Dealing with other parents at school

[Anonymous]

Most of the other parents are fine, but there are a few who are flat out crazy. One approached my 4 year old son on the playground because his son told him that my son colored on his clothes. He was drilling my son about it and when he found out it was another kid, went to speak to that kid.

Another parent yelled at me because he thought my son opened a door too close to his new car. Mind you, we didn’t even touch his car. And the parking spaces are close together because it is a small lot. Who does that? I mean, you have to see other families every day at pick up and drop off and school events. How awkward.

In any case I just get really turned off by such behavior. No, you do not have to like my kid. But just be civil. We are parents at the same school and our kids are so young, would it kill you to act like an adult in front of them? How do you keep other parents like this from getting under your skin?

[Anonymous]

what school is this? I have never heard of such behavior

[Anonymous]

“If there is a question or an issue you have with my 4 year old, please speak directly to me.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“If there is a question or an issue you have with my 4 year old, please speak directly to me.”

I wouldn't do this. Don't ramp up the crazy. These parents are going to learn the hard way that this is no way to do business.

[Anonymous]

I’m guessing you go to an expensive preschool? For various reasons, my kids have attended 3 different preschools over the year and I have never once dealt with this type of parental attitude. We never went to the super expensive schools, I believe parents are more down to earth when they aren’t spendidng 40k/year on their toddler’s education.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing you go to an expensive preschool? For various reasons, my kids have attended 3 different preschools over the year and I have never once dealt with this type of parental attitude. We never went to the super expensive schools, I believe parents are more down to earth when they aren’t spendidng 40k/year on their toddler’s education.

My kids went to an expensive preschool and we never witnessed anything like this.

[Anonymous]

People are crazy, Op. I hear you.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't let a 4-year old open a car door himself, if there is another car within hitting distance. That's irresponsible, and you know there's a chance in 5 your kid would hit the other car, and 10 chances in 10 that your 4 year old will hit at least a car or two if you always let him open his own car door in tight parking spots.

But I can tell from the state of my car sides that people in DC DGAF about damaging other people's cars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't let a 4-year old open a car door himself, if there is another car within hitting distance. That's irresponsible, and you know there's a chance in 5 your kid would hit the other car, and 10 chances in 10 that your 4 year old will hit at least a car or two if you always let him open his own car door in tight parking spots.

But I can tell from the state of my car sides that people in DC DGAF about damaging other people's cars.

You’re a psycho.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't let a 4-year old open a car door himself, if there is another car within hitting distance. That's irresponsible, and you know there's a chance in 5 your kid would hit the other car, and 10 chances in 10 that your 4 year old will hit at least a car or two if you always let him open his own car door in tight parking spots.

But I can tell from the state of my car sides that people in DC DGAF about damaging other people's cars.

You’re a psycho.

I love it when someone complains "parents be crazy" then a parent posts something crazy.

[Anonymous]

I try to assume the best about people but those incidents sound over the top. I don’t think it’s wrong to address rude behavior in other kids though like they cannot be addressed. If you see someone hurting someone else it isn’t wrong to say “hey keep your hands to yourself” I wouldn’t mind that from another parent towards my kids. Even saying please don’t write on Larla’s jacket is ok if you are watching it happen but questioning kids and seeking out the culprit is CRAZY and you can assume they may have some mental problems. The school needs to address that parent launching the playground investigation over writing on clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't let a 4-year old open a car door himself, if there is another car within hitting distance. That's irresponsible, and you know there's a chance in 5 your kid would hit the other car, and 10 chances in 10 that your 4 year old will hit at least a car or two if you always let him open his own car door in tight parking spots.

But I can tell from the state of my car sides that people in DC DGAF about damaging other people's cars.

Nope, because in DC most people do not have their entire identities tied up in their cars. No, I really really do not care if someone's car (or my own car) gets a small (or large) scratch on it from a kid opening a door into it in a parking lot. I really do not understand why people think that small dings and dents on cars are such a big deal. Everything else that we wear or use gets worn out through daily use- shoes, clothing, etc. If some kid spills paint on my shirt by accident I am not going to yell at him. So if you really think that it is such a big deal for a kid to open a car door into your door then call the F down and realize that you are mad at a child over a piece of property that is depreciating every day no matter what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't let a 4-year old open a car door himself, if there is another car within hitting distance. That's irresponsible, and you know there's a chance in 5 your kid would hit the other car, and 10 chances in 10 that your 4 year old will hit at least a car or two if you always let him open his own car door in tight parking spots.

But I can tell from the state of my car sides that people in DC DGAF about damaging other people's cars.

Nope, because in DC most people do not have their entire identities tied up in their cars. No, I really really do not care if someone's car (or my own car) gets a small (or large) scratch on it from a kid opening a door into it in a parking lot. I really do not understand why people think that small dings and dents on cars are such a big deal. Everything else that we wear or use gets worn out through daily use- shoes, clothing, etc. If some kid spills paint on my shirt by accident I am not going to yell at him. So if you really think that it is such a big deal for a kid to open a car door into your door then call the F down and realize that you are mad at a child over a piece of property that is depreciating every day no matter what.

What kind of car do you drive, PP? My identity is in no way tied to my car but it wasn't cheap and I love it, so I do get annoyed (mildly, it's not like I cry) when my car gets dents in it.

[Anonymous]

That’s because you have part of your ego tied to your car.

[Anonymous]

That's crazy. Unless you mistook some parents' neutral comments for harassment.