Gender stereotypes

[Anonymous]

A fellow preschool mom was telling me that she loves that her boys are into princesses and my little pony, she even bought one of her sons Elsa shoes. She admitted that she would be sad if her daughter(infant) gets into princesses. I have a boy and a girl and I just cannot wrap my head around this. Why is it great when a 4yr old boy wants to be a princess but not okay for a 4yr old little girl.

[Anonymous]

It's crazy. Really crazy.

Some people should not have kids.

[Anonymous]

People are very messed up about gendered things these days. I very much miss the "free to be you and me" mantra of the 70's.

[Anonymous]

I agree, OP. IF she really believed in smashing stereotypes, she’s realize that it’s healthy for both genders to have the same interests, be it princesses or trains, as all things can be fun for everyone.

I think the message had been lost a little bit, as it’s genrwlly been okay for girls to be “tomboys”, but not okay for boys to be... oh wait... there’s no positive word for boys who like traditionally “girly” things,although there are plenty of negative words. And FWIW, tomboy isn’t always a positive, but it’s usually more positive than whatever the descriptor of a princess loving boy is.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s weird, wrong and shows insecurity and lower education. I have no respect for parents that are like that. Just let your kids be whomever they want to be. DD1 was/is very much into processes, pink, jewelry, Elsa, etc. DD2 liked dinosaurs and blue and yellow. Nothing wrong with either one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's crazy. Really crazy.

Some people should not have kids.

Now that's a bit harsh, don't you think?

[Anonymous]

I get why she's proud. It's nice to see your kids feel free to chose what interests them, especially when it goes against gendered stereotypes. But I agree that she needs to remember that her DD needs to chose her own path too.

I worry that I'm socially gendering my DD already, even though she's just a few months old. I've always generally disliked pink as a color but I keep gravitating towards pink outfits for her to wear. Why?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's crazy. Really crazy.

Some people should not have kids.

+1. She's a fruitcake, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get why she's proud. It's nice to see your kids feel free to chose what interests them, especially when it goes against gendered stereotypes. But I agree that she needs to remember that her DD needs to chose her own path too.

I worry that I'm socially gendering my DD already, even though she's just a few months old. I've always generally disliked pink as a color but I keep gravitating towards pink outfits for her to wear. Why?!

Because she's a baby girl, and that's what baby girls wear. It's not about you, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get why she's proud. It's nice to see your kids feel free to chose what interests them, especially when it goes against gendered stereotypes. But I agree that she needs to remember that her DD needs to chose her own path too.

I worry that I'm socially gendering my DD already, even though she's just a few months old. I've always generally disliked pink as a color but I keep gravitating towards pink outfits for her to wear. Why?!

Because she's a baby girl, and that's what baby girls wear. It's not about you, PP.

Stop trolling

[Anonymous]

I wish we could just let kids be kids, instead of using them to make sure others know our political stances. If my daughter loves frozen, great! if my son loves frozen, great!

[Anonymous]

Because society pushes princesses on girls and not boys so the mother thinks of a boy who likes princesses as a free thinker and the girl who likes them as a conformist. This really doesn’t seem odd to me. It is just a more commercialized version of I’m particularly proud of my assertive, brave girl and my empathetic, kind boy because it goes against the grain of gender stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

I think there are studies that girls who are into princesses are more likely to succumb to certain social challenges / pressures (I forget which) and boys are more likely to be more gentle than the average boy, so there’s perhaps an argument in favor of supporting boys playing with princesss more than girls. My elementary schooler (girl) loved princesses but now has diverse interests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish we could just let kids be kids, instead of using them to make sure others know our political stances. If my daughter loves frozen, great! if my son loves frozen, great!

Please. Before you ladies go patting yourselves on the back, go to Target and get your 4 year old boy a romper or two. Put it in the clothing rotation. Not- “haha how funny my boy wore an Elsa dress and I’m so progressive that I let him.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there are studies that girls who are into princesses are more likely to succumb to certain social challenges / pressures (I forget which) and boys are more likely to be more gentle than the average boy, so there’s perhaps an argument in favor of supporting boys playing with princesss more than girls. My elementary schooler (girl) loved princesses but now has diverse interests.

Sounds like a crock of doodoo.

Probably one of those internet "studies" that are basically self reporting surveys.