I just realized the importance of my beauty for my daughters

[Anonymous]

I've been getting a little out of shape lately. I've been looking a bit frumpy and older lately. I need to turn it around.

I was just watching "Mad Men," and there's this sweet scene where Betty is talking about first kisses with little Sally. And Sally is just soaking in all these wise and beautiful thoughts on love and womanhood from her beautiful mother. I teared up because I need to be a beautiful mom to my daughters. I need to be a pretty mom they can be proud of and who can teach them about love.

I'm just disappointed in myself for letting go of things I honestly think I could have held on to. Parts of my femininity that I just...let go of. I don't feel like myself.

[Anonymous]

um, I think you need to rewatch mad men because you missed the point ...

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't compare yourself to a fictional character.

Are you married? Do you have a loving relationship with your dh? Our children learn from our example.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, I'm just a little emotional. My mom has always been overweight; always. I can remember a lot about her dieting and self-loathing when I was a kid. And here I am, on the cusp of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:um, I think you need to rewatch mad men because you missed the point ...

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, I'm just a little emotional. My mom has always been overweight; always. I can remember a lot about her dieting and self-loathing when I was a kid. And here I am, on the cusp of it.

It seems like what you are trying to say is that you want to teach your children to take pride in their appearance, but not to be vain or superficial. And maybe you "gave up" but the good news is you can do something different. Work on being healthier, exercising, eating better, and go get a haircut and a facial for a little pampering and improvement, and it's spring time, go through your closet and see what fits, what needs to be passed along, what can go to a tailor and be rejuvenated -- kon mari!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:um, I think you need to rewatch mad men because you missed the point ...

+1

Seriously! OP seems to have missed the entire point of Mad Men! Does OP also think she needs to drink and smoke because the beautiful mad men people were doing it too?

[Anonymous]

Kids don’t need a “pretty mom.” What a pathetic notion.

[Anonymous]

This may be one of the most f’ed up things I’ve read on dcum. And I’ve been here awhile, so that’s seriously saying something.

And frankly, having lost my mother when I was just a teenager, holy cow, f%^% you op, if you think that’s what your value is to your daughter. F%^}, f^#%^, f%^^}. You suck, and you need some major introspection on what it means to be a person. Get some therapy, or religion, or philosophy, or whatever, because you are really, really lost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This may be one of the most f’ed up things I’ve read on dcum. And I’ve been here awhile, so that’s seriously saying something.

And frankly, having lost my mother when I was just a teenager, holy cow, f%^% you op, if you think that’s what your value is to your daughter. F%^}, f^#%^, f%^^}. You suck, and you need some major introspection on what it means to be a person. Get some therapy, or religion, or philosophy, or whatever, because you are really, really lost.

Or it’s a troll. Sounds really weird.

[Anonymous]

Welp, you’re about to f*ck up your daughters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This may be one of the most f’ed up things I’ve read on dcum. And I’ve been here awhile, so that’s seriously saying something.

And frankly, having lost my mother when I was just a teenager, holy cow, f%^% you op, if you think that’s what your value is to your daughter. F%^}, f^#%^, f%^^}. You suck, and you need some major introspection on what it means to be a person. Get some therapy, or religion, or philosophy, or whatever, because you are really, really lost.

Or it’s a troll. Sounds really weird.

I hope it is. I’ve never gotten so angry reading a post. F&@@$ that sh$@&. Damn, I wish Jeff would let us curse!

[Anonymous]

No, OP, I think the dissatisfaction comes from watching too much TV instead of doing something more meaningful. (Or social media, or whatever.)

Please decide what a life well-lived looks like to you and work backwards from there. If you are happy and busy, you will dwell less on this kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure that scene didn't mean what you think it means...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This may be one of the most f’ed up things I’ve read on dcum. And I’ve been here awhile, so that’s seriously saying something.

And frankly, having lost my mother when I was just a teenager, holy cow, f%^% you op, if you think that’s what your value is to your daughter. F%^}, f^#%^, f%^^}. You suck, and you need some major introspection on what it means to be a person. Get some therapy, or religion, or philosophy, or whatever, because you are really, really lost.

Wow...maybe get some help with that anger toward a total stranger.

OP sounds vulnerable at the moment and clearly has some childhood issues with food, weight, "being beautiful," etc. Maybe instead of going after someone who is clearly still processing some very understandable and common childhood food noise, just either don't say anything, or find a way to say something productive?