Where are people’s manners?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“BYO snacks”?! Liar. That’s not a thing. You weren’t expecting they would want snacks, you didn’t prepare, and now you are back-tracking when you see that posters are rightly telling you that good hosts provide snacks.

“BYO snacks” is not a thing, and if you really did tell that to guests, never host again. Because you are a horrible host.

No, that’s not true. I actually told them to bring snacks to carry their kids until dinner. They ignored it.

Each family brings our own food for the three days we at the cabin. We do potlucks for dinner, but breakfast and lunch each family makes separately.

And have zero intention to feed another family of four.

Why did you invite them? You don't like them, aren't a good host, and resented that they showed up all and seem miffed that they didn't treat your rented dump like your personal palace.

Tell us you’re rude and entitled without telling us…

You've been waiting a long time to use that outdated quip haven't you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This strikes me as a thread that goes off the rails because the initial description is inaccurate than everyone attacks the OP.

As I understand it, two families are renting a house and a third is invited for the afternoon (post lunch) and then dinner.

If this is the case, it seems a little rude that it turned into an all day food fest - and if its a rental for the weekend the host doesn't really have an unlimited food supply which a day guest should have realized. Also weird and rude not to bring food for you dog. Actually rude to bring dog but since OP didn't mention this, I guess the dog was invited too. But doesn't the dog have a pretty specific diet he is used to.

I would also find it rude to have people rumaging through cabinets and my room without asking but maybe they felt that since it was a rental it wasn't the same invasion of personal space and they saw the other family doing this as well.

Mostly it sounds like OP just doesn't like this third family very much or know them very well.

Bull to the last bit. She explained to them how it was going to be and they ignored her. Who brings their dog on an all day trip and doesn’t bring food for it. Who doesn’t feel their kids when making a trip. I think these friends were pissed that op didn’t invite them to stay and were rude intentionally. They could be jealous that op can afford to rent the beach house and showed up with a bad attitude.

Op did something nice by inviting them to dinner and you have turned it into her being an evil witch. The “friends” are responsible for taking care of their family.

[Anonymous]

I feel bad for the dog! I’d have fed and watered 🐶 first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This strikes me as a thread that goes off the rails because the initial description is inaccurate than everyone attacks the OP.

As I understand it, two families are renting a house and a third is invited for the afternoon (post lunch) and then dinner.

If this is the case, it seems a little rude that it turned into an all day food fest - and if its a rental for the weekend the host doesn't really have an unlimited food supply which a day guest should have realized. Also weird and rude not to bring food for you dog. Actually rude to bring dog but since OP didn't mention this, I guess the dog was invited too. But doesn't the dog have a pretty specific diet he is used to.

I would also find it rude to have people rumaging through cabinets and my room without asking but maybe they felt that since it was a rental it wasn't the same invasion of personal space and they saw the other family doing this as well.

Mostly it sounds like OP just doesn't like this third family very much or know them very well.

Bull to the last bit. She explained to them how it was going to be and they ignored her. Who brings their dog on an all day trip and doesn’t bring food for it. Who doesn’t feel their kids when making a trip. I think these friends were pissed that op didn’t invite them to stay and were rude intentionally. They could be jealous that op can afford to rent the beach house and showed up with a bad attitude.

Op did something nice by inviting them to dinner and you have turned it into her being an evil witch. The “friends” are responsible for taking care of their family.

How many times does one feed a dog? When I had a dog it was once in the morning and again at night. Perhaps the dog already ate and would eat again at night. Only people who overfeed their dogs thing they need 3 squares and copious snacks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP-
How did it come to pass that this third family got invited? Do you like them? I am sympathetic to you but that’s how I’d feel towards someone I really didn’t like and invited out of obligation. Someone I did like and was close with, I would feel more generous.

While I do like the parents, I think they have failed to instil manners in their kids.

I can’t stand badly mannered and entitled kids at my house -

- they destroy things
- take our stuff without permission
- grab food with their hands out of bowls and platters
- rummage through cabinets, pantry and fridge and will eat whatever they find that suits them
- leave greasy fingerprints in doors, walls and everywhere they go
- they are unable to carry a conversation

I have several friends with kids like these and then I have friends with very well mannered kids who are a joy to have around and converse with.

In addition to this, this particular family likes to mooch off of other people.

I swear I know these people. We all know at least one family like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP-
How did it come to pass that this third family got invited? Do you like them? I am sympathetic to you but that’s how I’d feel towards someone I really didn’t like and invited out of obligation. Someone I did like and was close with, I would feel more generous.

While I do like the parents, I think they have failed to instil manners in their kids.

I can’t stand badly mannered and entitled kids at my house -

- they destroy things
- take our stuff without permission
- grab food with their hands out of bowls and platters
- rummage through cabinets, pantry and fridge and will eat whatever they find that suits them
- leave greasy fingerprints in doors, walls and everywhere they go
- they are unable to carry a conversation

I have several friends with kids like these and then I have friends with very well mannered kids who are a joy to have around and converse with.

In addition to this, this particular family likes to mooch off of other people.

You know all this and invited them anyway? Looks like the joke is on you.

None of this is true. This lady is just crazy and miserable! I’d love to hear the other side of this story.

It's probably something along the lines of: the kids ate one granola bar apiece, all the kids were playing on the floats together, and OP was so drunk, loud and obnoxious, the daughter wanted to get away from the noise for a bit and went to another room. It's weird that OP is so territorial about a rented place she was just staying in for the weekend. Who cares if someone opened a cabinet?

You have no manners and are proud of it. We get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“BYO snacks”?! Liar. That’s not a thing. You weren’t expecting they would want snacks, you didn’t prepare, and now you are back-tracking when you see that posters are rightly telling you that good hosts provide snacks.

