No kids weddings rant

[Anonymous]

I wish people would get over themselves and invite kids to their weddings. The past 2 weddings we’ve been invited to are kid-free, both family - DH’s cousin and sister. We have to travel for both of them. We decided to just send DH to his cousin’s, and we will suck it up for his sister’s and have my parents watch our 9, 6 & 3 year old. I know “it’s their wedding they can do whatever they want” but I don’t get it - no ring bearer or flower girls, no cute kids on the dance floor. Weddings are supposed to be about family coming together. Okay. Rant over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish people would get over themselves and invite kids to their weddings. The past 2 weddings we’ve been invited to are kid-free, both family - DH’s cousin and sister. We have to travel for both of them. We decided to just send DH to his cousin’s, and we will suck it up for his sister’s and have my parents watch our 9, 6 & 3 year old. I know “it’s their wedding they can do whatever they want” but I don’t get it - no ring bearer or flower girls, no cute kids on the dance floor. Weddings are supposed to be about family coming together. Okay. Rant over.

I will never understand posters who just cannot accept that people think differently than they do. The only one that needs to get over themselves here is you.

[Anonymous]

I wish people would stop trying to drag kids to every wedding. None of what you mentioned is cute, to me.

[Anonymous]

Nah. It’s their decision.

It’s only annoying when they criticize you for attending solo (having kids DOES mean someone has to watch them — and when it’s a far away event, that person is usually the spouse, home with the kids).

[Anonymous]

I’m over it. People can do what they want and I can go or not go, and I am not going to feel bad if kids weren’t invited and I can’t go.

I will say one side of my family didn’t invite kids historically, but then I invited kids to my wedding and they thought it was so nice that now they have started to invite kids.

[Anonymous]

A lot of people will agree with you, but a lot of people here won’t. When I was a kid, kids were invited to all the weddings my family was invited to. I’m not sure when this changed.

Weddings are in large part a celebration of the idea of family. Circle of life and all that conveys.

[Anonymous]

I think it is pretty weird, too, but people can do what they want. Don’t feel bad RSVPing no. They invite. You get to choose if you attend.

[Anonymous]

Opinions are like a$$holes: Everyone has one, including OP.

[Anonymous]

I’m guessing the cousin and sister should also consult you when they are naming their children since you seem to know what is right for everyone.

[Anonymous]

OP - who is dragging kids to the wedding. As stated, we are complying. It is just really inconvenient.

[Anonymous]

My wedding was black tie. It was in the late evening to late at night. It wasn’t a kid event.

We helped our friends with kids get babysitters at the hotel.

Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

I'm with you--I think a sibling asking you to travel to the sibling's wedding but not inviting the kids is tough, especially if you don't have anyone you can leave the kids with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - who is dragging kids to the wedding. As stated, we are complying. It is just really inconvenient.

Life is inconvenient. I’m guessing these people showed up to your wedding? Suck it up and pay it forward.

[Anonymous]

I wish parents would stop trying to make it acceptable to bring children everywhere. There are plenty of events where it's inappropriate to bring children. Some people choose their wedding to be one of them. Don't like it, don't go. It's pretty simple.

[Anonymous]

I used to be firmly in the “no kids at weddings camp”. But then yesterday I took my two kids to a wedding where there were also lots of other kids and it was so cute and fun.

If I could do my wedding over again, I’d include all the kids. There was so much more warmth and laughter with the kids.