I want my thread removed after your write up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

You’re going to make a great MIL!

😂🤣😂🤣

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doxing is when you post on an anonymous forum and the forum owner gets his rocks off taking your anonymous posts and using them in his Perez Hilton write-ups to smear you as a liar, troll, and/or racist.

Oh! That would explain some confusion. That is not what doxing is. Hope that helps

Doxing is two-fold. One, you have a webmaster casually abusing his trust and authority, exploiting unknowing victims (anonymous posters on an anonymous forum) to attach their anonymous threads to their other anonymous posts, then revealing this publicly on his front page snarky blogs. Two, you have an OP worried about the fact they revealed too much personal information in a thread, which could dox them. The latter concern becomes more elevated because the webmaster is now showing himself to be a casual doxer, if it gets him an extra few clicks and laughs from his sycophantic toadies. OP asks for their thread to be removed, per well-established precedent, and the totally-not-at-all-mean-spirited webmaster refuses because he's getting his rocks off ridiculing, mocking, and cyberbullying the OP.

The webmaster is wondering why the OP is talking about herself in the third person. The webmaster finds this to be trollish and sock puppety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

I don't like your thread summaries either, Jeff. It definitely seems like you are taking sides in a kind of distinct way, and I'm not sure what the point is of that. It's like your attitude is, "Anyone can post here because the clicks give me $$, but I can sit here and judge them."

I think that's exactly his attitude, because it's his website. That's literally how it works.

Did you assume his attitude was that each thread was a magical garden that he tends carefully and lovingly, that it might bear fruit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

I don't like your thread summaries either, Jeff. It definitely seems like you are taking sides in a kind of distinct way, and I'm not sure what the point is of that. It's like your attitude is, "Anyone can post here because the clicks give me $$, but I can sit here and judge them."

I honestly find it amusing, especially when he talks about threads in which I have posted (Harry/Meghan cough cough) because it reminds me to mind my manners.

And really, don't post on the internet if you don't want to be called out.

Jeff isn't doing this as a public service, this is a gig for him. Take it or leave it.

This is my take exactly.

[Anonymous]

OP, seriously, no one can identify you or your family.

You might think that having catholic White guys in tech, business, law or med marry Indian Hindu girls in medicine, tech or law is a very rare group of people, but it is not.

Also, no Indian family is going to be offended if you are asking questions. They are also asking the same questions among themselves.

I am an Indian poster and white boy and Indian girl marrying is common in our circles. Yes, the family is probably more prestigious and wealthy than your family buy what do you care? Indians also love frugality.

I understand why you are getting so upset and that is because you do not want your son or would be DIL or family to see this. Go to Reddit and on average you will see a few of similar threads every week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

I don't like your thread summaries either, Jeff. It definitely seems like you are taking sides in a kind of distinct way, and I'm not sure what the point is of that. It's like your attitude is, "Anyone can post here because the clicks give me $$, but I can sit here and judge them."

I honestly find it amusing, especially when he talks about threads in which I have posted (Harry/Meghan cough cough) because it reminds me to mind my manners.

And really, don't post on the internet if you don't want to be called out.

Jeff isn't doing this as a public service, this is a gig for him. Take it or leave it.

This should be a pinned pop up every time someone accesses the site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even if Jeff decides to delete the OP’s post, wouldn’t the wayback machine already have archived the post?

the internet is forever

Yup. It is saved forever...

https://web.archive.org/web/20230215191348/https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I’d like to know OP’s thoughts on this. OP, did you know that your post exists forever whether Jeff deletes it or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

You’re going to make a great MIL!

Come on! Jeff was not mocking the OP, but you all are. Yes, she is nervous because she thinks she can be identified IRL and judged. She mentioned that she does not have many Indian friends, but the truth is that this kind of pairing is not uncommon in Indian-American community. And this is a common question that all parents ask, even Indian American parents. This is not a race thing. This is a culture thing.

