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I dyed my blonde hair brown... people talk to brunettes 100% more than blondes!
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I took the plunge and had my stylist change my heavy blonde highlights to heavy brown lowlights with some blonde streaks around the face and on the top. It's taken me a while to adjust and I swear, I (still) feel less attractive as a brunette than a blonde... BUT... I am shocked at how much friendlier people are to me (strangers!) as a brunette. I can't tell you in a week how many times a stranger spoke to me in a store, in a line somewhere, at the car shop, etc. I'm not sure if people presumed a blonde would be a bumbling idiot, a bitch, or just vapid, or if people perceive brunettes to be friendlier, smarter, more "normal" or what?
But as someone who will soon be single, this is an amazing revelation how easily and frequently people (other moms and/or strangers) talk to me now. Weird!! Anyone else have this experience? |
Anonymous
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Very interesting! I've always had brown hair so I can't deny or confirm your experience.
I've always heard that the most powerful attribute is a smile. Could it be that you are smiling more? |
Anonymous
OP here... no, in fact the first few hours after leaving the salon, I was flat out slinking around feeling ridiculous! That's when I first noticed a guy was trying to talk to me in the car repair place.  Not a good-looking guy, mind you, but definitely talking to me!
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Anonymous
Having dies blonde hair was making you look like you had bad taste 
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Anonymous
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What color is your hair naturally?
I have blonde (natural) and have always wished i were a brunette...i think they're prettier! That said, I am so not brave enough to mess with the color of my hair. My hair has enough issues without adding dye into the mix for one, and i'm just not as adventurous as I might wish I were with changes to my appearance.  I also worry about going from a natural golden blonde to brown and how it'd look on me.
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Anonymous
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Maybe it's the fact you don't feel as attractive. Maybe you gave off too confident of a vibe before or give off a friendlier, down-to-earth vibe now.
My hair's always been brown, but now I have to think - do I talk to blonds less? |
Anonymous
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maybe the blonde color wasn't working on you---blonde is not always better. I see so many women automatically go for the blonde...on alot of ppl it completely washes them out. I've seen dramatic changes when ppl did what you do---where they look sooooo much better. Maybe you look hotter and it has nothing to do with the color per se---but the color that works for you.
blonde does not look good on me. I stopped highlighting years ago and the first day ppl saw me with all dark hair they spilled on how much better it looked...and how much they didn't like it before (gasp . I also had strangers telling me I made them want to dye their hair dark. so- who knows.
After 8 years I went back to very minimal highlights for the first time...it's been a year and now I am craving my all (natural) dark look again. |
Anonymous
| I agree with PP. People are talking to you more because you must look more attractive as a brunette. |
Anonymous
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OP here.. I definitely don't think I am more attractive as a brunette - the opposite actually. My take on it is, that I was more attractive blonde, but came off seeming cold or distant to men and women.
With the brown hair, I must seem more approachable. Nothing else has changed. If anything, my self-confidence level has dropped quite a bit but I am disarming as a brunette. I actually had a woman acquaintance HUG me spontaneously as a greeting hello in the mall the other day. I almost fell over! She barely knows me, and no one in my 5 years of living here has ever run up and hugged me at a mall!! |
Anonymous
| OP again... someone suggested I have a more "East coast" look now with brown hair. Maybe that's it too... I know in DC, blonde hair does not get you the IQ points brown hair does. |
Anonymous
Oh my goodness. No. This is specific to you and whatever vibes you were/are giving off with your different hair colors. It's you. It's not a blonde or brunette thing in general. |
Anonymous
| Having been both (most recently brunette this summer to repair a bad hi-light job from a new colorist) I can tell you my experience has been the exact opposite. I receive a LOT less attention as a brunette. I agree that brunette must be a better color for you, or you were the wrong shade of blonde - the fact you mention East coast vs West coast tells me your old blonde was probably bleachy and cheezy - not an East coast blonde (there is a difference). |
Anonymous
And whay color is your hair now? Bitchy? |
Anonymous
I'm neither one of these posters, but I'm getting out the popcorn! |
Anonymous
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LOL, OP here... my hair was very pretty blonde. It was a warm blonde with streaky highlights. I paid a LOT of money to keep it natural looking, not bleachy-cheesy trash Cali blonde.
Point about East coast being, there just aren't a ton of blondes here. Moved from Texas, where every other woman was blonde (salon) and immediately noticed how few women here are blonde, salon or otherwise. I'm still the same me. I'm pretty quiet and aloof, and don't tend to converse easily unless spoken to first. What I'm saying is that now people are speaking to me, at the grocery store, donating blood, in the car shop, etc... just normal conversations, not hitting on me. So I have to attribute that to the fact that I must not look either a) bitchy, b) unapproachable, or c) vapid which I have associate with the brown hair. Which by the way, still has some low blonde highlights in it
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