Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

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Anonymous wrote:I think stay home dads are pathetic. Sorry -- not PC but that's my opinion. A dude who is content to wipe butts all day while his wife brings home all the bacon is not much of a man in my eyes; I can see one spouse taking an "easier" job when kids are young but a man opting out entirely just doesn't sit well.

Worse yet are the SAHDs who whine like women about how hard it is to have 2 young kids at home . . . you're a dude who is getting the mortgage paid, roll with it . . . .

Same with SAHMs. Fulltime parenting is nothing but a cop out for people who are too lazy to work. And they raise selfish, bored, entitled kids.

Totally agree. A completely selfish choice.

How is it selfish?

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Having a spouse as a SAHP has made my life more complicated, and stressful without any of the "benefits" of having someone home full time if the SAHP isn;t suited for it (and you will never know until you are knee deep in it). I wrote the post on another page about my DH as a SAHD and I think it's very true. It benefits the kids and the SAHP but the working parent's life will get worse. It's such a sacrifice and if I had to do it again, I'd do a nanny with a loss of income over this crap. I can fire a poor nanny. Getting divorced is so, so much more complicated.

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Anonymous wrote:You can be single, never married, and happy.

I think this becomes less true the older a person gets. Maybe some people can be happy being single their whole lives, but I think by the time you hit your late 40's/early 50's, you get lonely. Most people by that age have settled down with someone and/or had kids and you end up being the "extra" person at holiday get-togethers. Your parents may have died and your siblings have their own lives and families. Your friends are busy/tied down/too tired to make plans. You are getting set in your ways. Let's face it, by middle age, you are probably not having a huge social life. You are not hitting the town every weekend or going on a big hiking or skiing trip. You are probably just hanging out at home with your pets.

Ha, you don't know very many people with different views on life.

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Anonymous wrote:Having a spouse as a SAHP has made my life more complicated, and stressful without any of the "benefits" of having someone home full time if the SAHP isn;t suited for it (and you will never know until you are knee deep in it). I wrote the post on another page about my DH as a SAHD and I think it's very true. It benefits the kids and the SAHP but the working parent's life will get worse. It's such a sacrifice and if I had to do it again, I'd do a nanny with a loss of income over this crap. I can fire a poor nanny. Getting divorced is so, so much more complicated.

Ours is less complicated because the working parent also travels a lot for work. No worries about who will take care of what, just gets the travel arrangements and off to the airport! So easy. The working parent's life in this case is so much better.

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I think pie is way more delicious than cake.

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Anonymous wrote:I think that people of color who don't think that Redskins is offensive missed the entire point of the civil rights movement.

Which was to have freedom from discrimination in employment, places of business, and housing. Not sure it had anything to do with football mascots, per se. That kind of started with an NCAA crackdown, but somehow the ridiculously racist Seminole mascot and tomahawk chop still exist.

It is my understanding that when the Florida's Women College was reinvented to become Florida State University, FSU sought tand received the approval from the Seminole Nation to use the name as the mascot.

DH is a Nole and will tell everyone that FSU made a point to get approval and maintain a relationship with the Seminole Nation. Not only that, Seminole is an actual name,Redskin is a perjorative. BIG FREAKING DIFFERENCE!

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Anonymous wrote:I don't believe In 98% of psychology or what is in the dsm. I think it's a farce. I think it pathologizes eccentricities, quirks, and normal variations in humans.

I totally agree.

+1. I don't agree how the answer to 98% of issues on this site can be -- therapy. I'm sorry but sometimes you just have to work through problems or learn to live with them knowing the "new normal" sucks and will be nothing like what you had in the past; talking to a stranger or popping pills is not the answer. Sure maybe it's necessary for BIG BIG issues but general unhappiness and stress happens to everyone and running off to therapy is a waste of money.

I'm also one of the ones who thinks that people who go into psychology or MDs who decide to specialize in psychiatry have issues of their own.

agree with this. my bil is a psychologist and i honestly shudder at the thought of him counseling others. i would never go to him with any question, concern, or problem. ever.

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I'm wary of people who haven't tried weed.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't give a flying duck about saving for college.

Just lazy, or selfish with your money?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think stay home dads are pathetic. Sorry -- not PC but that's my opinion. A dude who is content to wipe butts all day while his wife brings home all the bacon is not much of a man in my eyes; I can see one spouse taking an "easier" job when kids are young but a man opting out entirely just doesn't sit well.

