in two years.

There are boy moms and then there are complete ick boy moms. We all know which one you are sweetie

PP sounds like on of the few DCUM posters who is actually realistic about her child. He sounds great. Let the kids be goofy kids. And stop with the sweetie nonsense. You’re the ick one.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So I'm the poster with the DS who is afraid of getting into trouble with teen dating in the age of the internet. It's not just him, I've heard him and his friends talking about it. It's a part of being a teen nowadays. We didn't have to deal with that as teens. They feel a little beat down that they are cast as innately someone to be afraid of because of their gender. It brings up good convos on gender equality, prejudging, and feeling the repercussions of problems they didn't themselves create.

It's different than what girls and girl moms worry about but boils down to the same thing. Respect for all and for all to experience intimacy without fear.

And FWIW, this can happen w/MM and FF teen relationships as well.

It's best when the girl has brothers. The moms tend to understand, as do the girls.

The all girl families can be really crazy and freaks about how every male is toxic and a predator.

It’s not that .

The PP’s son is listening to Andrew Tate and repeating his BS, but she doesn’t know it.