OP, Unlike a marriage between a Black and White person where the most difference is in color of skin and history …. But mostly food, religion, language, cultural and family values are same…Indian and White marriages are different because every kind of differences - race, culture, immigration status, religion, family values, history, cinema, music, dance, cllothes everything is different. So these kinds of questions are not seen as racist. It is ok to acknowledge the differences because that way you can have a road map to move forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

You’re going to make a great MIL!

Come on! Jeff was not mocking the OP, but you all are. Yes, she is nervous because she thinks she can be identified IRL and judged. She mentioned that she does not have many Indian friends, but the truth is that this kind of pairing is not uncommon in Indian-American community. And this is a common question that all parents ask, even Indian American parents. This is not a race thing. This is a culture thing.

OP, Unlike a marriage between a Black and White person where the most difference is in color of skin and history …. But mostly food, religion, language, cultural and family values are same…Indian and White marriages are different because every kind of differences - race, culture, immigration status, religion, family values, history, cinema, music, dance, cllothes everything is different. So these kinds of questions are not seen as racist. It is ok to acknowledge the differences because that way you can have a road map to move forward.

To be fair, in this thread we're mocking OP for flouncing in, demanding that her thread be deleted, misrepresenting Jeff's writeup and not knowing the correct definitions of "doxxing" and "gaslighting." We were mocking her racism in the other thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

You’re going to make a great MIL!

Come on! Jeff was not mocking the OP, but you all are. Yes, she is nervous because she thinks she can be identified IRL and judged. She mentioned that she does not have many Indian friends, but the truth is that this kind of pairing is not uncommon in Indian-American community. And this is a common question that all parents ask, even Indian American parents. This is not a race thing. This is a culture thing.

OP, Unlike a marriage between a Black and White person where the most difference is in color of skin and history …. But mostly food, religion, language, cultural and family values are same…Indian and White marriages are different because every kind of differences - race, culture, immigration status, religion, family values, history, cinema, music, dance, cllothes everything is different. So these kinds of questions are not seen as racist. It is ok to acknowledge the differences because that way you can have a road map to move forward.

To be fair, in this thread we're mocking OP for flouncing in, demanding that her thread be deleted, misrepresenting Jeff's writeup and not knowing the correct definitions of "doxxing" and "gaslighting." We were mocking her racism in the other thread.

Yeah, get your mockeries straight!

[Anonymous]

I can’t wait to read the summary of this thread in the next Today’s Most Active Threads write-up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t wait to read the summary of this thread in the next Today’s Most Active Threads write-up!

Yes, the meta and potential for recursion is fabulous!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

Yeah, he summarized one thread that I was active on once, on a topic that is very raw for me, and described me in an unkind way. Maybe I am being too sensitive, but it hurt my feelings and made me feel bad about being on DCUM.

No one held a gun to your head and required you to be here, much less post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

You’re going to make a great MIL!

Come on! Jeff was not mocking the OP, but you all are. Yes, she is nervous because she thinks she can be identified IRL and judged. She mentioned that she does not have many Indian friends, but the truth is that this kind of pairing is not uncommon in Indian-American community. And this is a common question that all parents ask, even Indian American parents. This is not a race thing. This is a culture thing.

OP, Unlike a marriage between a Black and White person where the most difference is in color of skin and history …. But mostly food, religion, language, cultural and family values are same…Indian and White marriages are different because every kind of differences - race, culture, immigration status, religion, family values, history, cinema, music, dance, cllothes everything is different. So these kinds of questions are not seen as racist. It is ok to acknowledge the differences because that way you can have a road map to move forward.

To be fair, in this thread we're mocking OP for flouncing in, demanding that her thread be deleted, misrepresenting Jeff's writeup and not knowing the correct definitions of "doxxing" and "gaslighting." We were mocking her racism in the other thread.

If ever there was person who deserves mocking it’s the OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t wait to read the summary of this thread in the next Today’s Most Active Threads write-up!

Yes, the meta and potential for recursion is fabulous!

Then somebody makes a new thread about the summary of this thread about the summary of another thread. Infinite loops. Caucasian boy with blue eyes lives on forever.