Boldest move I've ever heard of from a birthday party guest

[Anonymous]

Just heard a story of this happening to a friend:

She hosted a birthday party for her daughter, invited the entire class (per the rules), and another parent did a reply-all informing all the guests that they would be co-celebrating her kid's birthday at the same party.

The original host told the parents no gifts please, so everyone showed up to HER house, ate HER food, and only gave gifts to the OTHER birthday girl!

[Anonymous]

Yikes!!

[Anonymous]

If the host approved, then it’s fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just heard a story of this happening to a friend:

She hosted a birthday party for her daughter, invited the entire class (per the rules), and another parent did a reply-all informing all the guests that they would be co-celebrating her kid's birthday at the same party.

The original host told the parents no gifts please, so everyone showed up to HER house, ate HER food, and only gave gifts to the OTHER birthday girl!

This is why I put invitees on a BCC line.

[Anonymous]

WTH??

[Anonymous]

I don't believe this. Why on earth wouldn't your friend have followed up with a reply all that unfortunately they would not be able to celebrate the other kid's birthday at that time.

I would advise people to use BCC's for a myriad of reasons. Still can't buy this story as true, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just heard a story of this happening to a friend:

She hosted a birthday party for her daughter, invited the entire class (per the rules), and another parent did a reply-all informing all the guests that they would be co-celebrating her kid's birthday at the same party.

The original host told the parents no gifts please, so everyone showed up to HER house, ate HER food, and only gave gifts to the OTHER birthday girl!

If this is true, then your friend is an idiot. She should have immediately replied to the other woman with a big fat THAT AIN’T HAPPENING. Who lets people walk all over them like that?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe this. Why on earth wouldn't your friend have followed up with a reply all that unfortunately they would not be able to celebrate the other kid's birthday at that time.

I would advise people to use BCC's for a myriad of reasons. Still can't buy this story as true, though.

+1 Why would they give gifts to only the reply all girl and not the original host. This is an urban myth.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I highly doubt this actually happened, at least as described--everyone ignores "no gift" requests anyway, and would certainly never show up to a party with a gift for one birthday child and not the other.

I do know of several situations where a party for one child has morphed into a party for 2-3 children with the same birthdays, but always with some planning by parents, and usually because the first party was scheduled at the same time as or close to another planned party. If this really happened and there was truly no contact with the host about this, that's pretty egregious. But more likely, the other parent asked and the host felt bad giving a hard "no" ("oh, we'll be happy to wish Larla a happy birthday too but no, no need for you to co-host") and suddenly it was a multi-kid celebration. Lesson learned: just say no. (Or say yes, and be specific about how the second host will contribute to costs and logistics.)

[Anonymous]

+1 to this didn’t happen as advertised