What’s the worst thing your in laws have done to you?

[Anonymous]

And do you have a relationship with them?

[Anonymous]

My best friend died by suicide and they refused to acknowledge the death or my grief. No relationship with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend died by suicide and they refused to acknowledge the death or my grief. No relationship with them.

Did they drive your best friend to suicide?

[Anonymous]

Said they weren’t coming to the wedding if I didn’t sign a prenup.
Strained relationship even 20 years later. We see each other 3 times a year and we live an hour apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend died by suicide and they refused to acknowledge the death or my grief. No relationship with them.

What did you want them to do? My IL’s barely know my friends.

[Anonymous]

My former in-laws here, but...

XH’s father called me names, spread a rumor I was pregnant with another man’s child, and encouraged his son to neglect and verbally abuse me while I was on bed rest in my second pregnancy.

His mother said she was horrified by this, but she didn’t intervene and later lied in an affidavit about what she had seen.

I have since learned that she herself was abused by XH’s father. I am cordial with her when we meet, but I do not speak to her husband.

XH’s second wife testified during their divorce that his father taunted her about what he’d done to me and gotten away with. This man is a prominent local doctor. He feels Teflon.

[Anonymous]

Nothing, they are wonderful. I would even say my MIL is a saint. I'm as close with her as I am my mom. It's so sad to hear of all these people on here having problems with their in laws.

[Anonymous]

Living.

[Anonymous]

Spent retirement savings on fancy cars and supporting other families over seas. Because of this, they plan to stay with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My best friend died by suicide and they refused to acknowledge the death or my grief. No relationship with them.

What did you want them to do? My IL’s barely know my friends.

Act like human beings with hearts and say to me on the phone “We know you’re hurting and we’re so sorry.” Is that too much to ask? And yes, they knew my friend. They had all spent time together on various occasions over the years.

Instead they said nothing and gave me a hard time about not being engaged enough in the stuff they wanted me to do.

[Anonymous]

Blackmail

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My best friend died by suicide and they refused to acknowledge the death or my grief. No relationship with them.

Did they drive your best friend to suicide?

No, nothing like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My best friend died by suicide and they refused to acknowledge the death or my grief. No relationship with them.

What did you want them to do? My IL’s barely know my friends.

Act like human beings with hearts and say to me on the phone “We know you’re hurting and we’re so sorry.” Is that too much to ask? And yes, they knew my friend. They had all spent time together on various occasions over the years.

Instead they said nothing and gave me a hard time about not being engaged enough in the stuff they wanted me to do.

People get awkward about death. Speak about it, don’t speak about it, give space, don’t, it’s too much to deal with.... damned if you do, damned if you don’t. You need to let it go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My best friend died by suicide and they refused to acknowledge the death or my grief. No relationship with them.

What did you want them to do? My IL’s barely know my friends.

Act like human beings with hearts and say to me on the phone “We know you’re hurting and we’re so sorry.” Is that too much to ask? And yes, they knew my friend. They had all spent time together on various occasions over the years.

Instead they said nothing and gave me a hard time about not being engaged enough in the stuff they wanted me to do.

I think you are being way to harsh. People don’t know what to say in these situations. You have no relationship with them because of this? You sound unwell.

[Anonymous]

When I announced my first pregnancy at 35, my mil laughed and said, "aren't you...you know.....OLD?". I still love her very much.