Is it becoming trendy for young (rich) kids to marry right after college?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t live in DC anymore so the culture is different but. The richest family I know has a daughter who is a senior in college and already married and the college sophomore daughter is getting married over the summer. They aren’t super religious IMO but they do go to church. I support young people getting married but dang, that’s early! Lol.

I think this must be trending on social media or something? Many are getting engaged their senior year to set up a quick wedding. Rep. Sean Duffy and Rachel Duffy's daughter was engaged during college and married right after. I think she's only 21 because she graduated from UChicago in three years instead of four.

I went to Chicago and it has a weirdly high quotient of couples who got together at college and married. I knew a few, not EVERYONE but more than random.
I think it was a bragging point in one of their recruitment materials at one time.

That was definitely the belief when I was there, and in fairness I did marry someone I met in my dorm first year.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They’ll be the first to get divorced, too. This has been my experience with everyone I know who married right after college.

I've seen the EXACT OPPOSITE. I'm 52 and everyone I know that married young is still going strong. The ones that 'settled' in their 30s and immediately popped out kids with almost no time as married couple first--imploded midlife.

Love marriages vs "My time is running out, this one will do'.

The smugness at being a child bride is hilarious. Great job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They’ll be the first to get divorced, too. This has been my experience with everyone I know who married right after college.

Could be but doubtful. Divorce rate is 50% plus. But for rich people -- as this thread covers -- divorce rate is less than 20%. The two doctors that marry in med school do not tend to divorce -- some will but vast majority will not. Same for law school.

As to the original question -- yes that is what I am seeing -- rich kids are getting married in their early 20s and it does seem more than in the past. I agree with PP that there always have been college sweethearts that got engaged but now it is expanding at least from what I have seen. Why? Not sure. Could be they looked at their older parents and decided that was the way to go. Could be because they have no student loans, high income potential right away, will get help from parents possibly on both sides to buy house and for other things.

Whether it is good or not others can judge. I am not one who thinks you wait if you have the right person. Trick is making sure right person.

Maybe because there is literally no good reason to wait? Who the heck wants to "play the field" and date random weirdos for another 8 to 10 years off dating apps. For what? It's a pointless waste of time and puts them behind the eight ball in wealth building (co-own house, retirement, look stable and mature to bosses) and you're a thousand times less likely to need ivf to have children.

This is true. A good number of people with issues in their 30s or early 40s would not have had the issue at 22.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They’ll be the first to get divorced, too. This has been my experience with everyone I know who married right after college.

I've seen the EXACT OPPOSITE. I'm 52 and everyone I know that married young is still going strong. The ones that 'settled' in their 30s and immediately popped out kids with almost no time as married couple first--imploded midlife.

Love marriages vs "My time is running out, this one will do'.

The smugness at being a child bride is hilarious. Great job.

Anyone over 18 is not a child bride. And certainly not over 21

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’ll be the first to get divorced, too. This has been my experience with everyone I know who married right after college.

I've seen the EXACT OPPOSITE. I'm 52 and everyone I know that married young is still going strong. The ones that 'settled' in their 30s and immediately popped out kids with almost no time as married couple first--imploded midlife.

Love marriages vs "My time is running out, this one will do'.

The smugness at being a child bride is hilarious. Great job.

Anyone over 18 is not a child bride. And certainly not over 21

It seems there is a handful of miserable coping harpies on here who like to paint young weddings as something only uneducated flyover country white trash do. So when the topic is college credentialed affluent coastal kids getting married, they have nothing left but to infantilize them and cast their pairing as an unserious throwaway "starter" marriages.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just like it was a trend to marry late, new trend is to marry young. Earlier trend originated from watching people marry young and having problems, this one originated from watching people marry old and having problems. Its like skinny jeans and wide leg jeans.

Glorified by Hollywood.

Brunch granny!!!

[Anonymous]

Why would anyone want to marry right after college?  After college graduation is the best time of one's life.  You get a good paying job, travel around the world, and sleep with as many women as possible.  Marriage is "man made prison" and you're doing time.  Wait until you're least thirty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone want to marry right after college?  After college graduation is the best time of one's life.  You get a good paying job, travel around the world, and sleep with as many women as possible.  Marriage is "man made prison" and you're doing time.  Wait until you're least thirty.

These mature, ambitious and affluent young adults got any interest in hooking up, partying, and aimless wanderlust out of their system from age 14 to 21. They've done it all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone want to marry right after college?  After college graduation is the best time of one's life.  You get a good paying job, travel around the world, and sleep with as many women as possible.  Marriage is "man made prison" and you're doing time.  Wait until you're least thirty.

Because there is no better time to find a spouse than college. It plummets once you enter working world and you have to grapple with OLD.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone want to marry right after college?  After college graduation is the best time of one's life.  You get a good paying job, travel around the world, and sleep with as many women as possible.  Marriage is "man made prison" and you're doing time.  Wait until you're least thirty.

Because there is no better time to find a spouse than college. It plummets once you enter working world and you have to grapple with OLD.

Completely false.

There are plenty of high quality men/women in the dating pool after college. There is no need to sleep with one person for the rest of your life right after college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They’ll be the first to get divorced, too. This has been my experience with everyone I know who married right after college.

I've seen the EXACT OPPOSITE. I'm 52 and everyone I know that married young is still going strong. The ones that 'settled' in their 30s and immediately popped out kids with almost no time as married couple first--imploded midlife.

Love marriages vs "My time is running out, this one will do'.

The smugness at being a child bride is hilarious. Great job.

Child brides are under 17 and without high school diplomas. Someone in their 20's with a college degree and a job lined up isn't a child bride.

[Anonymous]

Middle class has student debt and doesn't get down payment as wedding gifts. Marrying early is possible for rich or may be for poor who get college paid by aid and get housing vouchers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone want to marry right after college?  After college graduation is the best time of one's life.  You get a good paying job, travel around the world, and sleep with as many women as possible.  Marriage is "man made prison" and you're doing time.  Wait until you're least thirty.

I didn't want to sleep with as many women as possible, I wanted to sleep with one woman who is the love of my life.

[Anonymous]

I know this isn't what OP asked about but I honestly don't understand the idea that you need to have a certain level of income or wealth to get married. What about being married is so much more expensive than not being married (not talking about the wedding itself)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone want to marry right after college?  After college graduation is the best time of one's life.  You get a good paying job, travel around the world, and sleep with as many women as possible.  Marriage is "man made prison" and you're doing time.  Wait until you're least thirty.

Everything good there is to do, you can do with your spouse. We have had a ball. We haven’t slept with randos together, but hell, some people do that too!