Ma’am
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Anonymous
| It is sort of exasperating when a person who knows you calls you “ma’am”. Does it happen to you frequently? |
Anonymous
| Why is it exasperating? |
Anonymous
| I couldn't care less. |
Anonymous
Because it tells they don’t do the minimal effort to call you by your name. It shows disrespect. |
Anonymous
| I hate 'ma'am. Nothing makes me feel older. I don't need you to know my name, though. |
Anonymous
This is the first time I've ever heard that "ma'am" shows disrespect. |
Anonymous
Lots of DCUM threads on this. It's like nails on a chalkboard to many who aren't southern or military. |
Anonymous
It’s not the first time I have heard it: https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2018/08/27/boy-punished-calling-teacher-maam-north-carolina-report-says/1108472002/ |
Anonymous
| I really dislike it, but I know for some friends it's a cultural habit and I try to be accepting. |
Anonymous
Being respectful is "nails on a chalkboard" to some women, huh? Good to know. 
What would you prefer to be called instead? |
Anonymous
| Somewhere in the last 5-10 years, I crossed over the Miss to Ma'am line. I find Ma'am to sound so old. But not disrespectful. |
Anonymous
I'm sure those who call you "ma'am" don't really mean it either, but they're at least trying to make you feel better about being who you are. You know, to help you accept it. |
Anonymous
That's silly, PP. There are many examples of things that are respectful in some cultures but rude or annoying in others. Probably you can think of some, too. |
Anonymous
| Welcome to middle age, or at least you look that old to the other person. |
Anonymous
That's terrible. And weird. Terrible and weird. |