How to help U11 son
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Anonymous
| He is on the second to bottom team in is club. He got his player evaluation, and the coach said he has good technical skills and understands the game well, but lacks confidence and aggression. I have no idea how to help a kid improve in these areas. Not necessarily looking for DS to move up to the next level team, but don't want him to drop to the bottom team next year. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. |
Anonymous
| Have to you talked to the coach about how he/she plans on helping your son improve? Also why are you getting an eval at towards the end of the season? Should have been given to you in the winter. |
Anonymous
We get two per year - one at the end of the fall season, and one now. The one we got at the end of the fall addressed some issues with DS's technical skills, which have since improved due to futsal and a skills clinic. I plan to talk to the coach further, but I guess I am concerned that something like confidence and aggression is more of an inherent personality trait that may not be improvable by coaching or training. FWIW, I am a single mom and don't know much about sports, so please be kind accordingly. |
Anonymous
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Hard to teach aggression.
My kids get it from always fighting with each other - just a part of their nature. I have another older child who has lost their aggressive soccer attitude (and soccer focus) and it is kind of painful to watch now. |
Anonymous
| My 9 YO has struggled with this too--great skills but not aggressive on the field. I've talked with some parents/coaches about it, and the idea is just to keep having them play as much as they can, and hopefully as their skills advance and their confidence grows, so will their aggressiveness. And then I've heard that in some kids it clicks, but in others, it just doesn't. |
Anonymous
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I don't think you can teach aggression. Kids either have it or they don't.
I posted something identical on here about 2 years ago about my daughter. Since then something just clicked and she's become really aggressive on the field. It may be that she's been going through puberty this year (almost 13). Her whole style of play has changed and she just attacks the ball. |
Anonymous
| My DD gained tons of confidence from working one on one with a trainer after just a few sessions. She now holds possession much longer and tries different moves in games when she was not before. She has two brothers so she has to be aggressive....not sure how to teach that. |
Anonymous
| We're in exactly the same situation with our current U12 player. Has great skills, smart player, but isn't aggressive at all. I'm not sure it can be taught. He loves to play and so we're keeping him on the lower level teams for now and letting him play. Maybe it will change in the future, maybe not. I like the advice from a PP to just keep letting them play and maybe something will eventually click. |
Anonymous
think of any and all ways to get his confidence levels up, even if you dont think it is linked to confidence. one on one soccer training, some fitness classes, etc. mental boost can help with field performance |
Anonymous
| Is the sire passive? |