Why am I the one doing something wrong when he refuses to take action?

[Anonymous]

DH has a snoring problem that he denies. I even recorded it one night and played it back and he downplayed it. He said the issue is just that I’m too light of a sleeper. He refuses to talk to a doctor about it and refuses to wear a nose strip or mouth guard or anything like that. I have a very hard time falling asleep since he falls asleep before I do and then I’m awakened by his snoring a few times per night.

I have chronic health issues and lack of sleep exacerbates them. I need to get a full night’s rest. DH currently has a cold (that he also denies having) and that makes the snoring even worse. I told him I’m sleeping in the guest room tonight and he got all huffy with me and gave me an attitude like I am doing something wrong. If he won’t do anything to acknowledge or fix the problem, then what other choice do I have? I’m supposed to lose sleep and put my health at risk so that he can continue to be in denial that he has a problem? And why doesn’t he care that it’s impacting me?

[Anonymous]

Are you kidding? He is giving you grief about sleeping in another room? Ridiculous. Tell him to address his problem and then you will move back into the marital bedroom.

[Anonymous]

He is angry because you didn’t have sex with him first before going to the guest room to sleep. If you did, I doubt he would care.

[Anonymous]

You should definitely sleep in the guest room, you need your sleep. I don't know what to tell you to do about your dickhead husband, though.

[Anonymous]

I sleep in the guest room on nights I have trouble sleeping. When I have insomnia laying next to someone who is successfully sleeping makes it worse. DH was a little miffed at first but he knows it’s nothing to do with him and my own issue. Your DH is feeling rejected. Don’t make it like a punishment because he won’t “do anything” about the snoring, just make it a neutral fact - I need to sleep and sleep more soundly in the guest room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is angry because you didn’t have sex with him first before going to the guest room to sleep. If you did, I doubt he would care.

If he wants sex why doesn't he visit her there in the guest bedroom? It's like hotel sex. Not her responsibility to read his mind or ride his dick every night