“BYO snacks” is not a thing, and if you really did tell that to guests, never host again. Because you are a horrible host.

No, that’s not true. I actually told them to bring snacks to carry their kids until dinner. They ignored it.

Each family brings our own food for the three days we at the cabin. We do potlucks for dinner, but breakfast and lunch each family makes separately.

And have zero intention to feed another family of four.

Why did you invite them? You don't like them, aren't a good host, and resented that they showed up all and seem miffed that they didn't treat your rented dump like your personal palace.

Tell us you’re rude and entitled without telling us…

You've been waiting a long time to use that outdated quip haven't you?

Hurts you that it is accurate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“BYO snacks”?! Liar. That’s not a thing. You weren’t expecting they would want snacks, you didn’t prepare, and now you are back-tracking when you see that posters are rightly telling you that good hosts provide snacks.

“BYO snacks” is not a thing, and if you really did tell that to guests, never host again. Because you are a horrible host.

No, that’s not true. I actually told them to bring snacks to carry their kids until dinner. They ignored it.

Each family brings our own food for the three days we at the cabin. We do potlucks for dinner, but breakfast and lunch each family makes separately.

And have zero intention to feed another family of four.

Why did you invite them? You don't like them, aren't a good host, and resented that they showed up all and seem miffed that they didn't treat your rented dump like your personal palace.

Tell us you’re rude and entitled without telling us…

You've been waiting a long time to use that outdated quip haven't you?

Hurts you that it is accurate.

No, it hurts me because it’s old af.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You invited people over for the day with no intention to provide snacks for their kids, so no food for them until dinner?

Yes. I don’t want to cook breakfast and lunch for everyone. It’s my vacation. So I was clear only dinner will be provided.

And also, they didn’t just eat some snacks, they cleared our pantry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Exactly. Breakfast and lunch on group vacations are muffins, make a sandwich, cereal.

In other words, you don’t cook.

[Anonymous]

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Admittedly, we rarely travel with other families who aren’t related to us, but we always load up on food (a mix of healthy and junk) and the goal is for everyone to help themselves.

I can’t imagine baking muffins and only giving them to my kids while others watch.

Let me clarify. You are saying that when your family lets say of 3 travels, you make breakfast and lunch for 10 people very day to share everything?

This sounds like bs.

Actually, we are a family of six. And, yes, when traveling with another family I always cook for the crowd. Breakfast is the easiest meal to make for a big group.

Practically speaking, how do multiple families share a kitchen and *not* cook one meal for the group? Do you take turns using the kitchen? Sounds miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Admittedly, we rarely travel with other families who aren’t related to us, but we always load up on food (a mix of healthy and junk) and the goal is for everyone to help themselves.

I can’t imagine baking muffins and only giving them to my kids while others watch.

Let me clarify. You are saying that when your family lets say of 3 travels, you make breakfast and lunch for 10 people very day to share everything?

This sounds like bs.

Actually, we are a family of six. And, yes, when traveling with another family I always cook for the crowd. Breakfast is the easiest meal to make for a big group.

Practically speaking, how do multiple families share a kitchen and *not* cook one meal for the group? Do you take turns using the kitchen? Sounds miserable.

Well, we are a family of three and I don’t want to cook for your family of six and another family of four. I didn’t sign up to cook for fifteen people 3 times a day on my vacation.

We actually cook meals and not just buy some muffins from Walmart.

We cook our own breakfast and lunch and only share dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exactly. Breakfast and lunch on group vacations are muffins, make a sandwich, cereal.

In other words, you don’t cook.

On vacation? No. I don’t. Not breakfast and lunch at beach houses and mountain houses. When I’m on vacation, I’m on vacation. Dinners are usually ordered out, or go out, or prepared foods from grocery. *Vacation.*

That said, when I host, I provide all foods, including snacks. If it’s a family vacation and we’re renting, the adults discuss and assign what foods to bring, make or buy. But no one would begrudge a few granola bars or slices of deli meat. It’s a group effort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This strikes me as a thread that goes off the rails because the initial description is inaccurate than everyone attacks the OP.

As I understand it, two families are renting a house and a third is invited for the afternoon (post lunch) and then dinner.

If this is the case, it seems a little rude that it turned into an all day food fest - and if its a rental for the weekend the host doesn't really have an unlimited food supply which a day guest should have realized. Also weird and rude not to bring food for you dog. Actually rude to bring dog but since OP didn't mention this, I guess the dog was invited too. But doesn't the dog have a pretty specific diet he is used to.

I would also find it rude to have people rumaging through cabinets and my room without asking but maybe they felt that since it was a rental it wasn't the same invasion of personal space and they saw the other family doing this as well.

Mostly it sounds like OP just doesn't like this third family very much or know them very well.

Bull to the last bit. She explained to them how it was going to be and they ignored her. Who brings their dog on an all day trip and doesn’t bring food for it. Who doesn’t feel their kids when making a trip. I think these friends were pissed that op didn’t invite them to stay and were rude intentionally. They could be jealous that op can afford to rent the beach house and showed up with a bad attitude.

Op did something nice by inviting them to dinner and you have turned it into her being an evil witch. The “friends” are responsible for taking care of their family.

Geez, I feel like you really misread my post or perhaps I didn't explain myself very well. I am semi-team OP. I said it was rude to just help yourself to things without asking. I said it was rude to bring the dog (or at least not be prepared with the dog's things) As for the last part - OP herself later said she doesn't really like the kids. In no way did I turn her into an evil witch (although she certainly has been attacked by a lot of other posts which weren't mine.)

I think this is a clash of parenting styles and not a good fit for vacationing together. Thank goodness it was only half a day.

[Anonymous]

OP did you have another post a while back about people you were sharing a cabin with eating your family's bacon?