Worse yet are the SAHDs who whine like women about how hard it is to have 2 young kids at home . . . you're a dude who is getting the mortgage paid, roll with it . . . .

Same with SAHMs. Fulltime parenting is nothing but a cop out for people who are too lazy to work. And they raise selfish, bored, entitled kids.

I think it's sad that some working parents think this way. So, working parents that think this way think that a parent shouldn't stay home to take care of their own children, but it's okay to pay a stranger or strangers a low wage to take care of their kids? It doesn't make sense. If you want to pay someone to watch your children during the day, that's fine, but to look down on parents that choose to stay home to take care of their kids is strange to me. It's like saying there is something wrong with being a parent in itself.

I think SAH for either parent is just fine, but honestly, cut the crap about strangers watching your kids. You homeschool too, or do you throw your 5 year olds into the arms of strangers to teach them K? My children were in full time day care from the time they were 3 months old, and they are thriving late teens now.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't give a flying fig if someone SAHs, WOHMS, breastfeeds or formula-feeds, and I can't even imagine why other people do care. Insecurity?

Because when people have infants and small children, a person's lifestyle is very different depending on those things. By the time everyone in your circle has all their kids in elementary school, no one cares.

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Anonymous wrote:Having a spouse as a SAHP has made my life more complicated, and stressful without any of the "benefits" of having someone home full time if the SAHP isn;t suited for it (and you will never know until you are knee deep in it). I wrote the post on another page about my DH as a SAHD and I think it's very true. It benefits the kids and the SAHP but the working parent's life will get worse. It's such a sacrifice and if I had to do it again, I'd do a nanny with a loss of income over this crap. I can fire a poor nanny. Getting divorced is so, so much more complicated.

Ours is less complicated because the working parent also travels a lot for work. No worries about who will take care of what, just gets the travel arrangements and off to the airport! So easy. The working parent's life in this case is so much better.

But the SAHP gets all the scut work. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think stay home dads are pathetic. Sorry -- not PC but that's my opinion. A dude who is content to wipe butts all day while his wife brings home all the bacon is not much of a man in my eyes; I can see one spouse taking an "easier" job when kids are young but a man opting out entirely just doesn't sit well.

Worse yet are the SAHDs who whine like women about how hard it is to have 2 young kids at home . . . you're a dude who is getting the mortgage paid, roll with it . . . .

Same with SAHMs. Fulltime parenting is nothing but a cop out for people who are too lazy to work. And they raise selfish, bored, entitled kids.

Totally agree. A completely selfish choice.

How is it selfish?

Because the vast majority of SAHMs do it primarily to benefit themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think stay home dads are pathetic. Sorry -- not PC but that's my opinion. A dude who is content to wipe butts all day while his wife brings home all the bacon is not much of a man in my eyes; I can see one spouse taking an "easier" job when kids are young but a man opting out entirely just doesn't sit well.

Worse yet are the SAHDs who whine like women about how hard it is to have 2 young kids at home . . . you're a dude who is getting the mortgage paid, roll with it . . . .

Same with SAHMs. Fulltime parenting is nothing but a cop out for people who are too lazy to work. And they raise selfish, bored, entitled kids.

Totally agree. A completely selfish choice.

Really?? I must be doing it all wrong. Shit. i don't even feel like i have a self at the end of the day. Now i am confused and depressed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You can be single, never married, and happy.

I think this becomes less true the older a person gets. Maybe some people can be happy being single their whole lives, but I think by the time you hit your late 40's/early 50's, you get lonely. Most people by that age have settled down with someone and/or had kids and you end up being the "extra" person at holiday get-togethers. Your parents may have died and your siblings have their own lives and families. Your friends are busy/tied down/too tired to make plans. You are getting set in your ways. Let's face it, by middle age, you are probably not having a huge social life. You are not hitting the town every weekend or going on a big hiking or skiing trip. You are probably just hanging out at home with your pets.

Actually, it becomes more true the older one gets. I am single, never married, and very happy. I am in my early 50s. Many of my married contemporaries are unhappy, stressed out, financially strapped, and/or getting divorced. Maybe 10 or 15 years ago, those women were the smug marrieds of which you speak, but ten to fifteen years of marriage, children and career (or loss of it) have changed their perspectives. They all look 5 to 10 years older than me.
Now, I did adopt a child on my own, and I am an outgoing person who has always had an active social life. So, YMMV.