If you grew up poor

[Anonymous]

LMC or lower, what do you do now? How much do you make? Are you happy?

[Anonymous]

I married up. My sister got custody of my at 13 and got a 3rd job to get me braces. She spent any extra money she had on making me look presentable. She sent me to a Catholic highschool my jr/senior year etc etc all with hopes of me marrying into a better family. I finished collage after i got married and got my masters when my youngest went to pre k. Ive never worked more than part time admin stuff but I feel happy and secure knowing if I had to I could work more and make more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married up. My sister got custody of my at 13 and got a 3rd job to get me braces. She spent any extra money she had on making me look presentable. She sent me to a Catholic highschool my jr/senior year etc etc all with hopes of me marrying into a better family. I finished collage after i got married and got my masters when my youngest went to pre k. Ive never worked more than part time admin stuff but I feel happy and secure knowing if I had to I could work more and make more.

Wow, what a good soul your sister is. I hope you are still close to her and treat her to things she otherwise wouldn't have.

[Anonymous]

Your sister sounds like a remarkable woman. Tell us about her. How have you tried to repay or honor her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married up. My sister got custody of my at 13 and got a 3rd job to get me braces. She spent any extra money she had on making me look presentable. She sent me to a Catholic highschool my jr/senior year etc etc all with hopes of me marrying into a better family. I finished collage after i got married and got my masters when my youngest went to pre k. Ive never worked more than part time admin stuff but I feel happy and secure knowing if I had to I could work more and make more.

NP. Wow! How have you repaid your sister for everything she did for you?

[Anonymous]

I’m a SAH and my husband is a lobbyist. He makes a lot of money, even for this area. It is definitely weird to go from poor to upper middle class. The best part is giving my kids a childhood of stability and free from worry, abuse, tension, and scarcity.

[Anonymous]

Grew up poor. Current HHI is close to $400k if you count deferred compensation. I still constantly worry about money.

[Anonymous]

We grew up LMC, both with dads unable to hold jobs and a workaholic mother who earned money and raised kids while the dad was checked out (depressio, alcoholism, etc).

We both work and I make more than DH, GS15 & GS14 (his agency has flatter compensation where stopping st GS14 makes way more sense). He is very involved as a dad, and we split activites and pickup and drop up, and chores.

We have a nice life, with enough money (not quite enough for around here if we want good commutes) but I am anxious about going to single breadwinner after seeing our dads careers crater suddenly. And he doesn’t want to be a SAHD b/c he feels it will be very isolating.

[Anonymous]

Poor immigrant here. Free lunch in a rural county in the south until college, which was partially subsidized by the PELL grant. GS-15 now (150k). DH just got a raise to $200k/year. Including our rental income, our HHI is close to $400k, but I still have a lot of anxiety about money. DH grew up solidly middle class and is probably expecting an inheritance, so we have different perspectives about spending, which is a challenge in our marriage.

I’m working on learning to bring thankful for everything I have, while still striving for more. I’m unhappy in my current job/career path, but I know I am very lucky to be where I am.

[Anonymous]

Grew up poor. This year may hit HHI 400k. I worry a lot about money and really do not feel comfortable to splurge on luxury.

[Anonymous]

We grew up semi poor with 6 kids. Only vacations we ever had were camping because my parents never had extra money for real ones. Family cars would always be used ones. Although my parents never had money for nice things, we never did without. Unfortunately there was no money to send us to college.

Fast forward to now and my 5 siblings are in the same situation as my parents. I on the other hand have a great higher paying government job along with plenty of money in the bank and no financial issues. Makes for awkward times when I’m around my family. And no, I never mention finances in front of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LMC or lower, what do you do now? How much do you make? Are you happy?

Not sure what we were. My parents were very well educated, but have terrible mental illness. We had food insecurity and housing was not stable. Father ended up eventually homeless. Mother can't hold down a job but luckily has held down a man.

I only have 2 years in college and just did my taxes. Made 282k in 2018. I'm very happy, but this has nothing to do with money. I have a husband I love and two truly wonderful kids. Our lives are comfortable and full of a lot of love and closeness. My biggest worry is the thought of passing down mentally ill genes to my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LMC or lower, what do you do now? How much do you make? Are you happy?

Not sure what we were. My parents were very well educated, but have terrible mental illness. We had food insecurity and housing was not stable. Father ended up eventually homeless. Mother can't hold down a job but luckily has held down a man.

I only have 2 years in college and just did my taxes. Made 282k in 2018. I'm very happy, but this has nothing to do with money. I have a husband I love and two truly wonderful kids. Our lives are comfortable and full of a lot of love and closeness. My biggest worry is the thought of passing down mentally ill genes to my kids.

To reiterate. I made 282k. That is not our HHI. DH works as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LMC or lower, what do you do now? How much do you make? Are you happy?

Not sure what we were. My parents were very well educated, but have terrible mental illness. We had food insecurity and housing was not stable. Father ended up eventually homeless. Mother can't hold down a job but luckily has held down a man.

I only have 2 years in college and just did my taxes. Made 282k in 2018. I'm very happy, but this has nothing to do with money. I have a husband I love and two truly wonderful kids. Our lives are comfortable and full of a lot of love and closeness. My biggest worry is the thought of passing down mentally ill genes to my kids.

Are you in sales?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LMC or lower, what do you do now? How much do you make? Are you happy?

Not sure what we were. My parents were very well educated, but have terrible mental illness. We had food insecurity and housing was not stable. Father ended up eventually homeless. Mother can't hold down a job but luckily has held down a man.

I only have 2 years in college and just did my taxes. Made 282k in 2018. I'm very happy, but this has nothing to do with money. I have a husband I love and two truly wonderful kids. Our lives are comfortable and full of a lot of love and closeness. My biggest worry is the thought of passing down mentally ill genes to my kids.

Are you in sales?

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