s/o of siblings at birthday parties...

[Anonymous]

I got asked for the first time if a sibling could come to a drop off party. I said in the invite it's a drop off party - idk if the person missed that (because the person said the spouse had plans and could both kids come). I actually don't know what I am going to respond yet because there is room without sharing for 20 and that's how many people I invited, and I haven't gotten any "no" responses yet.

I guess there is a first for everything

[Anonymous]

I’d just say you don’t have room and reiterate that it’s a drop-off party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got asked for the first time if a sibling could come to a drop off party. I said in the invite it's a drop off party - idk if the person missed that (because the person said the spouse had plans and could both kids come). I actually don't know what I am going to respond yet because there is room without sharing for 20 and that's how many people I invited, and I haven't gotten any "no" responses yet.

I guess there is a first for everything

Would you be ok with the sibling being there if there is room? If so, you can say that currently there is no room but you will let the person know if an invited guest can't come.

If you're not ok with it, just say that unfortunately you cannot accommodate this time (but reiterate that it's a drop-off party).

This is the same answer for all of these sibling questions; not sure why it comes up all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got asked for the first time if a sibling could come to a drop off party. I said in the invite it's a drop off party - idk if the person missed that (because the person said the spouse had plans and could both kids come). I actually don't know what I am going to respond yet because there is room without sharing for 20 and that's how many people I invited, and I haven't gotten any "no" responses yet.

I guess there is a first for everything

Would you be ok with the sibling being there if there is room? If so, you can say that currently there is no room but you will let the person know if an invited guest can't come.

If you're not ok with it, just say that unfortunately you cannot accommodate this time (but reiterate that it's a drop-off party).

This is the same answer for all of these sibling questions; not sure why it comes up all the time.

This. It's a very diplomatic answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got asked for the first time if a sibling could come to a drop off party. I said in the invite it's a drop off party - idk if the person missed that (because the person said the spouse had plans and could both kids come). I actually don't know what I am going to respond yet because there is room without sharing for 20 and that's how many people I invited, and I haven't gotten any "no" responses yet.

I guess there is a first for everything

Would you be ok with the sibling being there if there is room? If so, you can say that currently there is no room but you will let the person know if an invited guest can't come.

If you're not ok with it, just say that unfortunately you cannot accommodate this time (but reiterate that it's a drop-off party).

This is the same answer for all of these sibling questions; not sure why it comes up all the time.

This. It's a very diplomatic answer.

+1. Also, how old is the sibling? I think it matters if the sibling is roughly the same age as the guests or not.

[Anonymous]

Just say "Sorry, no siblings. We'll look forward to seeing Aiden (and ONLY Aiden) on Saturday!"

I once had a kid thank me for not allowing siblings saying he could never get away from his little sister and his parents made him bring her everywhere. He even had to sit with her at lunch at school.

[Anonymous]

I have told parents (of friends and classmates) that I will let them know if we have space after the invited kids have RSVPd.

[Anonymous]

What about "no" is so hard?

[Anonymous]

you can say that currently there is no room but you will let the person know if an invited guest can't come.

This. It's a very diplomatic answer

Or decide to live your life by saying what you mean. "I'm sorry, that won't work for us". More authentic. More genuine. I would respect that.

[Anonymous]

Thanks! I will probably try some variation of what is suggested here.
I don’t know why it is hard to say no - want to be nice / accommodating, but I didn’t plan on extra kids for a drop off party. Been doing drop off parties for a while for older sibling.

[Anonymous]

Is this a younger sibling? If so then it seems like it would wind up being a babysitter. It’s really OK for one sibling to go to a party and the other sibling to just have some one on one time with a parent. Don’t feel bad saying no. This is a child that presumably your own child does not have a friendship with.

[Anonymous]

During preschool years, you may need to bring a sibling since parent needs to be there.

Elementary drop off party should not have any siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

you can say that currently there is no room but you will let the person know if an invited guest can't come.

This. It's a very diplomatic answer

Or decide to live your life by saying what you mean. "I'm sorry, that won't work for us". More authentic. More genuine. I would respect that.

The "won't work for us" nonsense is the least genuine and authentic answer possible. There's literally no reason behind it, it's a no in the most passive aggressive way.