How’d you decide to have your third?

[Anonymous]

DH and I have two (5 and 2). We both want a third. Or we think we do. We can’t seem to make the jump into TTC. We’re both one of two and surrounded in our family by sets of two so can’t really gage what it’s like. As much as we want three, it feels like a different world. What made you take the jump from two to three?

[Anonymous]

I have cousins who are a trio and they’ve always had a really amazing relationship. They make being a trio look fun and wonderful.

[Anonymous]

Made sure we could handle financial and logistical changes. Then waited until we had that gut feeling that it was right. My older kids were 5 and 3.5 when my youngest was born. She has completed our family and we finally feel done.

[Anonymous]

I just didn’t feel done yet. Still don’t. We will probably have four. I always knew I wanted three or four kids, and DH was on board, so there was never really a question about having a baby.

[Anonymous]

I had my first two when I was a teenager. I wanted a third after I'd really grown up and wanted to actually parent, so we had two more.

[Anonymous]

We had 2 boys and I wanted a girl. Got our healthy girl and so happy we went for it.

We know some who got third of same sex as first two or third with special needs.

[Anonymous]

Pp here. DH had a colleague who told us not to go for third because their third had special needs. Another family has a lot of marriage issues. Hard for them to juggle 3 kids. They don’t have a lot of money so they have to do most all their housework and meal prep on weekends while trying to juggle the kids’ schedules.

3 is a lot of work.

[Anonymous]

We each grew up with one sibling and felt like we wanted another kid around the house. We didn’t have a big discussion about it, just sort of figured we’d have 3 if we could. It took me a little longer to get pregnant with our second and then figured a third might not happen, so we started trying pretty much right as soon as we felt we could handle it. Got lucky right away.

2 to 3 kids was a piece of cake for me. I’m a SAHM and was already outnumbered with 2. Oldest was close to 6 and such a huge help, plus in school most of the day. Youngest is now 1.5 and I would totally have a 4th if DH wanted one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We each grew up with one sibling and felt like we wanted another kid around the house. We didn’t have a big discussion about it, just sort of figured we’d have 3 if we could. It took me a little longer to get pregnant with our second and then figured a third might not happen, so we started trying pretty much right as soon as we felt we could handle it. Got lucky right away.

2 to 3 kids was a piece of cake for me. I’m a SAHM and was already outnumbered with 2. Oldest was close to 6 and such a huge help, plus in school most of the day. Youngest is now 1.5 and I would totally have a 4th if DH wanted one.

Do you outsource housework or any other home stuff? Just wondering how 3 is a piece of cake if you are the sole one cleaning, cooking, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We each grew up with one sibling and felt like we wanted another kid around the house. We didn’t have a big discussion about it, just sort of figured we’d have 3 if we could. It took me a little longer to get pregnant with our second and then figured a third might not happen, so we started trying pretty much right as soon as we felt we could handle it. Got lucky right away.

2 to 3 kids was a piece of cake for me. I’m a SAHM and was already outnumbered with 2. Oldest was close to 6 and such a huge help, plus in school most of the day. Youngest is now 1.5 and I would totally have a 4th if DH wanted one.

Do you outsource housework or any other home stuff? Just wondering how 3 is a piece of cake if you are the sole one cleaning, cooking, etc.

Does that actually seem hard to you? Sounds boring to me, but easy as hell.

[Anonymous]

Same way we decided to have the first two... a night of drunken fooling around.

[Anonymous]

Decisions and life timelines. We wanted to minimize how many years we'll be paying for early childcare. And I Have god awful pregnancies and wanted the decision to do it or sterilize over with.

So we talked it out and then went full steam ahead. No point in waffling. If you want it you want it, go for it.

[Anonymous]

Had one and then had twins. It’s been intense. Two would have been ideal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We each grew up with one sibling and felt like we wanted another kid around the house. We didn’t have a big discussion about it, just sort of figured we’d have 3 if we could. It took me a little longer to get pregnant with our second and then figured a third might not happen, so we started trying pretty much right as soon as we felt we could handle it. Got lucky right away.

2 to 3 kids was a piece of cake for me. I’m a SAHM and was already outnumbered with 2. Oldest was close to 6 and such a huge help, plus in school most of the day. Youngest is now 1.5 and I would totally have a 4th if DH wanted one.

Do you outsource housework or any other home stuff? Just wondering how 3 is a piece of cake if you are the sole one cleaning, cooking, etc.

Does that actually seem hard to you? Sounds boring to me, but easy as hell.

Have you actually tried it?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had one and then had twins. It’s been intense. Two would have been ideal.

How old are they now?